Gjat\u00eb pushimeve verore nj\u00eb organizat\u00eb m\u00eb organizoi nj\u00eb kurs edukativ. Ishte nj\u00eb prej kurseve m\u00eb t\u00eb vizituara dhe q\u00eb ngjalli interesim. Ajo q\u00eb ma t\u00ebrhoqi v\u00ebmendjen dhe m\u00eb p\u00eblqeu ishte organizimi i mrekulluesh\u00ebm prej organizator\u00ebve.<\/p>\n
Kursi i p\u00ebrmbante dy koh\u00eb: t\u00eb sabahut dhe t\u00eb mbr\u00ebmjes. N\u00eb secil\u00ebn koh\u00eb trajtoheshin tema t\u00eb ndryshme.<\/p>\n
Pjes\u00ebmarrja n\u00eb koh\u00ebn e sabahut ishte m\u00eb e madhe dhe interesimi m\u00eb i gjall\u00eb. Tema e kursit lidhej me edukimin e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve, k\u00ebshtu q\u00eb i pakontestuesh\u00ebm ishte fakti se nj\u00eb pjes\u00eb e madhe e kursit kishte lidhshm\u00ebri t\u00eb madhe me ve\u00e7orit\u00eb e zhvillimit dhe p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsimit t\u00eb sjelljes. K\u00ebto tema kan\u00eb lidhje m\u00eb shum\u00eb me psikologjin\u00eb sesa me edukimin dhe zbatimin e saj.<\/p>\n
N\u00eb mesin e t\u00eb pranishm\u00ebve kishte pedagoge t\u00eb cilat punonin n\u00eb kopshtet e f\u00ebmij\u00ebve dhe psikologe. Ato m\u2019i dhan\u00eb disa v\u00ebrejtje rreth aspektit shkencor n\u00eb profesionin e tyre.<\/p>\n
N\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi, v\u00ebrejtjet erdh\u00ebn si pasoj\u00eb e disa gabimeve t\u00eb mia dyt\u00ebsore dhe pa ndikim, sikur q\u00eb nd\u00ebrlidhen me detajet e ve\u00e7orive t\u00eb zhvillimit apo detajet e m\u00ebsimit dhe p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsimit t\u00eb sjelljes etj.<\/p>\n
N\u00eb shumic\u00ebn e rasteve jam i ndjesh\u00ebm nga v\u00ebrejtjet e t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve, jo q\u00eb ato nuk i pranoj, por l\u00ebn\u00eb gjurm\u00eb n\u00eb veten time. P\u00ebr m\u00eb qart\u00eb, ato m\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb t\u00eb ndihem se ekziston nj\u00eb lloj pak\u00ebnaq\u00ebsie ndaj asaj q\u00eb e prezantoj, qoft\u00eb n\u00eb form\u00eb t\u00eb shkruar apo auditive.<\/p>\n
V\u00ebrejtjet e tyre lan\u00eb gjurm\u00eb t\u00eb thella tek un\u00eb dhe m\u2019u duk\u00ebn t\u00eb m\u00ebdha. Kjo lindi n\u00eb veten time ndjenj\u00ebn e d\u00ebshtimit.<\/p>\n
N\u00eb sabahun e dit\u00ebs s\u00eb nes\u00ebrme fola rreth tem\u00ebs dhe k\u00ebrkova falje nga t\u00eb pranishmit, meshkuj dhe femra, p\u00ebr l\u00ebshimet dhe gabimet q\u00eb i kisha b\u00ebr\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Mir\u00ebpo, m\u00eb befasoi reagimi i t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve t\u00eb cil\u00ebt kishin v\u00ebrejtjet e tyre p\u00ebr v\u00ebrejtjet e para, ata e shihnin se ato ishin pak t\u00eb st\u00ebrmadhuara.<\/p>\n
T\u00eb pranishmit ishin prej t\u00eb dy gjinive, meshkuj dhe femra, porse gjinia fem\u00ebrore ishin m\u00eb shum\u00eb. N\u00eb fund t\u00eb kursit organizator\u00ebt e zhvilluan nj\u00eb anket\u00eb, ku t\u00eb gjith\u00eb ishin shprehur se kishin dal\u00eb t\u00eb k\u00ebnaqur dhe kishin p\u00ebrfituar nga m\u00ebsimet. Kjo m\u00eb dha qet\u00ebsi dhe ndjeva n\u00eb vete se puna ime paska qen\u00eb e pranuar dhe me ndikim.<\/p>\n
