{"id":6064,"date":"2022-09-09T13:16:26","date_gmt":"2022-09-09T13:16:26","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/?p=6064"},"modified":"2022-09-09T13:16:26","modified_gmt":"2022-09-09T13:16:26","slug":"nikahu-martesa-dhe-dispozitat-e-tij-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/?p=6064","title":{"rendered":"NIKAHU (MARTESA) DHE DISPOZITAT E TIJ"},"content":{"rendered":"
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  1. Nikahu (martesa) \u00ebsht\u00eb natyrshm\u00ebri njer\u00ebzore dhe domosdoshm\u00ebri jet\u00ebsore. \u00cbsht\u00eb shkak p\u00ebr banimin e Tok\u00ebs, p\u00ebr ruajtjen e nderit me hallall dhe mbrojtjen e tij nga harami, \u00ebsht\u00eb parambroj\u00eb nga sprovat dhe n\u00ebp\u00ebrmjet tij arrihet deri te f\u00ebmija. \u00cbsht\u00eb tradit\u00eb nga traditat e pejgamber\u00ebve dhe udh\u00ebzim i tyre dhe p\u00ebr n\u00eb t\u00eb nxiti sheriati.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Allahu thot\u00eb: \u201cAllahu i ka krijuar p\u00ebr ju grat\u00eb nga lloji juaj e nga grat\u00eb tuaja ju jep djemt\u00eb e nipat dhe ju furnizon me ushqime t\u00eb mira. A mos vall\u00eb, ata besojn\u00eb n\u00eb g\u00ebnjeshtra dhe i mohojn\u00eb dhuntit\u00eb e Allahut.\u201d (En-Nahl: 72)<\/p>\n

    Dhe thot\u00eb: \u201cV\u00ebrtet, edhe para teje Ne kemi sjell\u00eb t\u00eb d\u00ebrguar, t\u00eb cil\u00ebve u kemi dh\u00ebn\u00eb gra dhe pasardh\u00ebs\u2026\u201d (Er-Rad: 38)<\/p>\n

    Profeti, lavd\u00ebrimi dhe paqja e Allahut qofshin p\u00ebr t\u00eb, tha: \u201c\u2026un\u00eb agj\u00ebroj dhe ha, nat\u00ebn fali namaz, fle dhe martohem. Kush largohet nga suneti (tradita) im, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb prej meje.\u201d[1]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n

    N\u00eb nj\u00eb hadith tjet\u00ebr: \u201cO ju t\u00eb rinj! Kush ka mund\u00ebsi le t\u00eb martohet, sepse martesa e ruan syrin dhe e mbron epshin (nderin). Ai q\u00eb nuk ka mund\u00ebsi t\u00eb martohet, le t\u00eb agj\u00ebroj\u00eb, sepse agj\u00ebrimi \u00ebsht\u00eb mburoj\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb.\u201d[2]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n

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    1. Martesa \u00ebsht\u00eb shenj\u00eb nga shenjat e Allahut q\u00eb aludojn\u00eb n\u00eb madh\u00ebrin\u00eb dhe fuqin\u00eb e Tij, n\u00eb krijimtarin\u00eb e Tij t\u00eb bukur, n\u00eb gjer\u00ebsin\u00eb e m\u00ebshir\u00ebs s\u00eb Tij dhe n\u00eb p\u00ebrkujdesjen p\u00ebr rob\u00ebrit e Tij.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

      Allahu thot\u00eb: \u201cDhe nj\u00eb prej shenjave t\u00eb Tij \u00ebsht\u00eb q\u00eb prej jush krijoi p\u00ebr ju bashk\u00ebshortet tuaja, q\u00eb t\u00eb qet\u00ebsoheni pran\u00eb tyre, duke v\u00ebn\u00eb nd\u00ebrmjet jush dashuri dhe m\u00ebshir\u00eb. Me t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb, n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb ka shenja, p\u00ebr njer\u00ebzit q\u00eb mendojn\u00eb.\u201d (Er-Rum: 21)<\/p>\n

      Allahu e krijoi gruan q\u00eb burri t\u00eb gjej\u00eb qet\u00ebsi pran\u00eb saj, t\u00eb pushoj\u00eb zemra e tij pran\u00eb saj, t\u00eb fluturoj\u00eb shpirti i tij p\u00ebr takimin e saj, t\u00eb g\u00ebzohet me pamjen e saj, t\u00eb ndiej\u00eb qet\u00ebsi kur t\u00eb shkoj\u00eb n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi dhe t\u2019i mjaftoj\u00eb ajo q\u00eb ta ruaj\u00eb nderin e tij. Prandaj, sht\u00ebpia bashk\u00ebshortore n\u00eb gjuh\u00ebn arabe quhet \u201csekenen\u201d ose \u201cmeskenen\u201d (q\u00eb d.m.th. pushim dhe qet\u00ebsim \u2013 sh.p. \u2013 ). N\u00eb mes bashk\u00ebshort\u00ebve Allahu vuri dashuri dhe m\u00ebshir\u00eb dhe nuk ka af\u00ebrsi m\u00eb t\u00eb madhe bashk\u00ebshortore sesa af\u00ebrsia n\u00eb mes burrit dhe gruas s\u00eb tij.<\/p>\n

