Nganj\u00ebher\u00eb shqiptojm\u00eb fjal\u00eb pa ndonj\u00eb q\u00ebllim t\u00eb ve\u00e7ant\u00eb dhe nuk u kushtojm\u00eb fare r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi, por ato e vrasin tjetrin n\u00eb ndjenja dhe shkaktojn\u00eb probleme. Kur e shohim gabimin, ndjejm\u00eb keqardhje dhe shpresojm\u00eb q\u00eb koha t\u00eb kthehet e ta p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsojm\u00eb at\u00eb gabim, mir\u00ebpo edhe p\u00ebrskaj asaj se ndjejm\u00eb keqardhje, s\u2019kemi mund\u00ebsi t\u00eb kthehemi e ta p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsojm\u00eb dhembjen q\u00eb e shkaktuan ato fjal\u00eb. Prandaj gruaja duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb e men\u00e7ur dhe e kujdesshme q\u00eb mos t\u2019ia p\u00ebrmend burrit t\u00eb saj ato fjal\u00eb q\u00eb e irritojn\u00eb dhe e nxisin ta b\u00ebn at\u00eb q\u00eb nuk duhet ta b\u00ebn!<\/p>\n
1. Dua divorc<\/p>\n
Nj\u00eb nd\u00ebr gabimet m\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00ebdha q\u00eb bie n\u00eb to gruaja \u00ebsht\u00eb kur i thot\u00eb burrit t\u00eb saj se, dua divorc! Fjala divorc duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb jasht\u00eb fjalorit t\u00ebnd dhe konsideroje se \u00ebsht\u00eb opsion i fundit n\u00eb jet\u00ebn t\u00ebnde bashk\u00ebshortore madje opsion q\u00eb s\u2019ekziston. P\u00ebrmendja e divorcit e l\u00ebndon burrin dhe martes\u00ebn t\u00ebnde. Paramendoje veten n\u00eb vendin e tij kur ti d\u00ebgjosh ato fjal\u00eb.<\/p>\n
2. I fejuari im i m\u00ebparsh\u00ebm ishte dhe ishte<\/p>\n
N\u00ebse gruaja ka qen\u00eb e fejuar m\u00eb her\u00ebt nuk duhet t\u2019ia p\u00ebrmend burrit t\u00eb fejuarin e m\u00ebparsh\u00ebm t\u00eb saj apo edhe burrin q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb ndar\u00eb nga ai, n\u00ebse ka qen\u00eb e martuar m\u00eb her\u00ebt. Madje s\u2019ka nevoj\u00eb as emri t\u2019i p\u00ebrmendet. Mos ia p\u00ebrmend burrit t\u00ebnd se ai sillej m\u00eb mir\u00eb me ty dhe se dallohej me di\u00e7ka m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb se ai. Shprehjet e tilla e l\u00ebndojn\u00eb thell\u00eb dhe mos harro se partneri yt nuk pranon asnj\u00ebher\u00eb dhe assesi krahasim me dik\u00eb tjet\u00ebr.<\/p>\n
3. Ti je si prindi yt plot\u00ebsisht<\/p>\n
Mos i thuaj burrit t\u00ebnd se \u00ebsht\u00eb si prindi i vet, asnj\u00ebher\u00eb. Kjo do ta demoralizoj\u00eb shpirt\u00ebrisht dhe do ta b\u00ebj\u00eb q\u00eb ta humb vet\u00ebbesimin. Kjo po ashtu \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00ebn\u00e7mim p\u00ebr prindin e vet dhe ofendim p\u00ebr t\u00eb. Largoju nga t\u00eb folurit negativ p\u00ebr familjen e tij. Mundohu q\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebhesh ur\u00eb lidh\u00ebse p\u00ebr hajr dhe mir\u00ebsi mes tij dhe familjes s\u00eb tij.<\/p>\n
4 T\u00eb lutem largohu nga un\u00eb<\/p>\n
Gjat\u00eb mosmarr\u00ebveshjeve mos i thuaj t\u00eb largohet nga ti, sepse kjo do ta v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsoj\u00eb situat\u00ebn edhe m\u00eb tep\u00ebr. Lajm\u00ebroje p\u00ebr gabimin e jo q\u00eb t\u00eb largohet nga ti. Lajm\u00ebroje p\u00ebr at\u00eb q\u00eb ti e do dhe p\u00ebr at\u00eb se ai ku e ka gabim q\u00eb ta dij\u00eb edhe ai gabimin e tij, n\u00ebse ka gabuar dhe mos e mbyll mosmarr\u00ebveshjen vet\u00ebm se me akuza.<\/p>\n