Ky rast ma kujtoi nj\u00eb mik timin t\u00eb respektuar i cili e kishte zakon t\u2019i shikonte gj\u00ebrat me llup\u00eb dhe t\u00eb kritikonte tep\u00ebr. Jo q\u00eb e kishte moralin e keq apo d\u00ebshironte t\u2019i p\u00ebrcillte t\u00eb metat e tjer\u00ebve, assesi nuk b\u00ebhej fjal\u00eb p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb, por karakterin e kishte t\u00eb till\u00eb. Madje, disa prej nx\u00ebn\u00ebsve t\u00eb tij ishin ndikuar prej tij dhe e kishin marr\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb tabiat. N\u00eb nj\u00eb organizim q\u00eb e pata organizuar un\u00eb, megjith\u00ebse nuk isha i pranish\u00ebm aty, mor\u00ebn pjes\u00eb disa nx\u00ebn\u00ebs t\u00eb tij e, kur u takova m\u00eb von\u00eb me mikun tim, ma dha nj\u00eb list\u00eb t\u00eb gjat\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrejtjeve q\u00eb ia kishin p\u00ebrcjell\u00eb nx\u00ebn\u00ebsit e tij. Kjo m\u00eb m\u00ebrziti derisa u brengosa p\u00ebr nivelin e organizimit. Mir\u00ebpo, kur u takova me von\u00eb me organizator\u00ebt e tjer\u00eb, e pash\u00eb q\u00eb kishte nj\u00eb st\u00ebrmadhim n\u00eb v\u00ebrejtjet e nx\u00ebn\u00ebsve t\u00eb mikut tim.<\/p>\n
– \u00cbsht\u00eb me r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi t\u00eb madhe t\u00eb kujdesemi p\u00ebr v\u00ebrejtjet e t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve, t\u00eb p\u00ebrfitojm\u00eb prej tyre, ta zhvillojm\u00eb interpretimin ton\u00eb dhe t\u00eb mundohemi t\u2019i rishikojm\u00eb veprat t\u00eb cilat i veprojm\u00eb n\u00ebn hijen e atyre v\u00ebrejtjeve q\u00eb i d\u00ebgjojm\u00eb. Megjithat\u00eb, duhet t\u00eb kemi kujdes nga dy gj\u00ebra:<\/p>\n
E para: Zmadhimi i gabimeve t\u00eb vogla q\u00eb nganj\u00ebher\u00eb mund t\u00eb burojn\u00eb prej nesh. Nj\u00eb pjes\u00eb e madhe e k\u00ebtyre gabimeve jan\u00eb pjes\u00eb e pandashme e natyr\u00ebs njer\u00ebzore dhe s\u2019mund t\u2019u iket.<\/p>\n
E dyta: Zmadhimi i v\u00ebrejtjeve individuale t\u00eb cilat na vijn\u00eb nga disa persona. Kjo shfaqet shpesh n\u00eb takimet e diskutimeve dhe n\u00eb fush\u00ebveprime, kur disa njer\u00ebz paraqesin v\u00ebrejtje rreth nj\u00eb \u00e7\u00ebshtjeje t\u00eb caktuar, e cila mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb, thjesht, nj\u00eb pik\u00ebpamje dhe, ndoshta, e ka nj\u00eb an\u00eb t\u00eb s\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00ebs q\u00eb josh p\u00ebr ta pranuar, mir\u00ebpo e st\u00ebrmadhon. Ka njer\u00ebz q\u00eb natyr\u00ebn e kan\u00eb t\u00eb till\u00eb, i zmadhojn\u00eb v\u00ebrejtjet e tyre dhe i shfaqin t\u00eb st\u00ebrmadhuara, k\u00ebshtu q\u00eb pik\u00ebpamja e tyre p\u00ebrball\u00eb rrethit t\u00eb diskutimit, apo p\u00ebr tem\u00ebn dhe projektin, shnd\u00ebrrohet n\u00eb pik\u00ebpamje negative.<\/p>\n