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      1. Martesa \u00ebsht\u00eb marr\u00ebveshje dhe bes\u00eblidhje, bashk\u00ebjetes\u00eb me sjellje t\u00eb mir\u00eb, p\u00ebrkujdesje p\u00ebr ndjenjat, largim p\u00ebr brengat, respekt i nd\u00ebrsjell\u00eb, autoritet i burrit mbi gruan, m\u00ebshir\u00eb p\u00ebr gruan dhe formim i nj\u00eb familjeje t\u00eb re mbi parime fetare.<\/li>\n
      2. Me ardhjen e Islamit, u shfuqizuan format e parregullta t\u00eb nikahut t\u00eb p\u00ebrhapura n\u00eb koh\u00ebn para Islamit dhe mbeti forma e nikahut t\u00eb ligjsh\u00ebm. Aisha, Allahu qoft\u00eb i k\u00ebnaqur prej saj, tha: \u201cKur Muhamedi, lavd\u00ebrimi dhe paqja e Allahut qofshin p\u00ebr t\u00eb, u d\u00ebrgua me t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00ebn (me shpalljen), i prishi t\u00eb gjitha format e nikahut q\u00eb b\u00ebheshin para Islamit, p\u00ebrve\u00e7 form\u00ebs s\u00eb nikahut q\u00eb sot e b\u00ebjn\u00eb njer\u00ebzit.\u201d[3]<\/sup><\/a><\/li>\n
      3. Martesa \u00ebsht\u00eb shenj\u00eb nga shenjat e Allahut. D\u00ebshir\u00ebn p\u00ebr martes\u00eb e b\u00ebri t\u00eb jet\u00eb pjes\u00eb n\u00eb natyrshm\u00ebrin\u00eb e t\u00eb gjitha krijesave. N\u00eb mesin e tyre njeriun e nderoi duke e p\u00ebrkufizuar martes\u00ebn e tij me kritere, dispozita dhe rregulla. Po ashtu e b\u00ebri adhurim dhe vep\u00ebr t\u00eb mir\u00eb q\u00eb n\u00ebp\u00ebrmjet saj i afrohet Allahut.<\/li>\n
      4. Nikahu n\u00eb esenc\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb \u2018mubah\u2019 (i lejuar, legjitim) dhe dispozita e tij ndryshon me ndryshimin e gjendjeve t\u00eb njeriut: p\u00ebr at\u00eb q\u00eb ka epsh, por e ruan veten t\u00eb mos bjer\u00eb n\u00eb imoralitet, martesa p\u00eblqehet; p\u00ebr at\u00eb q\u00eb ka mund\u00ebsi t\u00eb martohet dhe frikohet se po bie n\u00eb imoralitet, martesa obligohet; p\u00ebr at\u00eb q\u00eb frikohet t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb padrejt\u00ebsi, t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb ndonj\u00eb d\u00ebm dhe mang\u00ebsi, sikurse t\u00eb jet\u00eb i paaft\u00eb t\u00eb shpenzoj\u00eb p\u00ebr gruan, ose t\u00eb sillet keq me t\u00eb dhe t\u00eb ngjashme me to, martesa urrehet p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb njeri.<\/li>\n
      5. N\u00ebse burri d\u00ebshiron t\u00eb martohet \u00ebsht\u00eb mir\u00eb t\u00eb mos ngutet n\u00eb zgjedhjen e gruas. Ai p\u00ebr grua p\u00eblqehet q\u00eb ta martoj\u00eb at\u00eb q\u00eb ka fe, moral dhe ndershm\u00ebri, q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e dashur dhe q\u00eb lind f\u00ebmij\u00eb, t\u00eb jet\u00eb beqare dhe e bukur, nga familje e mir\u00eb dhe me prejardhje fisnike.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

        Sa m\u00eb shum\u00eb veti nga k\u00ebto t\u00eb lartp\u00ebrmendurat t\u2019i posedoj\u00eb nj\u00eb grua, aq m\u00eb shum\u00eb i shtohet vlera asaj.<\/p>\n

        Allahu thot\u00eb: \u201cGra t\u00eb mira jan\u00eb ato t\u00eb d\u00ebgjueshmet, q\u00eb ruajn\u00eb fsheht\u00ebsit\u00eb q\u00eb ka urdh\u00ebruar Allahu\u2026\u201d (En-Nisa: 34)<\/p>\n

        Profeti, lavd\u00ebrimi dhe paqja e Allahut qofshin p\u00ebr t\u00eb, thot\u00eb: \u201cGruaja martohet p\u00ebr kat\u00ebr gj\u00ebra: p\u00ebr pasurin\u00eb e saj, p\u00ebr prejardhjen e saj, p\u00ebr bukurin\u00eb e saj dhe p\u00ebr fen\u00eb e saj. Martoje at\u00eb q\u00eb ka fe, t\u00eb lumshin duart.\u201d[4]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n

        Profeti, lavd\u00ebrimi dhe paqja e Allahut qofshin p\u00ebr t\u00eb, thot\u00eb: \u201cDynjaja \u00ebsht\u00eb k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi dhe k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsia m\u00eb e mir\u00eb e dynjas\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb gruaja e ndershme.\u201d[5]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n

        Profeti, lavd\u00ebrimi dhe paqja e Allahut qofshin p\u00ebr t\u00eb, thot\u00eb: \u201cMartoni ato gra q\u00eb jan\u00eb t\u00eb dashura dhe q\u00eb lindin shum\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb, sepse un\u00eb do t\u00eb krenohem me ju para umeteve t\u00eb tjera n\u00eb Dit\u00ebn e Kiametit.\u201d[6]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n

        Profeti, lavd\u00ebrimi dhe paqja e Allahut qofshin p\u00ebr t\u00eb, i tha Xhabirit, Allahu qoft\u00eb i k\u00ebnaqur prej tij, kur u martua me t\u00eb vej\u00eb: \u201cPse nuk u martove me beqare, t\u00eb loz\u00ebsh me t\u00eb dhe ajo t\u00eb loz\u00eb me ty?!\u201d[7]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n

        Martesa me beqare n\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi m\u00eb shum\u00eb e afron dashurin\u00eb, e forcon af\u00ebrsin\u00eb dhe lidhjen n\u00eb mes bashk\u00ebshort\u00ebve, por mund t\u00eb zgjedh\u00eb edhe nj\u00eb t\u00eb vej\u00eb, n\u00ebse ajo i p\u00ebrshtatet gjendjes s\u00eb njeriut, si\u00e7 veproi Xhabiri, Allahu qoft\u00eb i k\u00ebnaqur prej tij, i cili u martua me t\u00eb vej\u00eb, q\u00eb ajo t\u00eb p\u00ebrkujdesej p\u00ebr motrat e tij.<\/p>\n

        Kur u pyet Profeti, lavd\u00ebrimi dhe paqja e Allahut qofshin p\u00ebr t\u00eb, se cila grua \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb e mir\u00eb, tha: \u201cAjo grua q\u00eb e g\u00ebzon burrin e vet kur ai e shikon, e respekton at\u00eb kur ai e urdh\u00ebron dhe q\u00eb nuk vepron di\u00e7ka q\u00eb ai e urren, n\u00eb lidhje me nderin e saj dhe pasurin\u00eb e tij.\u201d[8]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n

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        1. P\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsi i vajz\u00ebs e ka p\u00ebr detyr\u00eb q\u00eb at\u00eb ta martoj\u00eb me burr\u00eb q\u00eb posedon fe dhe moral si dhe t\u2019ia leht\u00ebsoj\u00eb asaj martes\u00ebn e jo t\u2019ia komplikoj\u00eb at\u00eb.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