5. Mos ia shpreh pak\u00ebnaq\u00ebsin\u00eb t\u00ebnde nga lidhja e juaj e ngroh\u00ebt<\/p>\n
P\u00ebrkundrazi, ti rip\u00ebrt\u00ebrije romantik\u00ebn n\u00eb jet\u00ebn tuaj bashk\u00ebshortore dhe paraqite dashurin\u00eb t\u00ebnde ndaj tij q\u00eb me t\u00eb t\u2019ia shtosh vet\u00ebbesimin dhe n\u00eb t\u00eb ardhmen t\u00eb p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsohet vet.<\/p>\n
6. Ndryshoje pun\u00ebn apo profesionin t\u00ebnd<\/p>\n
Mos ia thuaj k\u00ebto fjal\u00eb n\u00ebse nuk ka nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr to, sepse ai do t\u00eb ndjehet i mang\u00ebt dhe do t\u00eb fitoj\u00eb p\u00ebrshtypjen se e sulmon dhe se at\u00eb q\u00eb e b\u00ebn ai p\u00ebr ty nuk t\u00eb mjafton. N\u00eb vend t\u00eb k\u00ebtyre fjal\u00ebve mendo mir\u00eb se pse d\u00ebshiron q\u00eb ai ta nd\u00ebrroj\u00eb vendin e pun\u00ebs? P\u00ebr shkak se \u00ebsht\u00eb larg sht\u00ebpis\u00eb dhe vonohet derisa vjen n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi, apo shumic\u00ebn e koh\u00ebs e kalon jasht\u00eb sht\u00ebpis\u00eb dhe nuk rri me ty p\u00ebr shkak profesionit apo pun\u00ebs s\u00eb tij, apo si opsion m\u00eb i mir\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb shp\u00ebrnguleni m\u00eb af\u00ebr pun\u00ebs s\u00eb tij, etj. Pra, nj\u00ebher\u00eb mendo mir\u00eb e pastaj thuaja at\u00eb q\u00eb e mendon.<\/p>\n
Burri yt duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb njeriu i fundit q\u00eb mund ta l\u00ebndosh edhe pse shpesh ndodh q\u00eb ai t\u00eb l\u00ebndohet n\u00eb shum\u00eb raste. Fjal\u00ebt tona d\u00ebmtojn\u00eb m\u00eb shum\u00eb se sa ne q\u00eb mendojm\u00eb dhe ajo m\u00eb e keqja \u00ebsht\u00eb se nuk harrohen ndoshta edhe me vite t\u00eb t\u00ebra!<\/p>\n
Nga arabishtja: Irfan JAHIU<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Nganj\u00ebher\u00eb shqiptojm\u00eb fjal\u00eb pa ndonj\u00eb q\u00ebllim t\u00eb ve\u00e7ant\u00eb dhe nuk u kushtojm\u00eb fare r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi, por ato e vrasin tjetrin n\u00eb ndjenja dhe shkaktojn\u00eb probleme. Kur e shohim gabimin, ndjejm\u00eb keqardhje dhe shpresojm\u00eb q\u00eb koha t\u00eb kthehet e ta p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsojm\u00eb at\u00eb gabim, mir\u00ebpo edhe p\u00ebrskaj asaj se ndjejm\u00eb keqardhje, s\u2019kemi mund\u00ebsi t\u00eb kthehemi e ta p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsojm\u00eb […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":4496,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5,11,25,67],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-4495","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-c95-ahlak","8":"category-c98-ceshtje-bashkekohore","9":"category-c94-gruaja-dhe-familja","10":"category-te-zgjedhura"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4495","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/4"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=4495"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4495\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4497,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4495\/revisions\/4497"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/4496"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=4495"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=4495"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=4495"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}