{"id":1490,"date":"2017-01-07T11:40:42","date_gmt":"2017-01-07T11:40:42","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/SHKIWP\/index.php\/2017\/01\/07\/150-menyra-se-si-te-sillesh-ndaj-nenes-2\/"},"modified":"2017-01-07T11:40:42","modified_gmt":"2017-01-07T11:40:42","slug":"150-menyra-se-si-te-sillesh-ndaj-nenes-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/?p=1490","title":{"rendered":"150 M\u00cbNYRA SE SI T\u00cb SILLESH NDAJ N\u00cbN\u00cbS (2)"},"content":{"rendered":"

11- Praktikimi i puthjes s\u00eb kok\u00ebs s\u00eb n\u00ebn\u00ebs, duarve dhe k\u00ebmb\u00ebve t\u00eb saj gjat\u00eb takimit me t\u00eb, ngase kjo i shton g\u00ebzimin asaj pa mas\u00eb, \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb vep\u00ebr e thjesht\u00eb dhe e leht\u00eb por e \u00e7muar nga n\u00ebna. Nuk harroj fjal\u00ebt e Dr. Mejser Tahirit i cili thoshte se i kam puthur kok\u00ebn, duart dhe k\u00ebmb\u00ebt e n\u00ebn\u00ebs sime dhe tani f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e mi e b\u00ebjn\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn gj\u00eb me mua.<\/span><\/p>\n

12- Njofto f\u00ebmij\u00ebt tuaj p\u00ebr vler\u00ebn dhe pozit\u00ebn e n\u00ebn\u00ebs me fjal\u00eb dhe me vep\u00ebr, behu ti shembull p\u00ebr ta n\u00eb mir\u00ebsjellje ndaj saj, le t\u00eb shikojn\u00eb ty se si i sh\u00ebrben dhe e respekton n\u00ebn\u00ebn t\u00ebnde, kjo pa dyshim do t\u2019i nxis\u00eb ata t\u00eb veprojn\u00eb ashtu me ty dhe me n\u00ebn\u00ebn t\u00ebnde.<\/p>\n

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13- P\u00ebrqendrohu n\u00eb plot\u00ebsimin e nevojave t\u00eb saj, sjelli n\u00ebn\u00ebs gj\u00ebsendet e saj n\u00eb koh\u00ebn e caktuar, k\u00ebshtu do t\u00eb af\u00ebr k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsis\u00eb dhe larg hidh\u00ebrimit t\u00eb saj.<\/p>\n

14- Mos i premto n\u00ebn\u00ebs nj\u00eb termin pastaj ta thyesh at\u00eb, n\u00ebse i premton di\u00e7ka ose mbaje premtimin ose mos premton fare.<\/span><\/p>\n

15- Sukseset tuaja kushtoja Allahut pastaj fal\u00eb edukat\u00ebs q\u00eb e barte nga n\u00ebna, kjo e b\u00ebn n\u00ebn\u00ebn t\u00eb ndjehet krenare dhe e lumtur n\u00eb zemr\u00ebn e saj, kur sheh frytet e edukat\u00ebs q\u00eb mbolli tek f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e saj, kur sheh suksesin e tyre n\u00eb jet\u00eb, ngase suksesi i f\u00ebmij\u00ebve \u00ebsht\u00eb edhe sukses i prind\u00ebrve.<\/p>\n

16- Mos polemizo me n\u00ebn\u00ebn edhe n\u00ebse ke t\u00eb drejt\u00eb, por mundohu t\u00eb p\u00ebrdor\u00ebsh m\u00ebnyra t\u00eb lehta p\u00ebr shfaqjen e mendimit dhe ides\u00eb t\u00ebnde n\u00ebse \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebr nj\u00eb \u00e7\u00ebshtje me r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi. E n\u00ebse nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb \u00e7\u00ebshtje me r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi at\u00ebher\u00eb braktis mendimin t\u00ebnd, plot\u00ebso d\u00ebshirat e saj, dhe d\u00ebgjo mendimin e saj, kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb e mir\u00eb p\u00ebr ty dhe m\u00eb e denj\u00eb.<\/p>\n