          Allahu thot\u00eb: \u201cI martoni t\u00eb pamartuarit dhe t\u00eb pamartuarat nd\u00ebr ju, si dhe skllev\u00ebrit dhe skllavet tuaja q\u00eb jan\u00eb besimtar\u00eb t\u00eb ndersh\u00ebm! N\u00ebse jan\u00eb t\u00eb varf\u00ebr, Allahu, do t\u2019i begatoj\u00eb ata me dhuntin\u00eb e Tij; Allahu \u00ebsht\u00eb i Gjer\u00eb n\u00eb mir\u00ebsi dhe i Gjith\u00ebdijsh\u00ebm.\u201d (En-Nur: 32)<\/p>\n

          Profeti, lavd\u00ebrimi dhe paqja e Allahut qofshin p\u00ebr t\u00eb, thot\u00eb: \u201cN\u00ebse ju vjen ndokush q\u00eb ka fe dhe moral t\u2019jua k\u00ebrkoj\u00eb vajz\u00ebn p\u00ebr martes\u00eb, martojeni, e n\u00ebse jo, at\u00ebher\u00eb n\u00eb Tok\u00eb do t\u00eb ndodhin sprova dhe \u00e7rregullime t\u00eb m\u00ebdha.\u201d[9]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n

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          1. T\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqesh q\u00eb t\u2019i martosh t\u00eb drejt\u00ebt dhe t\u00eb drejtat dhe t\u00eb bashkosh nj\u00eb burr\u00eb me nj\u00eb grua, \u00ebsht\u00eb vep\u00ebr e mir\u00eb madh\u00ebshtore q\u00eb shp\u00ebrblehet shum\u00eb. Ky \u00ebsht\u00eb bashk\u00ebpunim p\u00ebr n\u00eb bamir\u00ebsi dhe devotshm\u00ebri, argument p\u00ebr mir\u00ebsi, nd\u00ebrmjet\u00ebsim i mir\u00eb, hapje e dyerve t\u00eb virtytshm\u00ebris\u00eb dhe mbyllje e dyerve t\u00eb sprovave. Mysliman\u00ebve u b\u00ebn dobi dhe shpirtrave t\u00eb tyre u jep g\u00ebzim e lumturi.<\/li>\n
          2. Obligim dhe p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsi e kan\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00eb, q\u00eb n\u00ebp\u00ebrmjet mjeteve morale dhe materiale t\u00eb mundshme, t\u2019u ndihmojn\u00eb t\u00eb rinjve q\u00eb t\u00eb themelojn\u00eb familje myslimane. Kjo mund t\u00eb b\u00ebhet duke i nxitur p\u00ebr martes\u00eb, duke i udh\u00ebzuar p\u00ebr te t\u00eb drejt\u00ebt dhe t\u00eb drejtat, duke i bashkuar t\u00eb rinjt\u00eb me t\u00eb rejat q\u00eb d\u00ebshirojn\u00eb martes\u00eb, duke ua larguar \u00e7do penges\u00eb, duke u dh\u00ebn\u00eb t\u00eb holla p\u00ebr martes\u00eb atyre q\u00eb kan\u00eb nevoj\u00eb, duke i nxitur bujar\u00ebt dhe fisnik\u00ebt nga pasanik\u00ebt q\u00eb t\u00eb shpenzojn\u00eb p\u00ebr martes\u00ebn e t\u00eb rinjve, derisa t\u00eb b\u00ebhemi nga ata q\u00eb Allahu thot\u00eb: \u201cata nxitojn\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb vepra t\u00eb mira\u2026\u201d (El-Muminun: 61)<\/li>\n
          3. Nuk ka penges\u00eb n\u00ebse prindi ia ofron vajz\u00ebn e tij p\u00ebr martes\u00eb nj\u00eb djali t\u00eb ndersh\u00ebm, kjo nuk llogaritet e met\u00eb, turp, n\u00ebn\u00e7mim p\u00ebr veten ose p\u00ebr vajz\u00ebn, si\u00e7 mendojn\u00eb disa njer\u00ebz. Neve Kurani na rr\u00ebfen p\u00ebr nj\u00eb burr\u00eb t\u00eb ndersh\u00ebm q\u00eb jetonte n\u00eb qytetin e Medjenit dhe kur e pa Musain, alejhi selam, se kishte fe dhe ndershm\u00ebri ia ofroi vajz\u00ebn e tij p\u00ebr martes\u00eb: \u201cO babai im, \u2013 tha nj\u00ebra nga ato t\u00eb dyja, \u2013 merre k\u00ebt\u00eb njeri n\u00eb sh\u00ebrbim! Sigurisht q\u00eb njer\u00ebzit e fort\u00eb dhe t\u00eb besuesh\u00ebm jan\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00ebt, q\u00eb dikush mund t\u2019i marr\u00eb n\u00eb sh\u00ebrbim\u201d. Plaku tha: \u201cUn\u00eb dua t\u00eb ta jap p\u00ebr grua nj\u00ebr\u00ebn prej k\u00ebtyre dy bijave t\u00eb mia, me kusht q\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00eb sh\u00ebrbesh mua tet\u00eb vjet por, n\u00ebse d\u00ebshiron, mund t\u00eb q\u00ebndrosh dhjet\u00eb vjet. Un\u00eb nuk d\u00ebshiroj t\u00eb t\u2019i r\u00ebndoj gj\u00ebrat. Ti do t\u00eb shoh\u00ebsh, n\u00eb dasht\u00eb Allahu, se jam nj\u00eb njeri i mir\u00eb.\u201d (El-Kasas: 26-27)<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

            Omer ib\u00ebn El-Hatabi, Allahu qoft\u00eb i k\u00ebnaqur prej tij, vajz\u00ebn e tij Hafs\u00ebn ia ofroi p\u00ebr martes\u00eb Othmanit dhe m\u00eb pas Ebu Bekrit, Allahu qoft\u00eb i k\u00ebnaqur prej tyre, por n\u00eb fund at\u00eb e martoi Profeti, lavd\u00ebrimi dhe paqja e Allahut qofshin p\u00ebr t\u00eb.[10]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n

