{"id":1489,"date":"2017-01-06T16:39:39","date_gmt":"2017-01-06T16:39:39","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/SHKIWP\/index.php\/2017\/01\/06\/150-menyra-se-si-te-sillesh-ndaj-nenes-1\/"},"modified":"2017-01-06T16:39:39","modified_gmt":"2017-01-06T16:39:39","slug":"150-menyra-se-si-te-sillesh-ndaj-nenes-1","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/?p=1489","title":{"rendered":"150 M\u00cbNYRA SE SI T\u00cb SILLESH NDAJ N\u00cbN\u00cbS (1)"},"content":{"rendered":"

Fal\u00ebnderimi i p\u00ebrket vet\u00ebm Allahut, Zotit t\u00eb bot\u00ebve. Paqja dhe shp\u00ebtimi i Tij qofshin mbi m\u00eb t\u00eb zgjedhurin e Pejgamber\u00ebve, t\u00eb D\u00ebrguarin ton\u00eb Muhamed, mbi familjen dhe shok\u00ebt e tij n\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi. Allahu i Lart\u00ebsuar t\u00eb drejt\u00ebn dhe detyrimet ndaj Tij si dhe ndaj prind\u00ebrve e ka cituar n\u00eb Kuran s\u00eb bashku n\u00eb shum\u00eb vende, si\u00e7 \u00ebsht\u00eb verseti:{ Zoti yt ka urdh\u00ebruar, q\u00eb t\u00eb mos adhuroni ask\u00ebnd tjet\u00ebr p\u00ebrve\u00e7 Atij dhe, q\u00eb t\u00eb silleni mir\u00eb me prind\u00ebrit. N\u00ebse nj\u00ebri prej tyre ose t\u00eb dy arrijn\u00eb pleq\u00ebrin\u00eb te ti, mos u thuaj atyre as \u201cuh!\u201d, mos i kund\u00ebrshto, por drejtoju atyre me fjal\u00eb respekti. L\u00ebsho para tyre krah\u00ebt e p\u00ebruljes prej m\u00ebshir\u00ebs dhe thuaj: \u201cO Zoti im, m\u00ebshiroji ata, ashtu si\u00e7 m\u00eb kan\u00eb rritur, kur un\u00eb isha i vog\u00ebl!} .<\/span><\/p>\n

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Gjithashtu b\u00ebri q\u00eb sjellja e mir\u00eb ndaj tyre t\u00eb jet\u00eb shkak p\u00ebr t\u2019u futur n\u00eb Xhenet, si\u00e7 m\u00ebsojm\u00eb nga hadithi i Resulullahit, sal-lAllahu alejhi ue selem:\u201d \u00cbsht\u00eb I humbur, \u00ebsht\u00eb I humbur, \u00ebsht\u00eb I humbur\u201d, dikush tha: cili o I D\u00ebrguar I Allahut? U p\u00ebrgjigj:\u201d Personi q\u00eb ka arritur prind\u00ebrit n\u00eb pleq\u00ebri apo nj\u00ebrin prej tyre, pastaj nuk mund t\u00eb hyj\u00eb n\u00eb Xhenet ( pasi nuk sillej mir\u00eb ndaj tyre)\u201d .<\/p>\n

Argumentet nga Kurani dhe Suneti jan\u00eb t\u00eb shumta q\u00eb aludojn\u00eb p\u00ebr vler\u00ebn dhe pozit\u00ebn e lart\u00eb t\u00eb dy prind\u00ebrve n\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi, megjithat\u00eb \u00e7\u00ebshtja e n\u00ebn\u00ebs dhe e drejta e saj \u00ebsht\u00eb pak sa m\u00eb e dalluar, ngase p\u00ebr t\u00eb jan\u00eb transmetuar citate profetike t\u00eb ve\u00e7anta, q\u00eb v\u00ebrtetojn\u00eb vler\u00ebn e madhe dhe detyrimet ndaj saj, ngase ajo njihet p\u00ebr vuajtjet e shtatz\u00ebnis\u00eb dhe lindjes, pastaj p\u00ebr v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsit\u00eb e rritjes dhe edukimit t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve, andaj ajo \u00ebsht\u00eb q\u00eb m\u00eb s\u00eb shumti nga njer\u00ebzit e meriton t\u00eb shoq\u00ebrohet n\u00eb mir\u00ebsi. P\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb ishte pyetur Pejgamberi, sal-lAllahu alejhi ue selem: O D\u00ebrguar I Allahut cil\u00ebt nga njer\u00ebzit e meriton m\u00eb s\u00eb shumti t\u00eb sillem mir\u00eb ndaj tij? Kurse ai u p\u00ebrgjigj:\u201d N\u00ebna yte\u201d, personi tha: pastaj cili? Kurse Pejgamberi,sal-lAllahu alejhi ue selem ia kthehu:\u201dN\u00ebna yte\u201d, personi pyeti: pastaj cili? Pejgamberi, sal-lAllahu alejhi ue selem p\u00ebrs\u00ebri ia kthehu: \u201cN\u00ebna yte\u201d, personi: pastaj cili? Dhe Pejgamberi sal-lAllahu alejhi ue selem tha:\u201d Babai yt\u201d .<\/p>\n

