{"id":3756,"date":"2019-10-16T13:35:52","date_gmt":"2019-10-16T13:35:52","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/?p=3756"},"modified":"2019-10-16T13:35:52","modified_gmt":"2019-10-16T13:35:52","slug":"ti-dhe-ajo-meditoni-keto-fjale","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/?p=3756","title":{"rendered":"TI DHE AJO, MEDITONI K\u00cbTO FJAL\u00cb"},"content":{"rendered":"
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  1. Mundemi t\u00eb kemi z\u00ebnka me ata q\u00eb i duam, mir\u00ebpo nuk mundemi t\u2019i shohim se si ndiejn\u00eb dhembje!<\/li>\n
  2. I pyeta tre persona p\u00ebr dashurin\u00eb dhe, ai q\u00eb nuk e njihte at\u00eb u p\u00ebrgjigj se dashuria nuk ekziston, kurse ai q\u00eb ishte i zhytur n\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00eb tha se dashuria \u00ebsht\u00eb jet\u00eb, kurse ai q\u00eb ishte i thyer n\u00eb shpirt nga ajo, m\u00eb tha se ajo \u00ebsht\u00eb mashtrimi m\u00eb i madh. \u00c7udi me ty dashuri, p\u00ebr ty u dhan\u00eb p\u00ebrgjigje t\u00eb ndryshme, kurse ti je vet\u00ebm nj\u00eb!<\/li>\n
  3. Dashuria \u00ebsht\u00eb e verb\u00ebr, mir\u00ebpo martesa ia hap asaj syt\u00eb!<\/li>\n
  4. Qortimi i sh\u00ebmb\u00ebllen dashuris\u00eb, nuk i shprehet, p\u00ebrve\u00e7se atij q\u00eb e meriton!<\/li>\n
  5. Nuk mund t\u00eb gjesh burr\u00ebri, p\u00ebrve\u00e7se tek ai q\u00eb ia ka frik\u00ebn Allahut n\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha sjelljet e tij.<\/li>\n
  6. Dashurin\u00eb mes njer\u00ebzve nuk e shkat\u00ebrrojn\u00eb, p\u00ebrve\u00e7se k\u00ebto tri gj\u00ebra: Gabimet e shumta, g\u00ebnjeshtra e tep\u00ebrt dhe interesimi i pakt\u00eb.<\/li>\n
  7. Kur e dashuron nj\u00eb grua, mos e dashuro p\u00ebr bukurin\u00eb e saj, po dashuroje p\u00ebr hir t\u00eb saj, p\u00ebr hir t\u00eb karakterit t\u00eb saj, p\u00ebr hir t\u00eb dashuris\u00eb s\u00eb saj q\u00eb e ndien ndaj Zotit, p\u00ebr arsye se vet\u00ebm kjo dashuri mund t\u00eb mbijetoj\u00eb! Dhe jo! Mos ia premto asaj h\u00ebn\u00ebn apo yjet. Vet\u00ebm premtoji se do t\u00eb rrish me t\u00eb n\u00ebn yje, p\u00ebrgjithmon\u00eb.<\/li>\n
  8. Kur e do nj\u00eb njeri, mos i hulumto shkaqet q\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb ta duash at\u00eb, por hulumtoje at\u00eb, q\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebn ta ruash at\u00eb!<\/li>\n
  9. Zemra q\u00eb e njeh kuptimin e dashuris\u00eb s\u00eb sinqert\u00eb, n\u00eb fjalorin e saj nuk ekziston fjala e quajtur tradhti!<\/li>\n
  10. N\u00ebse e do nj\u00eb person, lajm\u00ebroje at\u00eb se e do, se shumica e zemrave nuk jan\u00eb shkat\u00ebrruar nga fjal\u00ebt q\u00eb jan\u00eb th\u00ebn\u00eb, por p\u00ebr t\u00eb shkak fjal\u00ebve q\u00eb nuk jan\u00eb th\u00ebn\u00eb!<\/li>\n
  11. Leht\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrmallohesh p\u00ebr njeriun q\u00eb e do, po e r\u00ebnd\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb ta gjesh at\u00eb \u00e7doher\u00eb kur p\u00ebrmallohesh p\u00ebr t\u00eb!<\/li>\n
  12. Dallim i madh \u00ebsht\u00eb mes nj\u00eb burri, i cili i num\u00ebron gabimet e gruas dhe mes nj\u00eb burri, i cili i p\u00ebrmir\u00ebson ato!<\/li>\n