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            1. Feja e merr n\u00eb konsiderat\u00eb p\u00ebrshtatshm\u00ebrin\u00eb n\u00eb mes burrit dhe gruas n\u00eb nikah dhe p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb dijetar\u00ebt jan\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00eb mendimi. Prindi, n\u00ebse e marton vajz\u00ebn e ndershme p\u00ebr nj\u00eb m\u00ebkatar, nikahu i tyre \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb rregull, nd\u00ebrsa gruaja e ka t\u00eb drejt\u00ebn q\u00eb t\u00eb zgjedh\u00eb, t\u00eb q\u00ebndroj\u00eb ose ta k\u00ebrkoj\u00eb prishjen e nikahut.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

              Kurse p\u00ebr sa u p\u00ebrket gj\u00ebrave q\u00eb nuk nd\u00ebrlidhen me fe, dijetar\u00ebt nuk jan\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00eb mendimi, mir\u00ebpo p\u00eblqehet q\u00eb p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsi i vajz\u00ebs ta marr\u00eb n\u00eb konsiderat\u00eb p\u00ebrshtatshm\u00ebrin\u00eb edhe n\u00eb gj\u00ebra t\u00eb tjera q\u00eb e ndihmojn\u00eb burrin dhe gruan t\u00eb p\u00ebrshtaten sa m\u00eb mir\u00eb me nj\u00ebri-tjetrin dhe ta vazhdojn\u00eb jet\u00ebn bashk\u00ebshortore.<\/p>\n

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              1. \u00cbsht\u00eb e ndaluar q\u00eb vajza t\u00eb pengohet t\u00eb martohet me at\u00eb q\u00eb p\u00ebrshtatet. N\u00ebse vajza ka d\u00ebshir\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb martohet me dik\u00eb q\u00eb p\u00ebrshtaten dhe p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsi nuk e marton, at\u00ebher\u00eb bie e drejta e p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsit q\u00eb ta martoj\u00eb me dik\u00eb tjet\u00ebr. Allahu thot\u00eb: \u201c\u2026mos i pengoni ato q\u00eb t\u00eb martohen p\u00ebrs\u00ebri me burrat e tyre, n\u00ebse merren vesh me t\u00eb mir\u00eb.\u201d (El-Bekare: 232)<\/li>\n
              2. \u00cbsht\u00eb e ndaluar q\u00eb vajza t\u00eb detyrohet t\u00eb martohet p\u00ebr at\u00eb q\u00eb ajo nuk e p\u00eblqen. Profeti, lavd\u00ebrimi dhe paqja e Allahut qofshin p\u00ebr t\u00eb, thot\u00eb: \u201cNuk martohet beqarja derisa t\u2019i merret leje.\u201d \u2013 I than\u00eb: \u201cO i D\u00ebrguari i Allahut! E si \u00ebsht\u00eb leja e saj?\u201d U p\u00ebrgjigj: \u201cHeshtja e saj.\u201d[11]<\/sup><\/a><\/li>\n
              3. Nuk i takon asnj\u00ebrit nga t\u00eb dy prind\u00ebrit, q\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebn e tyre ta detyroj\u00eb t\u00eb martohet me nj\u00eb grua q\u00eb atij nuk i p\u00eblqen. N\u00ebse f\u00ebmija n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb rast nuk e respekton vullnetin e prind\u00ebrve, nuk llogaritet mosrespektues i tyre. \u201cN\u00ebse nuk e ka at\u00eb t\u00eb drejt\u00eb askush q\u00eb dik\u00eb tjet\u00ebr ta detyroj\u00eb t\u00eb haj\u00eb di\u00e7ka q\u00eb prej saj ndien neveri, duke qen\u00eb mund\u00ebsia p\u00ebr t\u00eb ngr\u00ebn\u00eb di\u00e7ka tjet\u00ebr q\u00eb e ngop dhe e d\u00ebshiron vetja e tij, e nj\u00ebjta vlen edhe te nikahu madje edhe m\u00eb shum\u00eb. Kur ndonj\u00ebri ha di\u00e7ka q\u00eb e urren, shija e hidhur atij ushqimi ndihet vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr disa or\u00eb dhe m\u00eb pas largohet, nd\u00ebrsa shoq\u00ebrimi i pad\u00ebshiruar dhe maltretimi n\u00eb mes bashk\u00ebshort\u00ebve ndihet p\u00ebr nj\u00eb koh\u00eb t\u00eb gjat\u00eb dhe ky maltretim nuk mund t\u00eb largohet.\u201d[12]<\/sup><\/a><\/li>\n
              4. Kushdo q\u00eb d\u00ebshiron t\u00eb fejoj\u00eb nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb, lejohet q\u00eb t\u00eb shikoj\u00eb n\u00eb ato pjes\u00eb t\u00eb trupit t\u00eb vajz\u00ebs q\u00eb n\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi shfaqen prej saj, si: fytyra, shputat e duarve dhe shputat e k\u00ebmb\u00ebve. Shikimi duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb me q\u00ebllim fejese dhe jo t\u00eb vetmuar ata dy, por n\u00eb prezenc\u00eb t\u00eb mahremit. Po ashtu edhe vajza e ka t\u00eb drejt\u00ebn t\u00eb shikoj\u00eb n\u00eb djalin q\u00eb d\u00ebshiron t\u00eb martohet p\u00ebr t\u00eb.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                Profeti, lavd\u00ebrimi dhe paqja e Allahut qofshin p\u00ebr t\u00eb, thot\u00eb: \u201cKur ndonj\u00ebri nga ju d\u00ebshiron q\u00eb t\u00eb fejoj\u00eb nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb, n\u00ebse mund t\u00eb shoh\u00eb at\u00eb \u00e7far\u00eb e nxit p\u00ebr martes\u00ebn e saj, le ta shoh\u00eb.\u201d[13]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n

                Profeti, lavd\u00ebrimi dhe paqja e Allahut qofshin p\u00ebr t\u00eb, kur u fejua Mugire ib\u00ebn Shu\u2019be, Allahu qoft\u00eb i k\u00ebnaqur prej tij, i tha: \u201cShihe at\u00eb, sepse kjo ju afron dhe jua shton dashurin\u00eb.\u201d[14]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n

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                1. Ta shoh\u00ebsh nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb p\u00ebr fejes\u00eb lejohet vet\u00ebm n\u00ebse plot\u00ebsohen kat\u00ebr kushte:<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                  Kushti i par\u00eb: T\u00eb jesh i vendosur p\u00ebr fejes\u00eb.<\/p>\n