17- Mos n\u00ebnvler\u00ebso mendimin e saj para njer\u00ebzve, apo para motrave tua, pavar\u00ebsisht a \u00ebsht\u00eb prezent\u00eb n\u00ebna apo jo, sepse kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb fjal\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00eb p\u00ebr n\u00ebn\u00ebn, \u00ebsht\u00eb di\u00e7ka q\u00eb ajo e urren, \u00ebsht\u00eb shenj\u00eb sjelljes s\u00eb ul\u00ebt dhe pa kultur\u00eb ndaj saj.<\/p>\n

18- Mos e n\u00ebn\u00e7mo n\u00ebn\u00ebn dhe mos pak\u00ebso vler\u00ebn e saj n\u00ebse nuk ka njohuri p\u00ebr disa \u00e7\u00ebshtje t\u00eb jet\u00ebs, por m\u00ebsoja asaj \u00e7do gj\u00eb t\u00eb nevojshme dhe b\u00ebhu sikur ti nuk ke njohuri p\u00ebr to.<\/p>\n

19- Mos qesh shum\u00eb dhe mos ngrit z\u00ebrin kur je pran\u00eb saj, mos shiko me neveri dhe zem\u00ebrim n\u00eb prezenc\u00ebn e saj, mos u trego fytyr\u00eb m\u00ebrrolur dhe mos shfaq hidh\u00ebrimin ndaj d\u00ebshirave t\u00eb saj, se k\u00ebshtu plagon ndjenjat e saj.<\/p>\n

20- Le t\u00eb jet\u00eb n\u00ebna e para q\u00eb njoftohet me ndonj\u00eb lajm t\u00eb g\u00ebzuesh\u00ebm n\u00eb jet\u00ebn t\u00ebnde, vet\u00ebm asaj tregoja sekretet tua, n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb mbush zemr\u00ebn e saj me g\u00ebzim dhe b\u00ebhesh m\u00eb i af\u00ebrti me t\u00eb, k\u00ebshtu ajo kupton se ende je f\u00ebmij\u00eb i saj q\u00eb ke nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr n\u00ebn\u00ebn, edhe kur je rritur.<\/p>\n

21- P\u00ebrkujdesu p\u00ebr gjendjen e saj sh\u00ebndet\u00ebsore, n\u00ebse \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb mosh\u00eb t\u00eb shtyr\u00eb siguroi n\u00ebn\u00ebs gj\u00ebrat q\u00eb iu nevojiten p\u00ebr sh\u00ebndet si: aparatin e shtypjes, mat\u00ebsin e sheqerit, pajisjet p\u00ebr tu ulur dhe ngritur n\u00eb k\u00ebmb\u00eb si dhe pajisje tjera.<\/p>\n

22- Cakto nj\u00eb orar t\u00eb rregullt mujor p\u00ebr kontroll\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrgjithshme mjek\u00ebsore t\u00eb n\u00ebn\u00ebs, q\u00eb t\u00eb jesh sa m\u00eb i sigurt p\u00ebr sh\u00ebndetin e saj.<\/p>\n

23- Plot\u00ebso nevojat e saj sipas mosh\u00ebs q\u00eb iu p\u00ebrshtatet, kur \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb e re ka nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr gj\u00ebra t\u00eb caktuara dhe kur mplaket ka nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr gj\u00ebra tjera, ndihmoj ashtu si t\u00eb ka ndihmuar ty q\u00eb nga fillimi yt.<\/p>\n

24- Kur \u00ebsht\u00eb e s\u00ebmur\u00eb, ndjej dhembjen e saj s\u00eb bashku me t\u00eb, ndjej k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsin\u00eb kur arrin t\u00eb sh\u00ebrohet. B\u00ebj n\u00ebn\u00ebs rukje rregullisht, vendos dor\u00ebn n\u00eb vendin e dhimbjes, pastaj lexo ajetet dhe hadithet e sh\u00ebrimit, v\u00ebrtet kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb mir\u00ebsi ndaj saj dhe sh\u00ebrim me lejen e Allahut.<\/p>\n