  13. Mos u sill keq me at\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb do, mos i thuaj jam i z\u00ebn\u00eb atij q\u00eb ka nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr ty, mos e mashtro at\u00eb q\u00eb ka besim n\u00eb ty dhe mos e harro at\u00eb q\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb t\u00eb rikujton!<\/li>\n
  14. Lutja m\u00eb e mir\u00eb q\u00eb e b\u00ebn p\u00ebr ata q\u00eb i do: O Zot, ndihmoji t\u00eb dashurit e mi t\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrmendin dhe t\u00eb t\u00eb fal\u00ebnderojn\u00eb dhe sa m\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u00eb t\u00eb adhurojn\u00eb!<\/li>\n
  15. Sado q\u00eb je i moshuar, prap\u00eb do t\u00eb mbetesh si f\u00ebmij\u00eb me at\u00eb q\u00eb e do!<\/li>\n
  16. N\u00ebse gjysma e dashuris\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebrkujdesja, gjysma tjet\u00ebr e saj \u00ebsht\u00eb respekti!<\/li>\n
  17. B\u00ebje t\u00eb lumtur at\u00eb q\u00eb e do, para se t\u00eb qash p\u00ebr ndarjen me t\u00eb!<\/li>\n
  18. Ai q\u00eb s\u2019mundet t\u00eb dashuroj\u00eb me sinqeritet, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb i detyruar q\u00eb ndjenjat e tij t\u2019i jap\u00eb si l\u00ebmosh\u00eb, q\u00eb sot ta b\u00ebj\u00eb nj\u00eb zem\u00ebr t\u00eb lumtur e at\u00eb ta pik\u00eblloj\u00eb t\u00eb nes\u00ebrmen!<\/li>\n
  19. Dashuri \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb zgjohesh nga gjumi para s\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebs fytyr\u00eb p\u00ebr nj\u00eb mij\u00eb vjet dhe t\u00eb buz\u00ebqesh\u00ebsh sikurse t\u00eb jet\u00eb hera e par\u00eb!<\/li>\n
  20. Nuk ka m\u00eb mir\u00eb sesa t\u00eb gjesh nj\u00eb person q\u00eb t\u00eb ndien dhe i ndien ndjenjat e tua, i fal gabimet e tua, jo si dob\u00ebsi nga ai, po si bujari p\u00ebr at\u00eb q\u00eb e keni mes jush nga dashuria, respekti dhe m\u00ebshira.<\/li>\n
  21. Nuk m\u00eb intereson pamja, familja, ngjyra e trupit t\u00ebnd, jeta, pozita dhe as pasuria jote, po m\u00eb intereson personaliteti, mendja, morali dhe nd\u00ebrgjegjja jote. Sipas k\u00ebtij parimi dua q\u00eb t\u00eb dashuroj!<\/li>\n
  22. S\u2019ka gj\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb bukur sesa t\u00eb t\u00eb lajm\u00ebroj\u00eb ndokush se ti je nj\u00eb nga sebepet e lumturis\u00eb s\u00eb tij!<\/li>\n
  23. Ti nuk ke nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr nj\u00eb person q\u00eb t\u00eb plot\u00ebson, por ke nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr nj\u00eb person q\u00eb t\u00eb pranon ashtu si je, plot\u00ebsisht!<\/li>\n
  24. K\u00ebshilla e gruas s\u00eb ndershme p\u00ebr burrin e saj: Respekti im ndaj teje m\u00eb fut n\u00eb Xhenet, respekti yt ndaj n\u00ebn\u00ebs sate t\u00eb fut n\u00eb Xhenet! K\u00ebshtu q\u00eb un\u00eb do t\u00eb t\u00eb respektoj ty dhe ti respektoje n\u00ebn\u00ebn t\u00ebnde, e t\u00eb bashkohemi n\u00eb Xhenet!<\/li>\n
  25. F\u00ebmija e pyeti prindin e vet:<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    – \u00c7far\u00eb do t\u00eb thot\u00eb burr\u00eb?<\/p>\n