                  Kushti i dyt\u00eb: Nuk lejohet t\u00eb vetmohesh me t\u00eb, duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb prezent edhe mahremi.<\/p>\n

                  Kushti i tret\u00eb: T\u00eb sigurohesh nga fitneja.<\/p>\n

                  Kushti i kat\u00ebrt: T\u00eb shoh\u00ebsh tek ajo vet\u00ebm at\u00eb q\u00eb ajo e shfaq n\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi para prindit t\u00eb saj, v\u00ebllait t\u00eb saj dhe t\u00eb ngjashmit me ta. M\u00eb tep\u00ebr se kjo nuk lejohet.<\/p>\n

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                  1. Nuk lejohet t\u00eb fejohet nj\u00eb grua q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e fejuar me dik\u00eb tjet\u00ebr. Kush k\u00ebrkon t\u00eb fejohet me nj\u00eb grua dhe ajo pranon, t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve u ndalohet q\u00eb ta fejojn\u00eb at\u00eb, p\u00ebrve\u00e7 at\u00ebher\u00eb kur prishet fejesa ose i pari ia jep lejen tjetrit.[15]<\/sup><\/a>\u00a0Pejgamberi, lavd\u00ebrimi dhe paqja e Allahut qofshin p\u00ebr t\u00eb, thot\u00eb: \u201cNuk fejohet nj\u00eb grua q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e fejuar me dik\u00eb tjet\u00ebr, derisa t\u00eb prishet fejesa ose t\u2019ia jap\u00eb lejen i fejuari i par\u00eb tjetrit.\u201d[16]<\/sup><\/a><\/li>\n
                  2. Kusht p\u00ebr sakt\u00ebsin\u00eb e nikahut \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebrcaktimi i identitetit t\u00eb bashk\u00ebshort\u00ebve, p\u00eblqimi i tyre q\u00eb t\u00eb martohen me nj\u00ebri-tjetrin, veliu (p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsi i vajz\u00ebs), dy d\u00ebshmitar\u00eb t\u00eb drejt\u00eb, t\u00eb mos ken\u00eb burri dhe gruaja pengesa q\u00eb e ndalojn\u00eb fejes\u00ebn, si: ideti (koha e caktuar e pritjes pasi q\u00eb t\u00eb divorcohet), ihrami (d.m.th. jan\u00eb n\u00eb ihram, qoft\u00eb n\u00eb umre apo haxh) etj.<\/li>\n
                  3. Nikahu nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb i sakt\u00eb pa p\u00eblqimin e veliut (p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsi i vajz\u00ebs), dhe prezenc\u00ebn e dy d\u00ebshmitar\u00ebve t\u00eb drejt\u00eb. Gruaja nuk e ka at\u00eb t\u00eb drejt\u00eb q\u00eb ta martoj\u00eb veten dhe as q\u00eb ta martoj\u00eb dik\u00eb tjet\u00ebr, e n\u00ebse ajo e marton veten ose e marton dik\u00eb, nikahu i saj nuk pranohet.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                    Pejgamberi, lavd\u00ebrimi dhe paqja e Allahut qofshin p\u00ebr t\u00eb, thot\u00eb: \u201cNuk ka martes\u00eb pa p\u00eblqimin e veliut dhe pa d\u00ebshmin\u00eb e dy d\u00ebshmitar\u00ebve t\u00eb drejt\u00eb.\u201d[17]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n

                    Po ashtu Pejgamberi, lavd\u00ebrimi dhe paqja e Allahut qofshin p\u00ebr t\u00eb, thot\u00eb: \u201c\u00c7do grua q\u00eb martohet pa lejen e veliut (p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsit), nikahu i saj \u00ebsht\u00eb i kot\u00eb, nikahu i saj \u00ebsht\u00eb i kot\u00eb, nikahu i saj \u00ebsht\u00eb i kot\u00eb.\u201d[18]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n

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                    1. Martesa p\u00eblqehet q\u00eb t\u00eb publikohet dhe njer\u00ebzit t\u00eb njoftohen. P\u00ebr ta publikuar martes\u00ebn lejohet q\u00eb grat\u00eb t\u2019i bien defit (kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb e ve\u00e7ant\u00eb p\u00ebr grat\u00eb, nd\u00ebrsa burrat nuk lejohet t\u2019i bien defit), dhe t\u00eb k\u00ebndojn\u00eb me fjal\u00eb t\u00eb zakonta p\u00ebr dasma, jo me fjal\u00eb q\u00eb nxitet p\u00ebr n\u00eb haram dhe lavd\u00ebrohet harami. Pejgamberi, lavd\u00ebrimi dhe paqja e Allahut qofshin p\u00ebr t\u00eb, thot\u00eb: \u201cPublikojeni martes\u00ebn.\u201d[19]<\/sup><\/a><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                      Me nj\u00eb hadith tjet\u00ebr Pejgamberi, lavd\u00ebrimi dhe paqja e Allahut qofshin p\u00ebr t\u00eb, thot\u00eb: \u201cDallimi n\u00eb mes hallallit dhe haramit n\u00eb nikah \u00ebsht\u00eb r\u00ebnia e defit dhe publikimi i martes\u00ebs.\u201d[20]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n

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                      1. P\u00ebr gruan q\u00eb martohet Islami e caktoi t\u2019i jepet \u2018mehri\u2019 (dhurata e kuror\u00ebzimit). Mehri \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb nga dukurit\u00eb e fisnik\u00ebris\u00eb dhe nderit q\u00eb Islami ia b\u00ebri gruas. Mehri \u00ebsht\u00eb e drejta e saj q\u00eb ajo e meriton plot\u00ebsisht me kryerjen e aktnikahut.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                        P\u00eblqehet q\u00eb sasia e mehrit t\u00eb p\u00ebrcaktohet gjat\u00eb kryerjes s\u00eb aktnikahut.<\/p>\n

                        Allahu thot\u00eb: \u201cDhe jepuni me gjith\u00eb zem\u00ebr grave tuaja dhurat\u00ebn e kuror\u00ebzimit\u2026\u201d (En-Nisa: 4)<\/p>\n

                        Mehri (dhurata e kuror\u00ebzimit) \u00ebsht\u00eb quajtur me emrin \u2018sadak\u2019[21]<\/sup><\/a>\u00a0p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb fuqis\u00eb s\u00eb tij, p\u00ebr shkak se \u00ebsht\u00eb hak q\u00eb patjet\u00ebr duhet t\u2019i jepet gruas dhe p\u00ebr shkak se e shpalos d\u00ebshir\u00ebn e sinqert\u00eb t\u00eb atij q\u00eb e jep n\u00eb martes\u00eb, gj\u00eb q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb baz\u00eb n\u00eb detyrimin e mehrit.[22]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n

