F\u00ebmij\u00ebt e vegj\u00ebl jan\u00eb t\u00eb pafajsh\u00ebm. Si pasoj\u00eb, ata nuk jan\u00eb n\u00eb gjendje t\u00eb dallojn\u00eb informacione t\u00eb ndryshme q\u00eb ata marrin – se \u00e7ka \u00ebsht\u00eb e drejt\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb publike dhe \u00e7far\u00eb duhet t\u00eb mbahet private.<\/p>\n
N\u00eb rrjedh\u00ebn e zhvillimit t\u00eb tyre ata m\u00ebsojn\u00eb lirin\u00eb e veprimit, por gjersa ta arrijn\u00eb, pafaj\u00ebsia e tyre e k\u00ebndshme mund t\u00eb shkaktoj\u00eb shum\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsi dhe siklet p\u00ebr prind\u00ebrit e tyre. Kjo p\u00ebr shkak se ata leht\u00eb mund t\u00eb flasin jasht\u00eb me t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt p\u00ebr \u00e7\u00ebshtje familjare q\u00eb jan\u00eb delikate dhe private.<\/p>\n
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\u00cbsht\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme q\u00eb t\u2019u m\u00ebsojm\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve p\u00ebr vler\u00ebn e jet\u00ebs private n\u00eb nj\u00eb mosh\u00eb t\u00eb re. Ata duhet t\u00eb b\u00ebhen t\u00eb vet\u00ebdijsh\u00ebm se disa gj\u00ebra jan\u00eb private dhe duhet t\u00eb mbahen sekret. Prind\u00ebrit duhet t\u00eb jen\u00eb vigjilent\u00eb dhe t\u2019i m\u00ebsojn\u00eb ata p\u00ebr t\u2019i mbajtur disa gj\u00ebra private. T\u00eb rriturit nuk duhet t\u2019i diskutojn\u00eb disa gj\u00ebra para f\u00ebmij\u00ebve t\u00eb tyre, ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht problemet q\u00eb mund t\u00eb ken\u00eb n\u00ebna dhe babai.<\/p>\n
Edhe duke biseduar n\u00eb telefon para f\u00ebmij\u00ebve duhet t\u00eb kemi kujdes, kur \u00e7\u00ebshtja \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb \u00e7\u00ebshtje private familjare, e cila nuk duhet t\u00eb b\u00ebhet e njohur p\u00ebr publikun e gjer\u00eb. N\u00eb nj\u00eb mosh\u00eb shum\u00eb t\u00eb re, f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e vegj\u00ebl jan\u00eb thjesht t\u00eb paaft\u00eb t\u00eb dallojn\u00eb midis asaj q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb private dhe \u00e7far\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Kur f\u00ebmija fillon t\u00eb rritet, nj\u00eb respekt p\u00ebr jet\u00ebn private duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb i rr\u00ebnjosur tek ata. Duhet t\u00eb kuptojn\u00eb konceptin e sht\u00ebpis\u00eb si nj\u00eb sfer\u00eb private. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme, kur f\u00ebmij\u00ebt fillojn\u00eb t\u00eb shkojn\u00eb n\u00eb shkoll\u00eb. Por si mund t\u00eb arrihet kjo?<\/p>\n
F\u00ebmij\u00ebt jan\u00eb t\u00eb hapur p\u00ebr krahasime vizuale. P\u00ebr shembull: \u201cKjo sht\u00ebpi q\u00eb jetojm\u00eb na ruan (strehon) nga bota e jashtme. A do t\u00eb jemi n\u00eb gjendje t\u00eb ulemi n\u00eb t\u00eb sikur t\u00eb mos ket\u00eb mure? A do t\u00eb jemi n\u00eb gjendje p\u00ebr t’u ulur n\u00eb tryez\u00eb dhe t\u00eb ham\u00eb dark\u00ebn ton\u00eb me secilin q\u00eb na shikon nga jasht\u00eb ?\u201d<\/p>\n
N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb, ne mund t\u2019ua prezantojm\u00eb (fusim) konceptin e intimitetit n\u00eb mendjet e tyre dhe t\u2019i inkurajojm\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt tan\u00eb t\u00eb identifikohen me sht\u00ebpin\u00eb dhe familjen e tyre. Nga kjo pik\u00ebnisje mund t\u2019i m\u00ebsojm\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve n\u00eb lidhje me nevoj\u00ebn p\u00ebr t\u00eb mbajtur fort familjen dhe \u00e7\u00ebshtjet personale si sekret nga publiku i p\u00ebrgjithsh\u00ebm. Faza tjet\u00ebr \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb ndihmohet f\u00ebmija, q\u00eb t\u00eb zhvilloj\u00eb nj\u00eb kuptim t\u00eb plot\u00eb t\u00eb intimitetit dhe dimensionet e tij praktike. Kjo fillon duke e m\u00ebsuar f\u00ebmij\u00ebn p\u00ebr t\u00eb k\u00ebrkuar leje para se t\u00eb hyj\u00eb n\u00eb ndonj\u00eb dhom\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Allahu na urdh\u00ebron n\u00eb Kuran, q\u00eb t\u2019ia