M\u00eb posht\u00eb ju paraqesim 150 m\u00ebnyra praktike rreth sjelljes ndaj n\u00ebn\u00ebs n\u00eb raste dhe situata t\u00eb ndryshme. Ato jan\u00eb metod\u00eb konkrete n\u00eb mir\u00ebsin\u00eb ndaj n\u00ebn\u00ebs, q\u00eb u mund\u00ebsojn\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve ta arrijn\u00eb lumturin\u00eb e n\u00ebn\u00ebs ndaj tyre, me Vullnetin e Zotit, pasi q\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt shpesh her\u00eb jan\u00eb viktim\u00eb e shoq\u00ebris\u00eb ku jetojn\u00eb, edhe pse ndoshta I njohin argumentet fetare p\u00ebrmend\u00ebsh, u mungojn\u00eb atyre metodat praktike p\u00ebr zbatimin e tyre n\u00eb jet\u00ebn e p\u00ebrditshme. Q\u00ebllimisht nuk e kam b\u00ebr\u00eb renditjen e tyre sipas tematikave, q\u00eb lexuesi p\u00ebr disa \u00e7aste t\u00eb p\u00ebrjetoi forma t\u00eb ndryshme t\u00eb mir\u00ebsis\u00eb ndaj n\u00ebn\u00ebs dhe t\u00eb zgjedh\u00eb p\u00ebr veten e tij ato q\u00eb iu p\u00ebrshtaten gjendjes s\u00eb tij, dhe p\u00ebr arsye q\u00eb mos t\u00eb p\u00ebrqendrohet vet\u00ebm n\u00eb nj\u00eb form\u00eb dhe t\u00eb anashkaloj\u00eb format tjera t\u00eb bamir\u00ebsis\u00eb. K\u00ebto m\u00ebnyra mund t\u00eb zbatohen pa dallim nga djali apo vajza, vet\u00ebm disa pika t\u00eb caktuara kur mund t\u00eb zbatohen vet\u00ebm nga vajzat. Lus Allahun t\u00eb na ndihmoj n\u00eb mir\u00ebsin\u00eb ndaj prind\u00ebrve tan\u00eb, t\u00eb na stolis\u00eb me m\u00ebshir\u00eb dhe but\u00ebsi ndaj tyre, t\u00eb na bashkoj\u00eb me ta n\u00eb xhenetin Firdevs, dhe q\u00eb Ai t\u00eb jet\u00eb i K\u00ebnaqur ndaj nesh.<\/p>\n

N\u00eb fillim Kam medituar raste t\u00eb shumta t\u00eb atyre q\u00eb ishin t\u00eb suksessh\u00ebm n\u00eb mir\u00ebsin\u00eb ndaj prind\u00ebrve t\u00eb tyre, dhe kam kuptuar se praktika e tyre ishte e thjesht\u00eb, lodhja p\u00ebr t\u2019i k\u00ebnaqur prind\u00ebrit ishte shum\u00eb modeste, si dhe n\u00eb brend\u00ebsin\u00eb e tyre mbret\u00ebronte hareja dhe lumturia. Ata nuk kryenin ndonj\u00eb vep\u00ebr t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00eb p\u00ebr realizimin e q\u00ebllimit t\u00eb tyre, arsye kryesore q\u00eb i b\u00ebri ata t\u00eb suksessh\u00ebm ishte se \u00e7doher\u00eb posedonin zemra t\u00eb zgjuara, fytyra t\u00eb buz\u00ebqeshura dhe sinqeritet, q\u00eb i ushqente ata n\u00eb \u00e7do situat\u00eb. T\u00eb nderuar v\u00ebllez\u00ebr dhe motra, n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb shkres\u00eb modeste kam regjistruar p\u00ebrvojat e njer\u00ebzve q\u00eb ishin t\u00eb mir\u00eb ndaj n\u00ebnave t\u00eb tyre, andaj po ju paraqesim n\u00ebse dikush d\u00ebshiron t\u2019i ndjek gjurm\u00ebt e tyre, zbaton metodat e tyre, ec hapave t\u00eb tyre, n\u00ebse v\u00ebrtet\u00eb n\u00eb to m\u00ebsoni gj\u00ebra q\u00eb meritojn\u00eb t\u00eb zbatohen, at\u00ebher\u00eb nxitoni, nxitoni, e n\u00ebse nga to nuk m\u00ebsoni asgj\u00eb at\u00ebher\u00eb mos e harroni v\u00ebllan\u00eb tuaj nga lutjet e juaja.<\/p>\n