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                        1. Esenca e mehrit \u00ebsht\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb jepet n\u00eb pasuri, si: ari dhe para, ose n\u00eb kapital, ose n\u00eb di\u00e7ka q\u00eb ka vler\u00eb materiale dhe burri ia dhuron gruas si p.sh. t\u2019i b\u00ebj\u00eb burri ndonj\u00eb sh\u00ebrbim ose dobi, sikurse t\u2019ia m\u00ebsoj\u00eb Kuranin ose ta d\u00ebrgoj\u00eb n\u00eb haxh. Mehri mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb i menj\u00ebhersh\u00ebm ose i vonsh\u00ebm.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                          Lejohet q\u00eb gruaja p\u00ebr meh\u00ebr t\u00eb k\u00ebrkoj\u00eb di\u00e7ka tjet\u00ebr nga ajo q\u00eb u p\u00ebrmend m\u00eb lart, si: t\u00eb k\u00ebrkoj\u00eb q\u00eb burri ta pranoj\u00eb Islamin (n\u00ebse gruaja \u00ebsht\u00eb myslimane dhe burri q\u00eb e k\u00ebrkon nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb mysliman -sh.p-), ose t\u00eb k\u00ebrkoj\u00eb q\u00eb burri t\u00eb k\u00ebrkoj\u00eb dije, ose ta m\u00ebsoj\u00eb Kuranin p\u00ebrmendsh t\u00ebr\u00ebsisht ose pjes\u00ebrisht, e t\u00eb ngjashme me to.<\/p>\n

                          \u201cMehri n\u00eb esenc\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb i ligjsh\u00ebm si e drejt\u00eb e gruas q\u00eb ajo t\u00eb p\u00ebrfitoj\u00eb prej tij. N\u00ebse ajo p\u00ebr meh\u00ebr d\u00ebshiron q\u00eb burri i saj t\u00eb k\u00ebrkoj\u00eb dije, t\u00eb kapet p\u00ebr fe, ta pranoj\u00eb Islamin dhe ta lexoj\u00eb Kuranin, lejohet dhe ky \u00ebsht\u00eb mehri m\u00eb i vlefsh\u00ebm, m\u00eb i dobish\u00ebm dhe m\u00eb i miri.\u201d[23]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n

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                          1. Islami nxiti q\u00eb mehri t\u00eb jet\u00eb sa m\u00eb i leht\u00eb dhe sa m\u00eb i vog\u00ebl. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb e bereqetshme dhe ndjekje e rrug\u00ebs s\u00eb Profetit, lavd\u00ebrimi dhe paqja e Allahut qofshin p\u00ebr t\u00eb.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                            N\u00eb nj\u00eb hadith ceket: \u201cMehri m\u00eb i mir\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb ai m\u00eb i lehti\u201d, me nj\u00eb transmetim tjet\u00ebr: \u201cMartesa m\u00eb e mir\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb ajo m\u00eb e lehta (n\u00eb shpenzime).\u201d[24]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n

                            Me nj\u00eb hadith tjet\u00ebr: \u201cNga bereqeti i gruas \u00ebsht\u00eb: leht\u00ebsimi i fejes\u00ebs, leht\u00ebsimi i mehrit dhe leht\u00ebsimi i mbetjes shtatz\u00ebn\u00eb dhe lindjes s\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebve.\u201d[25]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n

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                            1. P\u00eblqehet t\u00eb b\u00ebhet dasm\u00eb, qoft\u00eb edhe me nj\u00eb dele, q\u00eb t\u00eb publikohet martesa. Profeti, lavd\u00ebrimi dhe paqja e Allahut qofshin p\u00ebr t\u00eb, e porositi Abdurrahman ib\u00ebn Aufit, Allahu qoft\u00eb i k\u00ebnaqur prej tij, duke i th\u00ebn\u00eb: \u201cB\u00ebj dasm\u00eb, qoft\u00eb edhe me therjen e nj\u00eb deleje!\u201d[26]<\/sup><\/a><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                              Nuk ka penges\u00eb q\u00eb myslimani gostin\u00eb e dasm\u00ebs ta b\u00ebj\u00eb nat\u00ebn e dh\u00ebnd\u00ebris\u00eb ose edhe para, ose kur ta b\u00ebj\u00eb aktnikahun ose edhe para. \u00c7\u00ebshtja \u00ebsht\u00eb e till\u00eb q\u00eb n\u00eb t\u00eb ka hap\u00ebsir\u00eb t\u00eb veprohet gjer\u00ebsisht, edhe pse m\u00eb e mira \u00ebsht\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb veprohet sipas tradit\u00ebs s\u00eb vendit ku jeton.<\/p>\n

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                              1. P\u00ebrgjigjja e ftes\u00ebs dhe prezenca n\u00eb dasm\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb detyrim. Kush nuk d\u00ebshiron p\u00ebr t\u00eb ngr\u00ebn\u00eb ushqim, b\u00ebn dua p\u00ebr v\u00ebllan\u00eb mysliman dhe largohet nga dasma.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                Kush ftohet n\u00eb dasm\u00eb dhe n\u00eb t\u00eb ka m\u00ebkate, si: alkool, dhe ka mund\u00ebsi ta largoj\u00eb t\u00eb keqen prej aty, pa probleme dhe \u00e7rregullime, e ka p\u00ebr detyr\u00eb t\u00eb shkoj\u00eb dhe ta largoj\u00eb t\u00eb keqen, e n\u00ebse nuk ka mund\u00ebsi, at\u00ebher\u00eb nuk prezenton n\u00eb dasm\u00eb.<\/p>\n

                                E n\u00ebse nuk ka dijeni se n\u00eb dasm\u00eb ka m\u00ebkate dhe k\u00ebt\u00eb e kupton vet\u00ebm pasi t\u00eb arrij\u00eb n\u00eb vend, e ka p\u00ebr detyr\u00eb ta largoj\u00eb m\u00ebkatin, n\u00ebse mundet e n\u00ebse jo, at\u00ebher\u00eb largohet prej aty.<\/p>\n