25- Kur t\u00eb s\u00ebmuret mundohu ta qet\u00ebsosh dhe jepi kuraj\u00eb se shum\u00eb shpejt do t\u00eb p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsohet gjendja dhe do ti kthehet sh\u00ebndeti i saj. Mos e lajm\u00ebro n\u00ebse gjendja e saj p\u00ebrkeq\u00ebsohet, as mos i rr\u00ebfe p\u00ebr ngjarje q\u00eb e l\u00ebndojn\u00eb, por \u00e7doher\u00eb tregoj q\u00eb s\u00ebmundja \u00ebsht\u00eb ligj i Zotit n\u00eb krijesat e tij, ajo \u00ebsht\u00eb stacion i sprov\u00ebs dhe pastrimit nga m\u00ebkatet, dhe m\u00eb pas do t\u00eb b\u00ebhesh edhe m\u00eb mir\u00eb se sa ishe.<\/p>\n

26- B\u00ebj q\u00eb mjek\u00ebt specialist ta vizitojn\u00eb n\u00eb sht\u00ebpin\u00eb e saj, ose d\u00ebrgo n\u00ebn\u00ebn atje n\u00ebse ka mund\u00ebsi, merru vesh me mjekun q\u00eb ta qet\u00ebsoj n\u00ebn\u00ebn, ta siguroj\u00eb q\u00eb nuk ka di\u00e7ka serioze, por nj\u00eb s\u00ebmundje e thjesht\u00eb q\u00eb shum\u00eb shpejt\u00eb do t\u00eb kaloj\u00eb.<\/p>\n

27- Ndihmoj n\u00ebn\u00ebs q\u00eb t\u00eb mbaj\u00eb lidhjet e saj me familjen dhe koleget e saj t\u00eb af\u00ebrme, d\u00ebrgoje p\u00ebr vizit\u00eb tek shoqet e saja t\u00eb dashura, q\u00eb t\u00eb fus\u00ebsh g\u00ebzimin n\u00eb zemr\u00ebn e saj, q\u00eb t\u2019i shtohen shp\u00ebrblimet e saj tek Allahu p\u00ebr mbajtjen e lidhjeve. Preferohet q\u00eb ti blesh dhurat\u00eb n\u00ebn\u00ebs p\u00ebr familjen q\u00eb d\u00ebshiron ta vizitoj\u00eb.<\/p>\n

28- Cakto nj\u00eb ark\u00eb p\u00ebr n\u00ebn\u00ebn, ku vendos gj\u00ebra si: biskota, \u00ebmb\u00eblsira, loj\u00ebra e dhurata tjera, k\u00ebshtu q\u00eb ajo ti dhuroj\u00eb nip\u00ebrve dhe mbesave kur ta vizitojn\u00eb, k\u00ebshtu i b\u00ebn f\u00ebmij\u00ebt m\u00eb t\u00eb dashur p\u00ebr n\u00ebn\u00ebn dhe takimin me t\u00eb.<\/p>\n

29- N\u00ebse ajo merr ndonj\u00eb udh\u00ebtim t\u00eb larg\u00ebt dhe del nga sht\u00ebpia, mbaj lidhjet me t\u00eb dhe sigurohu p\u00ebr gjendjen e saj prej momentit kur doli derisa t\u00eb arrij q\u00ebllimin e saj, pastaj derisa t\u00eb kthehet vazhdimisht q\u00ebndro n\u00eb lidhje me t\u00eb.<\/p>\n