    Prindi iu p\u00ebrgjigj:<\/p>\n

    – Ai \u00ebsht\u00eb njeri i fort\u00eb, p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebs p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebt e vet, p\u00ebrkujdeset p\u00ebr \u00e7\u00ebshtjet e tyre dhe rri pa gjum\u00eb p\u00ebr rehatin\u00eb e tyre!<\/p>\n

    F\u00ebmija tha:<\/p>\n

    – Shpresoj q\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebhem burr\u00eb sikurse n\u00ebna ime!<\/p>\n

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    1. Martes\u00eb e d\u00ebshtuar: Kur burri zgjodhi trup dhe gruaja zgjodhi bank\u00eb!<\/li>\n
    2. Beqari e pyeti t\u00eb martuarin:<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

      – A \u00ebsht\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb ajo q\u00eb thuhet se burri nuk i njeh fatkeq\u00ebsit\u00eb, p\u00ebrve\u00e7se at\u00ebher\u00eb kur i vjen gruaja?!<\/p>\n

      U p\u00ebrgjigj:<\/p>\n

      – P\u00ebrkundrazi, ai nuk e njeh vler\u00ebn e gruas s\u00eb ndershme, p\u00ebrve\u00e7se at\u00ebher\u00eb kur i vijn\u00eb fatkeq\u00ebsit\u00eb!<\/p>\n

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      1. T\u00eb lind\u00ebsh si mashkull, kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb caktim, kurse t\u00eb jesh burr\u00eb, ky \u00ebsht\u00eb art!<\/li>\n
      2. Nga lloji m\u00eb i r\u00ebnd\u00eb i padrejt\u00ebsis\u00eb n\u00eb shoq\u00ebri \u00ebsht\u00eb, kur familja hulumton pas nj\u00eb vajze t\u00eb ndershme a djali i tyre \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebr askund!<\/li>\n
      3. Nj\u00eb grua llafazane dhe mendjemadhe u martua p\u00ebr nj\u00eb t\u00eb verb\u00ebr dhe, nj\u00eb dit\u00eb prej dit\u00ebve, i tha:<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

        – Ah, sikur t\u00eb mos ishe i verb\u00ebr e ta shihje bukurin\u00eb time!<\/p>\n

        U p\u00ebrgjigj me shum\u00eb men\u00e7uri:<\/p>\n

        – Po t\u00eb ishe me t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb e bukur, s\u2019do t\u00eb t\u00eb linin ata q\u00eb t\u00eb shohin t\u00eb martoheshe me mua!<\/p>\n