m\u00ebsojm\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb porosi f\u00ebmij\u00ebve tan\u00eb:\u00a0\u201cO ju q\u00eb besuat, ata q\u00eb i keni n\u00eb pron\u00ebsin\u00eb tuaj\u00a0<\/strong>(sh\u00ebrb\u00ebtor\u00ebt)\u00a0dhe ata q\u00eb nuk kan\u00eb arritur mosh\u00ebn e pjekuris\u00eb duhet t\u00eb k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb leje prej jush\u00a0<\/strong>(p\u00ebr t\u00eb hyr\u00eb te ju)\u00a0n\u00eb tri koh\u00eb: para namazit t\u00eb sabahut, n\u00eb koh\u00ebn e drek\u00ebs kur i hiqni rrobat tuaja\u00a0<\/strong>(p\u00ebr t\u00eb pushuar)\u00a0dhe pas namazit t\u00eb jacis\u00eb, q\u00eb t\u00eb tria k\u00ebto koh\u00eb jan\u00eb kur ju nuk jeni t\u00eb veshur. Pos atyre tri koh\u00ebve nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00ebkat, as p\u00ebr ju, as p\u00ebr ata t\u00eb vizitoni nj\u00ebri-tjetrin. K\u00ebshtu Allahu ua sqaron argumentet e veta. Allahu \u00ebsht\u00eb i dijshmi, i urti.\u201d<\/strong>\u00a0Nur: 58.<\/p>\n N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb ajet, Allahu na urdh\u00ebron, q\u00eb t\u2019i m\u00ebsojn\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebt tan\u00eb, t\u00eb cil\u00ebt nuk e kan\u00eb arritur mosh\u00ebn e pjekuris\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb k\u00ebrkuar leje para se t\u00eb hyjn\u00eb n\u00eb ndonj\u00eb dhom\u00eb n\u00eb tre koh\u00eb t\u00eb dit\u00ebs. E para, \u00ebsht\u00eb para faljes s\u00eb sabahut, kur njer\u00ebzit jan\u00eb n\u00eb gjum\u00eb zakonisht n\u00eb shtret\u00ebrit e tyre. E dyta, \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb mesdit\u00eb, ku n\u00eb shum\u00eb kultura njer\u00ebzit flen\u00eb gjum\u00eb pasdreke dhe mund t\u00eb jen\u00eb n\u00eb dhomat e tyre duke pushuar t\u00eb zhveshur. Dhe e treta, \u00ebsht\u00eb gjat\u00eb nat\u00ebs, gjithashtu nj\u00eb koh\u00eb pushimi dhe gjumi. K\u00ebto jan\u00eb tre koh\u00eb, kur nj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb mund t\u00eb eci n\u00ebp\u00ebr dhomat e gjumit t\u00eb prind\u00ebrve dhe t\u2019i gjej\u00eb prind\u00ebrit n\u00eb nj\u00eb situat\u00eb t\u00eb pap\u00ebrshtatshme.<\/p>\n P\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb nevojave t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve t\u00eb vegj\u00ebl Kurani i urdh\u00ebron vet\u00ebm prind\u00ebrit, q\u00eb t\u2019i m\u00ebsojn\u00eb ata p\u00ebr t\u00eb k\u00ebrkuar leje n\u00eb k\u00ebto tre koh\u00eb. Kur t\u00eb rriten duhet t\u00eb ndjekin m\u00ebsimet e Islamit p\u00ebr t\u00eb k\u00ebrkuar leje n\u00eb \u00e7do koh\u00eb para se t\u00eb hyjn\u00eb n\u00eb ndonj\u00eb dhom\u00eb private.<\/p>\n \u201cE kur f\u00ebmij\u00ebt tuaj ta arrijn\u00eb mosh\u00ebn e pjekuris\u00eb, le t\u00eb k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb leje<\/strong>\u00a0(p\u00ebr hyrje), ashtu si k\u00ebrkuan ata para tyre. Allahu ju shpjegon dispozitat e veta, sepse Ai e di m\u00eb s\u00eb miri dhe \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb i urti.\u201d<\/strong>\u00a0Nur: 59.<\/p>\n nga anglishtja: Fitim NUHIU<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" F\u00ebmij\u00ebt e vegj\u00ebl jan\u00eb t\u00eb pafajsh\u00ebm. Si pasoj\u00eb, ata nuk jan\u00eb n\u00eb gjendje t\u00eb dallojn\u00eb informacione t\u00eb ndryshme q\u00eb ata marrin – se \u00e7ka \u00ebsht\u00eb e drejt\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb publike dhe \u00e7far\u00eb duhet t\u00eb mbahet private. N\u00eb rrjedh\u00ebn e zhvillimit t\u00eb tyre ata m\u00ebsojn\u00eb lirin\u00eb e veprimit, por gjersa ta arrijn\u00eb, pafaj\u00ebsia e tyre […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-1491","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","6":"category-c95-ahlak"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1491","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1491"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1491\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1491"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1491"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1491"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}