\u00c7\u00ebshtja e gruas dhe familja e burrit t\u00eb saj me kali\u00acmin e viteve ende vazhdon t\u00eb jet\u00eb nj\u00eb nd\u00ebr problematikat q\u00eb ballafaqohen me t\u00eb bashk\u00ebshort\u00ebt, e sidomos ata t\u00eb porsamartuarit.<\/p>\n
Ka nga grat\u00eb t\u00eb cilat d\u00ebshirojn\u00eb q\u00eb burrin ta b\u00ebjn\u00eb t\u00eb lumtur dhe tentojn\u00eb q\u00eb t\u2019i afrohen atij duke ia respektuar familjen dhe duke e respektuar dhe e dashur at\u00eb. Ka nga grat\u00eb q\u00eb sillen mir\u00eb me familjen e burrit dhe n\u00ebp\u00ebrmjet tyre d\u00ebshirojn\u00eb ta fitojn\u00eb k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsin\u00eb e Allahut dhe t\u00eb fitojn\u00eb shp\u00ebrblime dhe p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb mir\u00ebsjellje nuk d\u00ebshirojn\u00eb fal\u00ebnderime e as shp\u00ebrblime nga ana e njer\u00ebzve. Ka nga grat\u00eb q\u00eb para martes\u00ebs s\u00eb tyre n\u00eb vetvete bartin zem\u00ebrim dhe urrejtje ndaj familjes s\u00eb burrit dhe menj\u00ebher\u00eb pas martes\u00ebs fillon ta nxjerr apo ta zbraz\u00eb at\u00eb q\u00eb e ndjen n\u00eb zemr\u00ebn e saj dhe tenton t\u00eb mbisundon n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi. Ka nga grat\u00eb q\u00eb shohin n\u00eb burrat e tyre sjellje t\u00eb keqe ndaj familjar\u00ebve t\u00eb tyre dhe p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb arsye edhe ato u hakmerren burrave n\u00ebp\u00ebrmjet sjelljeve t\u00eb keqe ndaj familjeve t\u00eb tyre.<\/p>\n N\u00eb vazhdim do t\u2019i sjelli shkurtimisht disa k\u00ebshilla t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme, p\u00ebr p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsimin e k\u00ebsaj \u00e7\u00ebshtjeje me q\u00ebllim q\u00eb gruaja t\u00eb b\u00ebhet m\u00eb e dashur n\u00eb familjen e burrit t\u00eb saj:<\/p>\n 1. Burri pasi q\u00eb ta zgjedh gruan e ndershme, e cila e kupton fjal\u00ebn bamir\u00ebsi, duhet t\u2019ia qart\u00ebsoj\u00eb gruas nga fillimi i martes\u00ebs s\u00eb tyre, se k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsia e prind\u00ebrve t\u00eb tij do t\u00eb jet\u00eb \u00e7el\u00ebs i cili e hap\u00eb der\u00ebn e zemr\u00ebs s\u00eb tij, n\u00ebse ajo d\u00ebshiron t\u00eb hyj\u00eb n\u00eb at\u00eb zem\u00ebr. Kjo do ta b\u00ebj\u00eb gruan q\u00eb nga fillimi i martes\u00ebs ta vler\u00ebsoj\u00eb dhe ta nderoj\u00eb familjen e tij.<\/p>\n 2. Gruaja nuk duhet t\u00eb detyrohet t\u00eb veproj\u00eb gj\u00ebra t\u00eb cilat nuk mundet t\u2019i p\u00ebrballoj\u00eb vet\u00ebm e vet\u00ebm t\u00eb k\u00ebnaqet familja, po detyrohet q\u00eb sh\u00ebrbimin e saj ndaj tyre ta b\u00ebj\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb buroj\u00eb nga brend\u00ebsia e saj, pra t\u00eb jet\u00eb sh\u00ebrbim q\u00eb ajo d\u00ebshiron me vet d\u00ebshir\u00eb ta kryen.<\/p>\n 3. Burri duhet t\u00eb nxitoj\u00eb dhe t\u00eb ngutet p\u00ebr n\u00eb p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsimin e raporteve mes tyre, prind\u00ebrve dhe gruas, q\u00eb nga fillimi i martes\u00ebs, duke i lajm\u00ebruar prind\u00ebrit se ajo i do dhe i lavd\u00ebron sikurse i do dhe lavd\u00ebron prind\u00ebrit e saj. Dhe e kund\u00ebrta, t\u00eb shkoj\u00eb ta lajm\u00ebroj\u00eb gruan e tij se familja dhe prind\u00ebrit e tij, t\u00eb gjith\u00eb, e lavd\u00ebrojn\u00eb at\u00eb dhe e respektojn\u00eb dhe \u00e7do her\u00eb g\u00ebzohen me takimin e saj.<\/p>\n 4. Burri n\u00ebse i blen gruas s\u00eb vet di\u00e7ka q\u00eb ky e do ose ajo vet e d\u00ebshiron, mir\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb q\u00eb t\u2019ia qart\u00ebsoj\u00eb se kjo ide ka qen\u00eb e prind\u00ebrve t\u00eb tij, dhe e kund\u00ebrta, n\u00ebse d\u00ebshiron q\u00eb t\u2019i dhuroj\u00eb prind\u00ebrve ndonj\u00eb dhurat\u00eb t\u2019i lajm\u00ebron ata se kjo ka qen\u00eb ide e saj. Kjo lind dashuri dhe afrim mes tyre.