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                                1. P\u00eblqehet p\u00ebr t\u00eb porsamartuarit t\u00eb b\u00ebhet dua, duke th\u00ebn\u00eb: \u201cAllahu ju bekoft\u00eb ju dhe pasardh\u00ebsit tuaj, si dhe ju bashkoft\u00eb ju t\u00eb dy n\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb.\u201d[27]<\/sup><\/a><\/li>\n
                                2. P\u00eblqehet q\u00eb burri nat\u00ebn e dh\u00ebnd\u00ebris\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00eb xhentil me gruan e vet, t\u2019i jap\u00eb di\u00e7ka p\u00ebr t\u00eb pir\u00eb dhe t\u00eb ngjashme me t\u00eb dhe ta vendos\u00eb dor\u00ebn e tij n\u00eb ballin e saj dhe t\u00eb lutet: \u201cO Allahu im, k\u00ebrkoj nga Ti t\u00eb m\u00eb dhurosh t\u00eb mir\u00ebn e saj dhe t\u00eb mir\u00ebn q\u00eb e ke b\u00ebr\u00eb natyr\u00eb t\u00eb saj. Dhe k\u00ebrkoj mbrojtje te Ti nga sherri i saj dhe nga sherri q\u00eb e ke b\u00ebr\u00eb natyr\u00eb t\u00eb saj.\u201d[28]<\/sup><\/a><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                  N\u00ebse pastaj i falin bashk\u00ebrisht dy rekate, nuk ka penges\u00eb, sepse p\u00ebrcillet nga disa t\u00eb par\u00ebt tan\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb q\u00eb kan\u00eb vepruar k\u00ebsisoji.<\/p>\n

                                  Kur t\u2019i afrohet gruas p\u00ebr marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie intime thot\u00eb: \u201cMe emrin e Allahut, o Allahu im, na e largo djallin prej neve dhe prej asaj q\u00eb do t\u00eb na furnizosh me t\u00eb.\u201d[29]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n

                                  Myslimani, kur t\u2019i afrohet gruas p\u00ebr marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie, llogarit n\u00eb shp\u00ebrblimin e Allahut dhe e b\u00ebn nijetin q\u00eb gruas t\u2019ia jap\u00eb hakun e saj, ta mbroj\u00eb nderin e saj dhe t\u00eb tij, ta shtoj\u00eb af\u00ebrsin\u00eb me t\u00eb, t\u00eb k\u00ebrkoj\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00eb t\u00eb ndersh\u00ebm dhe t\u00eb synoj\u00eb t\u00eb mira t\u00eb tjera t\u00eb ngjashme me to.<\/p>\n

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                                  1. Lejohet burri q\u00eb t\u2019i afrohet bashk\u00ebshortes s\u00eb vet si t\u00eb d\u00ebshiroj\u00eb, nat\u00ebn ose dit\u00ebn, p\u00ebrve\u00e7 gjat\u00eb menstruacioneve dhe lehonis\u00eb si dhe ndalohen marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet n\u00eb anus.<\/li>\n
                                  2. Nuk ka penges\u00eb p\u00ebr bashk\u00ebshort\u00ebt q\u00eb t\u00eb lahen bashk\u00ebrisht n\u00eb nj\u00eb vend dhe me nj\u00eb en\u00eb.<\/li>\n
                                  3. Ndalohet q\u00eb burri dhe gruaja t\u2019i shpalosin fsheht\u00ebsit\u00eb e tyre t\u00eb shtratit. Ato jan\u00eb amanet i madh dhe ata t\u00eb dy duhet t\u00eb p\u00ebrkujdesen q\u00eb ato t\u2019i ruajn\u00eb p\u00ebr vete.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                    Profeti, lavd\u00ebrimi dhe paqja e Allahut qofshin p\u00ebr t\u00eb, thot\u00eb: \u201cNjeriu me pozit\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb keqe n\u00eb Dit\u00ebn e Kiametit tek Allahu \u00ebsht\u00eb ai burr\u00eb q\u00eb i afrohet gruas s\u00eb vet dhe ajo i afrohet atij, e pastaj i shpalosin fsheht\u00ebsit\u00eb e tyre.\u201d[30]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n

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                                    1. Islami nxiti dhe e v\u00ebrtetoi mir\u00ebsin\u00eb e sjelljes s\u00eb mir\u00eb me gruan. Po ashtu Allahu i nxiti burrat q\u00eb ta shtojn\u00eb kujdesin dhe sjelljen e mir\u00eb me grat\u00eb.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                      Allahu thot\u00eb: \u201cJetoni e silluni mir\u00eb me to! N\u00eb qoft\u00eb se ato nuk ju p\u00eblqejn\u00eb aq shum\u00eb, (duroni!) sepse \u00ebsht\u00eb e mundur q\u00eb juve t\u00eb mos ju p\u00eblqej\u00eb di\u00e7ka, por q\u00eb Allahu n\u00eb at\u00eb do t\u2019ju sjell\u00eb shum\u00eb t\u00eb mira.\u201d (En-Nisa: 19) Dhe po ashtu thot\u00eb: \u201c\u2026gruaja t\u00eb mbahet me t\u00eb mir\u00eb\u2026\u201d (El-Bekare: 229)<\/p>\n

                                      Profeti, lavd\u00ebrimi dhe paqja e Allahut qofshin p\u00ebr t\u00eb, thot\u00eb: \u201cJu porosis t\u00eb silleni mir\u00eb me grat\u00eb tuaja.\u201d[31]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n

                                      Profeti, lavd\u00ebrimi dhe paqja e Allahut qofshin p\u00ebr t\u00eb, thot\u00eb: \u201cM\u00eb i mir\u00eb nd\u00ebr ju \u00ebsht\u00eb ai q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb i mir\u00eb me familjen e tij, nd\u00ebrsa un\u00eb jam m\u00eb i miri n\u00eb mesin tuaj me familjen time.\u201d[32]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n

                                      Sjellja e mir\u00eb me gruan e p\u00ebrfshin sjelljen e mir\u00eb me fjal\u00eb dhe me vepra, duke filluar nga shoq\u00ebrimi i mir\u00eb, shprehja e ndjenjave me fjal\u00eb dhe me dhurata, paraqitja e dashuris\u00eb dhe respektit, t\u00eb qen\u00ebt xhentil dhe mik i mir\u00eb me t\u00eb, mosd\u00ebmtimi i saj, t\u00eb qen\u00ebt bamir\u00ebs me t\u00eb, sjellja e mir\u00eb, but\u00ebsia, p\u00ebrkujdesja p\u00ebr ndjenjat e saj, ngush\u00ebllimi i saj, durimi gjat\u00eb gabimeve t\u00eb saj, futja e g\u00ebzimit n\u00eb shpirtin e saj, zbukurimi p\u00ebr t\u00eb, dh\u00ebnia e t\u00eb drejtave t\u00eb saj me toleranc\u00eb dhe leht\u00ebsime jo me kok\u00ebfort\u00ebsi dhe v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsi.<\/p>\n