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        1. Edukoni burrat tuaj para se t\u2019i edukoni grat\u00eb tuaja, n\u00ebse jeni t\u00eb pafuqish\u00ebm t\u2019i edukoni burrat, do ta keni m\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb merreni me grat\u00eb!<\/li>\n
        2. S\u2019\u00ebsht\u00eb nga burr\u00ebria ta b\u00ebsh gruan t\u00eb qaj\u00eb!<\/li>\n
        3. Dashuria mes dy bashk\u00ebshort\u00ebve \u00ebsht\u00eb furnizim, dhe at\u00eb q\u00eb Allahu e furnizon me nj\u00eb partner t\u00eb devotsh\u00ebm, t\u00eb dashur e t\u00eb sinqert\u00eb, le ta fal\u00ebnderoj\u00eb Allahun!<\/li>\n
        4. Madje edhe mesazhet me p\u00ebrmbajtje t\u00eb thjesht\u00eb b\u00ebhen burim i lumturis\u00eb, at\u00ebher\u00eb kur shkruhen nga personi q\u00eb e do.<\/li>\n
        5. Nj\u00eb nga dijetar\u00ebt ka th\u00ebn\u00eb: “N\u00ebse e rikujton nj\u00eb person n\u00eb vetmi dhe buz\u00ebqesh, dije se mes jush ka dashuri t\u00eb sinqert\u00eb!”<\/li>\n
        6. Dashuria nuk bazohet vet\u00ebm mbi romantik\u00eb, por bazohet mbi respekt, p\u00ebrkujdesje dhe besim!<\/li>\n
        7. P\u00ebrkujdesja, dhurat\u00eb nga dhuratat m\u00eb t\u00eb thjeshta dhe m\u00eb t\u00eb bukura!<\/li>\n
        8. Nuk ka m\u00eb mir\u00eb, sesa t\u00eb t\u00eb vij\u00eb nj\u00eb telefonat\u00eb nga nj\u00eb njeri q\u00eb dynjaja e largoi nga ti, dhe t\u00eb t\u00eb tregoj\u00eb se sa \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebrmalluar p\u00ebr ty!<\/li>\n
        9. Nganj\u00ebher\u00eb heshtim, ngaq\u00eb e dim\u00eb se t\u00eb folurit ton\u00eb nuk do t\u00eb ndryshoj\u00eb asgj\u00eb!<\/li>\n
        10. Kur p\u00ebrs\u00ebriten gabimet, k\u00ebrkimfalja shnd\u00ebrrohet n\u00eb tallje!<\/li>\n
        11. As ti nuk je me cil\u00ebsi t\u00eb p\u00ebrsosura, e as ajo, e jotja mbetet t\u00eb k\u00ebnaqesh me at\u00eb q\u00eb ajo e posedon, q\u00eb edhe ajo t\u00eb jet\u00eb e k\u00ebnaqur me at\u00eb q\u00eb ti e posedon!<\/li>\n
        12. Heshtja ndaj gabimeve t\u00eb atyre q\u00eb i duam \u00ebsht\u00eb dashuri e ve\u00e7ant\u00eb q\u00eb e ndiejm\u00eb p\u00ebr ta dhe dhembje e ve\u00e7ant\u00eb p\u00ebr ne!<\/li>\n
        13. B\u00ebni t\u00eb lumtur ata q\u00eb i doni, se vdekja nuk merr leje nga asnj\u00ebri prej tyre kur ju afrohet!<\/li>\n
        14. Duaja \u00ebsht\u00eb dhurata m\u00eb e shtrenjt\u00eb q\u00eb ia dhuron atij q\u00eb e do!<\/li>\n
        15. Kur xhelozon p\u00ebr ty ai q\u00eb t\u00eb do, kjo s\u2019do t\u00eb thot\u00eb se ai dyshon n\u00eb sjelljet e tua, po ti je nj\u00ebra nga vijat e tij t\u00eb kuqe, dhe ty nuk do q\u00eb askush t\u00eb t\u00eb afrohet!<\/li>\n
        16. Deshe a refuzove, ekziston nj\u00eb person n\u00eb jet\u00ebn t\u00ebnde, ku p\u00ebr t\u00eb nuk vlejn\u00eb ligjet sikurse te t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt! Zem\u00ebrohet dhe ti je i k\u00ebnaqur me t\u00eb, mungon dhe ti e pret, kthehet pa arsye dhe ti e arsyeton, e t\u00ebra kjo, se ti e do at\u00eb!<\/li>\n
        17. Mos p\u00ebrmend njeri p\u00ebr t\u00eb keq para f\u00ebmij\u00ebs, ngase ajo ia b\u00ebn p\u00ebrgojimin dhe mosrespektin e t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve, pjes\u00eb t\u00eb karakterit t\u00eb tij!<\/li>\n
        18. Njeriu i cili t\u00eb do, e duron inatin t\u00ebnd, m\u00ebnyr\u00ebn t\u00ebnde dhe zem\u00ebrimin t\u00ebnd, \u00ebsht\u00eb i but\u00eb me ty edhe p\u00ebrskaj ashp\u00ebris\u00eb sate ndaj tij, largohet nga ti derisa t\u00eb qet\u00ebsohesh, pastaj e kthen shikimin kah ti, q\u00eb t\u00eb t\u00eb lajm\u00ebroj\u00eb se ai do t\u00eb jet\u00eb me ty!<\/li>\n
        19. Kur gruaja qan p\u00ebr nj\u00eb burr\u00eb, ajo e do at\u00eb me sinqeritet, mir\u00ebpo kur burri qan p\u00ebr nj\u00eb grua, ajo n\u00ebse e hulumton krejt bot\u00ebn nuk mundet t\u00eb gjej\u00eb nj\u00eb burr\u00eb q\u00eb e do m\u00eb shum\u00eb se ai!<\/li>\n
        20. Edhe dashuria \u00ebsht\u00eb risk!<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