30- Mos i shfaq asaj brengat dhe hallet tuaja, mos iu anko p\u00ebr gjendjen t\u00ebnde t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00eb, se k\u00ebshtu vet\u00ebm sa e pik\u00ebllon edhe m\u00eb tej, por tregoj q\u00eb \u00e7\u00ebshtja \u00ebsht\u00eb e leht\u00eb, ndjehesh i qet\u00eb, Allahu do ta largoj breng\u00ebn t\u00ebnde, je optimist p\u00ebr t\u00eb ardhmen etj.<\/p>\n

31- Mos i publiko problemet bashk\u00ebshortore para n\u00ebn\u00ebs, at\u00eb e m\u00ebrzit kur sheh birin dhe lo\u00e7k\u00ebn e zemr\u00ebs s\u00eb saj duke u p\u00ebrballur me v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsit\u00eb e jet\u00ebs bashk\u00ebshortore. Emocionet e saj t\u00eb fuqishme e b\u00ebjn\u00eb at\u00eb t\u00eb ofroj\u00eb \u00e7do zgjidhje, \u00e7do m\u00ebnyr\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb sjell\u00eb lumturin\u00eb n\u00eb jet\u00ebn t\u00ebnde, andaj nga mir\u00ebsia jote ndaj n\u00ebn\u00ebs dhe vet\u00ebs sate \u00ebsht\u00eb q\u00eb n\u00ebna t\u00eb jet\u00eb larg nga mosmarr\u00ebveshjet e tua familjare.<\/p>\n

32- Mos lavd\u00ebro shum\u00eb bashk\u00ebshorten t\u00ebnde n\u00eb prani t\u00eb n\u00ebn\u00ebs, mos e informo at\u00eb p\u00ebr detajet e jet\u00ebs bashk\u00ebshortore, p\u00ebr gj\u00ebrat q\u00eb i dhuron asaj apo p\u00ebr gj\u00ebrat q\u00eb ajo ti dhuron ty, sa do q\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00eb bashk\u00ebshortja e m\u00ebshirshme, sepse n\u00ebna \u00ebsht\u00eb e dob\u00ebt dhe zemra e saj xhelozon ta sheh birin e saj t\u00eb ket\u00eb ndryshuar, nuk d\u00ebshiron q\u00eb n\u00ebna t\u00eb mbjell\u00eb dhe dikush tjet\u00ebr t\u00eb vjel\u00eb. Duhet t\u00eb mbash marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie t\u00eb balancuar bazuar n\u00eb respekt dhe vler\u00ebsim t\u00eb nd\u00ebrsjell\u00ebt, dhe duke mos cenuar t\u00eb drejtat e t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve.<\/p>\n

33- N\u00eb t\u00eb kund\u00ebrt\u00ebn mos i transmeto gjitha lidhjet tua me n\u00ebn\u00ebn tek bashk\u00ebshortja jote, respekto statusin e n\u00ebn\u00ebs dhe mos tolero shkeljen e drejtave t\u00eb saj, forcoi lidhjet mes saj dhe bashk\u00ebshortes, por mos q\u00ebndro n\u00eb pozit\u00eb t\u00eb krahasimit mes tyre, sepse se cila ka statusin e saj, se cila posedon natyr\u00eb t\u00eb ve\u00e7ant\u00eb q\u00eb duhet ta respektojm\u00eb, se cila meriton t\u00eb drejta dhe detyrime t\u00eb ndryshme q\u00eb duhet ti zbatojm\u00eb pa ndonj\u00eb mang\u00ebsi apo paragjykim.<\/p>\n

34- Shmangu gjykimit mes babait dhe n\u00ebn\u00ebs n\u00eb mosmarr\u00ebveshjet e tyre bashk\u00ebshortore, nuk ke nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr tu k\u00ebqyr direkt n\u00eb to, haptas p\u00ebrdor neutralitetin, kurse fshehurazi puno p\u00ebr k\u00ebshillimin dhe pajtimin mes tyre.<\/p>\n