N\u00eb an\u00ebn tjet\u00ebr, ekziston nj\u00eb pamje tjet\u00ebr e cila shfaqet n\u00eb disa forma, n\u00eb at\u00eb t\u00eb frik\u00ebs s\u00eb madhe nga kritikat dhe v\u00ebrejtjet, apo v\u00ebrejtjet nuk i merr parasysh fare, me pretekst se gabimi \u00ebsht\u00eb natyr\u00eb njer\u00ebzore dhe se v\u00ebrejtjet jan\u00eb rreth gj\u00ebrave dyt\u00ebsore e jo rreth atyre par\u00ebsore etj.<\/p>\n
T\u00eb dy drejtimet nuk jan\u00eb si duhet, nuk sh\u00ebrbejn\u00eb q\u00eb kritika t\u00eb p\u00ebrdoret pozitivisht dhe t\u00eb p\u00ebrfitohet n\u00eb p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsim dhe zhvillim.<\/p>\n
Problemet e tilla mund t\u2019i tejkalojm\u00eb n\u00ebse kujdesemi t\u2019i d\u00ebgjojm\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt me baraspesh\u00eb, duke e vendosur kritik\u00ebn n\u00eb vendin e duhur. Nuk duhet ta zmadhojm\u00eb kritik\u00ebn derisa t\u00eb shnd\u00ebrrohet n\u00eb penges\u00eb p\u00ebr ne dhe nuk duhet t\u00eb dominoj\u00eb mbi ne arsyetimi e ta injorojm\u00eb \u00e7do kritik\u00eb.<\/p>\n
– Nga ky rast m\u00ebsova se gjat\u00eb trajtimit t\u00eb v\u00ebrejtjeve t\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve me r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb dallojm\u00eb n\u00eb mes v\u00ebrejtjeve sekondare t\u00eb detajuara dhe v\u00ebrejtjeve thelb\u00ebsore t\u00eb cilat ndikojn\u00eb n\u00eb thelbin e tem\u00ebs. Kjo gj\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e nj\u00ebllojt\u00eb n\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha situatat e jet\u00ebs. Si shembull, prishja e motorit t\u00eb makin\u00ebs nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb sikur prishja e magnetofonit. Prishja e kondicionerit t\u00eb ajrit n\u00eb nj\u00eb vend shum\u00eb t\u00eb nxeht\u00eb, apo prishja e llamb\u00ebs nat\u00ebn nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb sikur prishja e en\u00ebs s\u00eb ujit t\u00eb posa\u00e7\u00ebm p\u00ebr pastrimin e xhamit. K\u00ebshtu \u00ebsht\u00eb edhe n\u00eb bot\u00ebn e ideve dhe projekteve; v\u00ebrejtjet thelb\u00ebsore k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb t\u00eb trajtohen me ndjeshm\u00ebri t\u00eb madhe dhe t\u2019u kushtohet kujdes i ve\u00e7ant\u00eb, nd\u00ebrsa v\u00ebrejtjet e detajuara mund t\u00eb jen\u00eb t\u00eb dobishme dhe t\u00eb kontribuoj\u00eb zgjedhja e tyre n\u00eb p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsimin e pun\u00ebs, mir\u00ebpo nuk prekin n\u00eb thelbin dhe vler\u00ebn e pun\u00ebs.<\/p>\n
– M\u00ebsova se me r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb kujdesem p\u00ebr zbatimin e mjeteve objektive dhe m\u00ebsova gjat\u00eb diskutimit si t\u00eb dalloj diskutimin racional prej atij q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb vet\u00ebm k\u00ebndv\u00ebshtrim i dikujt. Trajtimi i pik\u00ebpamjeve t\u00eb njer\u00ebzve duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb me baraspesh\u00eb, sepse, n\u00ebse i pranojm\u00eb ato t\u00eb gjitha, do t\u00eb na b\u00ebj\u00eb t\u00eb ballafaqohemi me mendime q\u00eb nuk p\u00ebrfundojn\u00eb, sikur q\u00eb n\u00ebse i refuzojm\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha, do t\u00eb na privoj\u00eb nga shum\u00eb njohuri dhe p\u00ebrvoja t\u00eb ndryshme njer\u00ebzore.<\/p>\n