1- Zgjidh dhurat\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrshtatshme p\u00ebr \u00e7do rast, dhuroja asaj n\u00eb shenj\u00eb mir\u00ebnjohje dhe g\u00ebzohu kur e pranon at\u00eb. Raste t\u00eb p\u00ebrshtatshme jan\u00eb: festa e Bajramit, martesa e ndonj\u00eb nga djemt\u00eb e saj, suksesi i ndonj\u00eb biri\/bije t\u00eb saj, kur ktheheni nga udh\u00ebtimi, kur hyn\u00eb stina e dimrit apo e ver\u00ebs, kur n\u00ebna sh\u00ebrohet nga ndonj\u00eb s\u00ebmundje etj.<\/p>\n

2- Hapja e nj\u00eb llogarie t\u00eb posa\u00e7me p\u00ebr n\u00ebn\u00ebn, ku an\u00ebtar\u00ebsohen djemt\u00eb e saj me participimet e tyre mujore, q\u00eb t\u2019u mbulohen nevojat dhe k\u00ebrkesat e n\u00ebn\u00ebs, pa u detyruar ajo t\u00eb k\u00ebrkoj nga dikush nj\u00eb gj\u00eb t\u00eb till\u00eb. Kjo preferohet edhe n\u00ebse n\u00ebna \u00ebsht\u00eb vet pun\u00ebtore dhe posedon rrog\u00eb, sepse ajo d\u00ebshiron t\u00eb shoh sjellje t\u00eb mir\u00eb nga f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e saj edhe kur ajo nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb nevojtare p\u00ebr ta.<\/p>\n

3- Duhet q\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt ta kuptojn\u00eb ndryshimin e fazave n\u00ebp\u00ebr t\u00eb cilat kalon n\u00ebna e tyre gjat\u00eb jet\u00ebs, k\u00ebshtu q\u00eb t\u00eb sillen ndaj n\u00ebn\u00ebs n\u00eb p\u00ebrputhshm\u00ebri me faz\u00ebn n\u00eb t\u00eb cil\u00ebn gjendet ajo.<\/p>\n

4- Kujdes n\u00eb fjalimin t\u00ebnd, zgjedh fjal\u00ebt t\u00eb cilat do t\u00eb trokasin d\u00ebgjimin e saj, mos lejo t\u00eb nxjerr\u00ebsh asnj\u00eb fjal\u00eb q\u00eb e l\u00ebndon n\u00ebn\u00ebn. N\u00ebse \u00ebsht\u00eb e ndaluar ndaj saj th\u00ebnia \u201dOh\u201dq\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb fjala m\u00eb e thjesht\u00eb, at\u00ebher\u00eb l\u00ebndimi me fjal\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebnda \u00ebsht\u00eb edhe m\u00eb i ndaluar.<\/p>\n

5- Kur merr ndonj\u00eb udh\u00ebtim, mundohu q\u00eb n\u00ebna t\u00eb jet\u00eb njeriu i fundit q\u00eb e p\u00ebrsh\u00ebndet, ajo t\u00eb jet\u00eb fytyra e fundit q\u00eb ke shikuar. P\u00ebrsh\u00ebndetu fytyr\u00eb me fytyr\u00eb, shprehe dashurin\u00eb ndaj saj, fute g\u00ebzimin n\u00eb shpirtin e saj, q\u00ebndro tek ajo m\u00eb s\u00eb shumti para udh\u00ebtimit, dhe b\u00ebje stacionin e fundit t\u00eb nisjes nga vendi ku gjendet ajo, sepse k\u00ebshtu do t\u00eb triumfosh me lutjet e saj, t\u00eb cilat Allahu nuk i refuzon.<\/p>\n