          Pejgamberi, lavd\u00ebrimi dhe paqja e Allahut qofshin p\u00ebr t\u00eb, p\u00ebr Hatixhen tha: \u201cE kisha risk dashurin\u00eb e saj\u201d[1]<\/sup><\/a>, q\u00eb\u00a0 n\u00ebnkupton qart\u00eb se dashuria \u00ebsht\u00eb ndjenj\u00eb q\u00eb dhurohet nga qielli!<\/p>\n

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          1. P\u00ebr ty nuk interesohet p\u00ebrve\u00e7se ai q\u00eb i mungon, dhe nuk i mungon p\u00ebrve\u00e7se atij q\u00eb e heton zbraz\u00ebtir\u00ebn e madhe pasi ti shkon!<\/li>\n
          2. \u00c7do dashuri e cila nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb nd\u00ebrtuar mbi sinqeritet, i sh\u00ebmb\u00ebllen k\u00ebshtjell\u00ebs s\u00eb nd\u00ebrtuar mbi r\u00ebr\u00eb!<\/li>\n
          3. Ai q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb larg syrit i jep p\u00ebrmallim zemr\u00ebs!<\/li>\n
          4. Ai q\u00eb t\u00eb do t\u00eb sheh m\u00eb ndryshe se t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt, t\u00eb folurit me ty \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb i bukur, mungesa jote \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb e gjat\u00eb, l\u00ebndimi yt \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb i r\u00ebnd\u00eb dhe p\u00ebrmallimi p\u00ebr ty \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb i madhi.<\/li>\n
          5. Asaj i tha se t\u00eb dua dhe i dhuroi tr\u00ebndafil t\u00eb kuq, e ajo ia dhuroi jet\u00ebn e saj n\u00eb t\u00ebr\u00ebsi. Dhe t\u00eb dy jetuan nj\u00eb p\u00ebrvoj\u00eb t\u00eb dashuris\u00eb s\u00eb bukur. Me kalimin e koh\u00ebs d\u00ebshtoi p\u00ebrvoja, se ai e humbi tr\u00ebndafilin, kurse ajo e humbi jet\u00ebn!<\/li>\n
          6. E dua t\u00eb folurit me t\u00eb, edhe pse nganj\u00ebher\u00eb nuk posedoj fjal\u00eb \u00e7far\u00eb t\u2019i them!<\/li>\n
          7. N\u00eb jet\u00eb mund ta ndryshosh mendimin q\u00eb e ka zgjedhur mendja, mir\u00ebpo v\u00ebshtir\u00eb mund t\u00eb ndryshosh at\u00eb q\u00eb e ka zgjedhur zemra!<\/li>\n
          8. Disa arrijn\u00eb q\u00eb zemr\u00ebn ta prekin, mir\u00ebpo pak munden t\u00eb dep\u00ebrtojn\u00eb n\u00eb t\u00eb, kurse vet\u00ebm nj\u00eb mundet t\u00eb q\u00ebndroj\u00eb n\u00eb t\u00eb!<\/li>\n
          9. Pakujdesia – fillimi i fundit t\u00eb nj\u00eb gj\u00ebje t\u00eb mir\u00eb.<\/li>\n
          10. Marr\u00eb nga libri:<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

            NGA DHEMBJA DREJT LUMTURIS\u00cb<\/p>\n

            (Th\u00ebnie t\u00eb men\u00e7ura nga jeta dhe p\u00ebrvoja)<\/p>\n

            Irfan Jahiu<\/p>\n

             <\/p>\n

            [1]<\/a> Muslimi (2534).<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

            Mundemi t\u00eb kemi z\u00ebnka me ata q\u00eb i duam, mir\u00ebpo nuk mundemi t\u2019i shohim se si ndiejn\u00eb dhembje! I pyeta tre persona p\u00ebr dashurin\u00eb dhe, ai q\u00eb nuk e njihte at\u00eb u p\u00ebrgjigj se dashuria nuk ekziston, kurse ai q\u00eb ishte i zhytur n\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00eb tha se dashuria \u00ebsht\u00eb jet\u00eb, kurse ai q\u00eb ishte […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":3757,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5,25,67],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-3756","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-c95-ahlak","8":"category-c94-gruaja-dhe-familja","9":"category-te-zgjedhura"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3756","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/4"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=3756"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3756\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3758,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3756\/revisions\/3758"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/3757"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=3756"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=3756"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=3756"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}