– Po ashtu, m\u00ebsova se zbatimi i mjeteve objektive t\u00eb prera \u00ebsht\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00eb n\u00eb shumic\u00ebn e situatave. N\u00eb raste t\u00eb tilla p\u00ebrpara nesh nuk mbetet p\u00ebrve\u00e7se t\u2019i trajtojm\u00eb pik\u00ebpamjet, derisa t\u00eb arrijm\u00eb deri n\u00eb nj\u00eb shkall\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrafrimit me situat\u00ebn e drejt\u00eb q\u00eb hulumtojm\u00eb pas saj.<\/p>\n
– M\u00ebsova se paanshm\u00ebria dhe objektivizmi nuk jan\u00eb penges\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb shikohet n\u00eb disa v\u00ebrejtje dhe komente q\u00eb burojn\u00eb nga t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt. V\u00ebrejtja e cila del nga nj\u00eb person q\u00eb s\u00eb tep\u00ebrmi \u00ebsht\u00eb i dh\u00ebn\u00eb pas p\u00ebrcjelljes s\u00eb detajeve dhe q\u00eb kritikon shum\u00eb, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e nj\u00ebjt\u00eb me v\u00ebrejtjen e tjetrit q\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb si ai.<\/p>\n
Nuk jan\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00eb i ndjeshmi q\u00eb e ngarkon veten me parashikimin e rezultateve negative, me at\u00eb q\u00eb i v\u00ebshtron gj\u00ebrat drejt e me objektiviz\u00ebm.<\/p>\n
Dr. Muhamed Duvejsh<\/p>\n
Nga arabishtja: Irfan Jahiu<\/p>\n
Pjes\u00eb nga libri: \u201cGabimet m\u00eb m\u00ebsuan\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Gjat\u00eb pushimeve verore nj\u00eb organizat\u00eb m\u00eb organizoi nj\u00eb kurs edukativ. Ishte nj\u00eb prej kurseve m\u00eb t\u00eb vizituara dhe q\u00eb ngjalli interesim. Ajo q\u00eb ma t\u00ebrhoqi v\u00ebmendjen dhe m\u00eb p\u00eblqeu ishte organizimi i mrekulluesh\u00ebm prej organizator\u00ebve. Kursi i p\u00ebrmbante dy koh\u00eb: t\u00eb sabahut dhe t\u00eb mbr\u00ebmjes. N\u00eb secil\u00ebn koh\u00eb trajtoheshin tema t\u00eb ndryshme. Pjes\u00ebmarrja n\u00eb koh\u00ebn […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":5909,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5,6,67,24],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-5908","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-c95-ahlak","8":"category-c96-davet","9":"category-te-zgjedhura","10":"category-c91-tregime"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5908","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/4"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=5908"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5908\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":5910,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/5908\/revisions\/5910"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/5909"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=5908"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=5908"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=5908"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}