<\/p>\n 5. Burri duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb i kujdessh\u00ebm nga bartja e fsheht\u00ebsive t\u00eb sht\u00ebpis\u00eb s\u00eb tyre dhe t\u00eb familjes s\u00eb tij. Shum\u00eb nga grat\u00eb d\u00ebshirojn\u00eb t\u2019i ruajn\u00eb fsheht\u00ebsit\u00eb e tyre, e ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht nga jeta e tyre private, dhe mos t\u2019ua tregojn\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve, k\u00ebshtu q\u00eb n\u00ebse burri i shpalos ato at\u00ebher\u00eb ka mund\u00ebsi q\u00eb ajo t\u00eb ndjen ndaj familjes s\u00eb tij nj\u00eb lloj urrejtje. Shpalosja e fsheht\u00ebsive shkakton armiq\u00ebsi e urrejtje, dhe d\u00ebmi \u00ebsht\u00eb aq i madh sa nuk mundet t\u00eb num\u00ebrohet.<\/p>\n 6. Nuk duhet q\u00eb t\u00eb dyja pal\u00ebt t\u00eb nd\u00ebrhyn n\u00eb pun\u00ebt e tjetr\u00ebs. Burri duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb i kujdessh\u00ebm q\u00eb t\u00eb mos nd\u00ebrhyj\u00eb familja n\u00eb problemet e tij me gruan e vet, me q\u00ebllim q\u00eb t\u00eb mos bie gruaja e tij n\u00eb nj\u00eb pozit\u00eb t\u00eb keqe dhe jo t\u00eb lakmuar para familjareve. Po ashtu duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb i kujdessh\u00ebm mos ta kritikoj\u00eb para prind\u00ebrve apo familjar\u00ebve, p\u00ebr arsye se kjo e b\u00ebn t\u00eb turp\u00ebrohet.<\/p>\n 7. Burri duhet q\u00eb ta respektoj\u00eb dhe nderoj\u00eb familjen e gruas s\u00eb tij, n\u00eb ve\u00e7anti prind\u00ebrit e saj, gj\u00eb q\u00eb e nxit gruan t\u00eb sillet me prind\u00ebrit dhe familjen e tij n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb reciproke.<\/p>\n 8. Burri detyrohet t\u2019i plot\u00ebsoj\u00eb nevojat e sht\u00ebpis\u00eb, f\u00ebmij\u00ebve, gruas dhe familjes s\u00eb tij. Ndodh nganj\u00ebher\u00eb e kund\u00ebrta e saj, ku burri nuk i plot\u00ebson ato dhe shejtani e shfryt\u00ebzon k\u00ebt\u00eb der\u00eb dhe dep\u00ebrton shum\u00eb leht\u00eb deri tek gruaja dhe i shkakton ngushtim n\u00eb gjoks ndaj familjes s\u00eb tij dhe i largon nga ata.<\/p>\n 9. Burri gjithmon\u00eb kur v\u00ebren ngushtim n\u00eb gjoksin e saj ndaj familjes s\u00eb tij, duhet q\u00eb t\u2019ia rikujtoj\u00eb Allahun dhe t\u2019ia rikujtoj\u00eb se, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb respektues i lidhjeve farefisnore ai q\u00eb i shk\u00ebput ato. Te \u00e7do grua n\u00eb brend\u00ebsin\u00eb e saj ka hajr dhe mir\u00ebsi dhe ndoshta k\u00ebshilla asaj i b\u00ebn dobi dhe ua fal t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve padrejt\u00ebsit\u00eb dhe b\u00ebhet e m\u00ebshirshme.<\/p>\n 10. Burri duhet ta fal\u00ebnderoj\u00eb gruan e tij me fjal\u00eb fal\u00ebnderimi, si Allahu t\u00eb shp\u00ebrbleft\u00eb, kur e sheh se ajo sillet mir\u00eb ndaj familjar\u00ebve t\u00eb tij. Kjo pa dyshim se ia ngrit moralin dhe ia shton ambiciet dhe e stimulon q\u00eb sa m\u00eb shum\u00eb ta shtoj\u00eb mir\u00ebsin\u00eb ndaj tyre. Po ashtu duhet t\u2019ia b\u00ebj\u00eb me dije se ajo me mir\u00ebsjelljen dhe respektin q\u00eb ia b\u00ebn familjes dhe prind\u00ebrve t\u00eb tij, vet\u00ebm se ia ka pushtuar zemr\u00ebn atij.<\/p>\n Nga arabishtja: Irfan JAHIU<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" \u00c7\u00ebshtja e gruas dhe familja e burrit t\u00eb saj me kali\u00acmin e viteve ende vazhdon t\u00eb jet\u00eb nj\u00eb nd\u00ebr problematikat q\u00eb ballafaqohen me t\u00eb bashk\u00ebshort\u00ebt, e sidomos ata t\u00eb porsamartuarit. 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