35- Mos e kritiko veshjen e saj, pamjen dhe zgjedhjen e saj, shijen dhe stilin e saj, mos p\u00ebrdor kritik\u00ebn gjat\u00eb bised\u00ebs me t\u00eb, e n\u00ebse ka di\u00e7ka q\u00eb nuk p\u00ebrkon me personalitetin e saj dhe frikohesh se kritikohet nga t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt, at\u00ebher\u00eb k\u00ebshilloje duke p\u00ebrdorur metod\u00eb q\u00eb nuk e plagos dhe nuk i shkakton dhembje, q\u00eb nuk i zbulon t\u00eb metat e saj dhe nuk e m\u00ebrzit.<\/p>\n

36- Krijo marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie t\u00eb forta me v\u00ebllez\u00ebrit tuaj, edhe n\u00ebse ekziston ndonj\u00eb mospajtim me ta mos e b\u00ebj at\u00eb para syve t\u00eb n\u00ebn\u00ebs, se kjo shkakton hidh\u00ebrimin dhe mjerimin e saj.<\/p>\n

37- \u00c7far\u00ebdo q\u00eb t\u00eb jen\u00eb rrethanat martesore t\u00eb prind\u00ebrve tuaj, asnj\u00ebher\u00eb mos p\u00ebrkrah martes\u00ebn e babait t\u00ebnd me grua tjet\u00ebr, e n\u00ebse e sheh q\u00eb martesa e babait \u00ebsht\u00eb e nevojshme p\u00ebr arsye t\u00eb caktuara, at\u00ebher\u00eb le t\u00eb jet\u00eb p\u00ebrkrahja jote p\u00ebr babain larg njohuris\u00eb s\u00eb n\u00ebn\u00ebs.<\/p>\n

38- M\u00ebso n\u00ebn\u00ebs \u00e7\u00ebshtjet e fes\u00eb me urt\u00ebsi dhe k\u00ebshill\u00eb t\u00eb bukur, ose duke i sjell\u00eb ndonj\u00eb audio-kaset\u00eb, ndonj\u00eb lib\u00ebr t\u00eb p\u00ebrshtatshme, ose prezanto me t\u00eb n\u00eb ndonj\u00eb ders dhe ligj\u00ebrat\u00eb t\u00eb dobishme.<\/p>\n

39- Mos e privo at\u00eb nga ndonj\u00eb program dhikri, p\u00ebrfitimi nga ligj\u00ebratat e ndryshme, tribunat dhe organizimet kulturore fetare, nga programe satelitore islame etj.<\/p>\n

40- Raste m\u00eb t\u00eb volitshme p\u00ebr mir\u00ebsi ndaj prind\u00ebrve jan\u00eb koh\u00ebt e dalluara p\u00ebr ibadet, si\u00e7 \u00ebsht\u00eb p.sh. sezoni i haxhit, n\u00ebse gjendesh atje me n\u00ebn\u00ebn t\u00ebnde b\u00ebhu sh\u00ebrb\u00ebtor i saj, p\u00ebrkujdesu shum\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb dhe m\u00ebshiroje, k\u00ebnaqu me sh\u00ebrbimin q\u00eb i b\u00ebn, kape p\u00ebr dor\u00ebn e saj dhe tregoja rreziqet e rrug\u00ebs, b\u00ebje at\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00eb n\u00ebn mbik\u00ebqyrjen dhe kujdesin t\u00ebnd.<\/p>\n

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11- Praktikimi i puthjes s\u00eb kok\u00ebs s\u00eb n\u00ebn\u00ebs, duarve dhe k\u00ebmb\u00ebve t\u00eb saj gjat\u00eb takimit me t\u00eb, ngase kjo i shton g\u00ebzimin asaj pa mas\u00eb, \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb vep\u00ebr e thjesht\u00eb dhe e leht\u00eb por e \u00e7muar nga n\u00ebna. Nuk harroj fjal\u00ebt e Dr. Mejser Tahirit i cili thoshte se i kam puthur kok\u00ebn, duart dhe […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-1490","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","6":"category-c95-ahlak"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1490","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1490"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1490\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1490"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1490"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1490"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}