6- Kur kthehesh nga udh\u00ebtimi, duhet q\u00eb n\u00ebna t\u00eb jet\u00eb e para me t\u00eb cil\u00ebn takohesh, jepi selam asaj, ulu dhe q\u00ebndro me t\u00eb, qet\u00ebsoje dhe binde se je kthyer nga udh\u00ebtimi sh\u00ebnosh e mir\u00eb. Mos e befaso nga udh\u00ebtimi, por mundohu ta lajm\u00ebrosh p\u00ebr koh\u00ebn e arritjes, ngase g\u00ebzimi i madh\u00eb nga befasia jote \u00ebsht\u00eb i d\u00ebmsh\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u00eb. Asnj\u00ebher\u00eb mos mendo t\u00eb vonosh takimin me t\u00eb kur kthehesh, mos thuaj se koha nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e p\u00ebrshtatshme, sepse n\u00ebna nuk z\u00eb vend dhe nuk qet\u00ebsohet derisa t\u00eb shoh birin e saj me sy, derisa syri i saj t\u00eb k\u00ebnaqet me arritjen e tij.<\/p>\n

7- Derisa gjendesh n\u00eb udh\u00ebtim jasht\u00eb vendit thirre n\u00ebn\u00ebn p\u00ebr \u00e7do dit\u00eb, qoft\u00eb edhe sa p\u00ebr ta d\u00ebgjuar z\u00ebrin t\u00ebnd, ngase nuk ke iden\u00eb se sa lumturi fut n\u00eb zemr\u00ebn e saj thirrja jote, sa brenga dhe m\u00ebrzi i largon nga shpirti i saj.<\/p>\n

8- N\u00ebse jeton n\u00eb nj\u00eb qytet me n\u00ebn\u00ebn t\u00ebnde mundohu ta vizitosh at\u00eb p\u00ebr dit\u00eb, mos u arsyeto me detyrimet e jet\u00ebs n\u00eb takimet e rralla me t\u00eb, ngase ky \u00ebsht\u00eb obligimi m\u00eb vog\u00ebl q\u00eb ke ndaj saj. Pastaj le t\u00eb jet\u00eb ky takim ashtu si\u00e7 e meriton pozita e n\u00ebn\u00ebs, e mos t\u00eb jet\u00eb vizit\u00eb e shpejt\u00eb dhe me nguti, sa t\u2019i jap\u00ebsh selam dhe ta shikosh or\u00ebn \u00e7do moment, sepse haku i asaj p\u00ebr Zotin \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb m\u00eb i madh.<\/p>\n

9- N\u00ebse n\u00ebna jeton n\u00eb ndonj\u00eb qytet tjet\u00ebr vazhdimisht rri n\u00eb lidhje me t\u00eb n\u00eb forma t\u00eb ndryshme, nuk ke asnj\u00eb arsye q\u00eb t\u00eb shk\u00ebputesh nga n\u00ebna.<\/p>\n

10- Gj\u00ebja m\u00eb e mir\u00eb ndaj n\u00ebn\u00ebs \u00ebsht\u00eb mbajtja e lidhjeve dhe afrimi me njer\u00ebzit e dashur t\u00eb saj, e nuk ka dyshim q\u00eb m\u00eb dashurit e saj jan\u00eb bijt\u00eb dhe bijat e saj, andaj sillu mir\u00eb ndaj tyre, shprehi af\u00ebrsin\u00eb t\u00ebnde, ndihmoi ata kur kan\u00eb nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr ty, b\u00ebhu sh\u00ebrbyes i tyre, sepse kjo e g\u00ebzon pa mas\u00eb n\u00ebn\u00ebn kur sheh q\u00eb pema e edukimit tek f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e saj ka filluar t\u00eb jap frytet e mira, ajo v\u00ebrehet n\u00eb unifikimin familjar.<\/span><\/p>\n

(vazhdon)<\/span><\/p>\n

P\u00ebrkthehu: Fazli Bunjaku<\/span><\/p>\n

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Fal\u00ebnderimi i p\u00ebrket vet\u00ebm Allahut, Zotit t\u00eb bot\u00ebve. Paqja dhe shp\u00ebtimi i Tij qofshin mbi m\u00eb t\u00eb zgjedhurin e Pejgamber\u00ebve, t\u00eb D\u00ebrguarin ton\u00eb Muhamed, mbi familjen dhe shok\u00ebt e tij n\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi. Allahu i Lart\u00ebsuar t\u00eb drejt\u00ebn dhe detyrimet ndaj Tij si dhe ndaj prind\u00ebrve e ka cituar n\u00eb Kuran s\u00eb bashku n\u00eb shum\u00eb vende, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-1489","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","6":"category-c95-ahlak"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1489","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1489"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1489\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1489"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1489"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1489"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}