Ib\u00ebn Hanbeli, Allahu e m\u00ebshiroft\u00eb, ia dha disa porosi birit t\u00eb tij t\u00eb porsamartuar dhe i tha: O biri im, dije se lumturia e sht\u00ebpis\u00eb t\u00ebnde do t\u00eb varet nga dhjet\u00eb cil\u00ebsi q\u00eb duhet t\u2019ia japish gruas t\u00ebnde, prandaj m\u00ebsoi nga un\u00eb dhe p\u00ebrkujdesu p\u00ebr to.<\/p>\n
E para dhe e dyta<\/strong>: Biri im dije se grat\u00eb duan q\u00eb t\u2019ua shprehish dashurin\u00eb q\u00eb e ndjen ndaj tyre dhe mos u b\u00ebj koprrac ndaj gruas t\u00ebnde, po shprehe dashurin\u00eb q\u00eb e ndjen ndaj saj. N\u00ebse nuk ia shpreh ndjenjat e tua, dije se mes teje dhe saj do t\u00eb vendossh penges\u00eb apo perde e cila do t\u00eb ndikon q\u00eb t\u00eb ftohen raportet dhe t\u00eb zvog\u00eblohet dashuria mes jush.<\/p>\n E treta<\/strong>: Grat\u00eb e urrejn\u00eb burrin e ashp\u00ebr e t\u00eb eg\u00ebr dhe e keqp\u00ebrdorin t\u00eb butin e t\u00eb dob\u00ebtin, p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb arsye \u00e7do cil\u00ebsie p\u00ebrshtatja vendin e saj t\u00eb duhur. Kjo sjell dashuri dhe mbjell rehati shpirt\u00ebrore.<\/p>\n E kat\u00ebrta:<\/strong> Grat\u00eb e duan nga burrat e tyre at\u00eb q\u00eb e duan burrat nga grat\u00eb e tyre, sa i p\u00ebrket fjal\u00ebve t\u00eb mira, pamjes s\u00eb bukur dhe past\u00ebrtis\u00eb s\u00eb rrobave dhe parfumit t\u00eb mir\u00eb. Ti vepro n\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha rastet ashtu. N\u00ebse d\u00ebshiron t\u2019i afrohesh gruas t\u00ebnde dhe djers\u00ebt t\u00eb rrjedhin n\u00ebp\u00ebr trup dhe rrobave tua u vjen era e keqe, largohu nga ajo. N\u00ebse i afrohesh n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb gjendje dije se zemra e saj do t\u00eb t\u00ebrhiqet dhe refuzon edhe n\u00ebse ajo t\u00eb n\u00ebnshtrohet. N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb rast do t\u00eb n\u00ebnshtrohet trupi i saj dhe do t\u00eb ik nga ti zemra e saj.<\/p>\n E pesta:<\/strong> Sht\u00ebpia \u00ebsht\u00eb mbret\u00ebria e gruas dhe ajo n\u00eb t\u00eb ndjehet se ka hipur mbi fronin e saj dhe se \u00ebsht\u00eb zonjusha e saj. Mjer\u00eb p\u00ebr ty n\u00ebse ti e shkat\u00ebrron at\u00eb mbret\u00ebri ku ajo jeton. Mjer\u00eb p\u00ebr ty n\u00ebse tenton ta largosh nga froni i saj. N\u00ebse ti e vepron k\u00ebt\u00eb gj\u00eb dije se je futur n\u00eb konflikt me t\u00eb dhe dije se nuk ka armiq\u00ebsi m\u00eb t\u00eb rrept\u00eb p\u00ebr nj\u00eb mbret\u00ebri se sa kur ndokush tenton t\u2019ia merr fronin edhe n\u00ebse atij i duket ndryshe.<\/p>\n E gjashta:<\/strong> Gruaja do ta p\u00ebrfitoj\u00eb burrin e saj dhe mos ta humb familjen e saj. Mjer\u00eb p\u00ebr ty n\u00ebse e vendos veten me familjen e saj n\u00eb nj\u00eb peshoj\u00eb, ose ti ose familja e saj.<\/p>\n E shtata:<\/strong> Gruaja \u00ebsht\u00eb krijuar nga briri i lakuar. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb fsheht\u00ebsia e bukuris\u00eb s\u00eb saj dhe fsheht\u00ebsia se pse ajo \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00ebrheq\u00ebse. Kjo nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb mang\u00ebsi n\u00eb t\u00eb. Ajo n\u00ebse gabon tento t\u2019ia mbulosh at\u00eb t\u00eb met\u00eb dhe t\u2019ia fal\u00ebsh at\u00eb gabim dhe je i duruesh\u00ebm me t\u00eb. N\u00ebse tenton ta drejtosh bririn e lakuar do t\u00eb thyhet, kurse thyerja e tij \u00ebsht\u00eb divorci. Kjo nuk do t\u00eb thot\u00eb se n\u00ebse ajo gabon t\u00eb lihet ashtu, po qe se e lejon t\u00eb vazhdon ashtu at\u00ebher\u00eb ajo m\u00eb shum\u00eb do t\u00eb rebelohet kund\u00ebr teje dhe nuk do t\u00eb respekton dhe nuk do t\u00eb sillet but\u00eb me ty. Prandaj gjithmon\u00eb je n\u00eb mes.<\/p>\n E teta:<\/strong> Grat\u00eb nga natyrshm\u00ebria e tyre jan\u00eb mohuese t\u00eb begative dhe t\u00eb mirave q\u00eb ua b\u00ebjn\u00eb burrat atyre. N\u00ebse tan\u00eb jet\u00ebn sillesh me to mir\u00eb e pastaj vet\u00ebm se nj\u00ebher\u00eb e d\u00ebmton do t\u00eb thot\u00eb: Nga ti nuk kam par\u00eb asnj\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb. Mos e lejo veten t\u00eb biesh kurban i k\u00ebsaj sjelljeje apo morali e ta urresh at\u00eb dhe t\u00eb ik\u00ebsh nga ajo. Ti n\u00ebse e urren k\u00ebt\u00eb cil\u00ebsi apo moral t\u00eb keq t\u00eb saj pa dyshim se te ajo t\u00eb p\u00eblqejn\u00eb cil\u00ebsi tjera t\u00eb mira q\u00eb ajo i ka dhe i posedon.<\/p>\n E n\u00ebnta:<\/strong> Dije se gruaja kalon n\u00ebp\u00ebr disa periudha t\u00eb dob\u00ebsis\u00eb trupore dhe t\u00eb lodhjes shpirt\u00ebrore, derisa Allahu n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb periudh\u00eb nuk e ka ngarkuar me disa detyrime fetare. Nga ajo nuk k\u00ebrkohet namazi assesi gjat\u00eb periudh\u00ebs s\u00eb menstruacioneve dhe lehonis\u00eb dhe po ashtu agj\u00ebrimi edhe pse agj\u00ebrimi pasi q\u00eb ta kaloj\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb periudh\u00eb k\u00ebrkohet t\u00eb z\u00ebvend\u00ebsohet. N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb periudh\u00eb q\u00ebndro pran\u00eb saj dhe b\u00ebhu i sjellsh\u00ebm me t\u00eb. Ashtu si\u00e7 Allahu ia leht\u00ebsoi disa detyrime edhe ti b\u00ebhu i sjellsh\u00ebm dhe mos k\u00ebrko nga ajo shum\u00eb, zvog\u00ebloi k\u00ebrkesat dhe urdhrat e tua.<\/p>\n E dhjeta:<\/strong> Dije se gruaja te ti \u00ebsht\u00eb amanet, prandaj m\u00ebshiroje dhe falja t\u00eb metat dhe gabimet dhe ajo do t\u00eb b\u00ebhet k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsia jote n\u00eb dynja dhe ahiret.<\/p>\n Nga arabishtja: Irfan JAHIU<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Ib\u00ebn Hanbeli, Allahu e m\u00ebshiroft\u00eb, ia dha disa porosi birit t\u00eb tij t\u00eb porsamartuar dhe i tha: O biri im, dije se lumturia e sht\u00ebpis\u00eb t\u00ebnde do t\u00eb varet nga dhjet\u00eb cil\u00ebsi q\u00eb duhet t\u2019ia japish gruas t\u00ebnde, prandaj m\u00ebsoi nga un\u00eb dhe p\u00ebrkujdesu p\u00ebr to. 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