                                      N\u00eb sjelljen e mir\u00eb p\u00ebrfshihet edhe shpenzimi dhe veshmbathja dhe t\u00eb ngjashmet me to. Edhe gruaja detyrohet t\u00eb sillet mir\u00eb me burrin e saj, ajo ka t\u00eb drejta ndaj tij sikurse ai q\u00eb ka t\u00eb drejta ndaj saj, n\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn koh\u00eb dhe vend, dhe ato dallojn\u00eb me ndryshimin e gjendjeve.<\/p>\n

                                      Allahu thot\u00eb: \u201cGrat\u00eb kan\u00eb aq t\u00eb drejta sa kan\u00eb edhe detyra, sipas arsyes s\u00eb sh\u00ebndosh\u00eb, ndon\u00ebse burrat kan\u00eb nj\u00eb shkall\u00eb (m\u00eb shum\u00eb p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsie) mbi ato.\u201d (El-Bekare: 228)<\/p>\n

                                      Disa komentues t\u00eb Kuranit than\u00eb: \u201cAjo nj\u00eb shkall\u00eb (e p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsis\u00eb), q\u00eb burrat e kan\u00eb mbi grat\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb ep\u00ebrsia e tij karshi saj, realizimi i t\u00eb gjitha obligimeve q\u00eb i ka ai ndaj gruas s\u00eb vet dhe toleranca e tij me gruan n\u00eb obligimet e saj, q\u00eb i ka ndaj tij ose n\u00eb disa nga to.\u201d[33]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n

                                      Kjo shkall\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb tregues q\u00eb e nxit burrin t\u00eb sillet mir\u00eb me gruan, t\u00eb jet\u00eb m\u00eb zem\u00ebrgjer\u00eb me gruan n\u00eb pasuri dhe moral, dhe m\u00eb e mira p\u00ebr t\u00eb do t\u00eb ishte q\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqet p\u00ebrtej mund\u00ebsive.\u201d[34]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n

                                      Prandaj, p\u00ebrcillet p\u00ebr Ib\u00ebn Abasin, Allahu qoft\u00eb i k\u00ebnaqur prej tij, t\u00eb ket\u00eb th\u00ebn\u00eb: \u201cNuk dua q\u00eb ta marr\u00eb gjith\u00eb hakun tim q\u00eb gruaja e ka ndaj meje, sepse Allahu thot\u00eb: \u201c\u2026ndon\u00ebse burrat kan\u00eb nj\u00eb shkall\u00eb (m\u00eb shum\u00eb p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsie) mbi ato.\u201d (El-Bekare: 228)[35]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n

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                                      1. Allahu e urdh\u00ebroi burrin t\u00eb sillet mir\u00eb me gruan e tij n\u00eb t\u00eb dy gjendjet, kur e mban dhe kur e ndan, dhe thot\u00eb: \u201c\u2026i mbani ato si ka hije ose ndahuni me to n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00eblqyeshme\u2026\u201d (Et-Talak: 2)<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                        D.m.th. mbani ato si i ka hije dhe me shoq\u00ebrim t\u00eb mir\u00eb, e jo n\u00eb at\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb t\u2019i d\u00ebmtoni, t\u2019ju b\u00ebni keq dhe t\u2019i pengoni ato. Mbajtja e till\u00eb nuk lejohet.<\/p>\n

                                        N\u00ebse ndaheni me to, ndahuni n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00eblqyeshme, d.m.th. ndarje pa rrezik dhe frik\u00eb, pa sharje dhe armiq\u00ebsi, pa e p\u00ebrdorur dhun\u00ebn dhe fuqin\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb marr\u00eb di\u00e7ka nga pasuria e saj.[36]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n

                                        Allahu thot\u00eb: \u201cMos harroni q\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebheni bamir\u00ebs midis jush!\u201d (El-Bekare: 237)<\/p>\n

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                                        1. Gruaja ka detyrime ndaj burrit t\u00eb saj: respektimin e udh\u00ebheq\u00ebsis\u00eb s\u00eb tij, respektimin e tij me mir\u00ebsi, t\u2019i p\u00ebrgjigjet nevoj\u00ebs s\u00eb burrit p\u00ebr n\u00eb shtrat, t\u00eb zbukurohet n\u00eb suaza t\u00eb s\u00eb lejuar\u00ebs, t\u00eb jet\u00eb bashk\u00ebshorte e mir\u00eb, ta ruaj\u00eb nderin dhe pasurin\u00eb e tij, t\u00eb mos agj\u00ebroj\u00eb nafile pa lejen e tij, t\u00eb mos e fut\u00eb ask\u00ebnd n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi pa lejen e tij, t\u2019i sh\u00ebrbej\u00eb, ta fal\u00ebnderoj\u00eb dhe jo t\u2019i mohoj\u00eb t\u00eb mirat e tij q\u00eb i vepron p\u00ebr t\u00eb, t\u00eb jet\u00eb e k\u00ebnaqur me at\u00eb q\u00eb e posedon dhe t\u00eb mos e ngarkoj\u00eb me shpenzime.<\/li>\n
                                        2. Burri po ashtu ka detyrime ndaj gruas s\u00eb tij: respektimin e kushteve q\u00eb i kan\u00eb vendosur n\u00eb mes tyre gjat\u00eb aktnikahut, shpenzimi p\u00ebr t\u00eb, dh\u00ebnia e hakut t\u00eb shtratit dhe ruajtja e nderit t\u00eb saj, sjellja e mir\u00eb, urdh\u00ebrimi i saj t\u2019i respektoj\u00eb kufijt\u00eb e Allahut, mbajtja e drejt\u00ebsis\u00eb n\u00eb mes grave p\u00ebr at\u00eb q\u00eb ka m\u00eb shum\u00eb se nj\u00eb grua, t\u2019ia respektoj\u00eb marr\u00ebveshjen asaj dhe t\u00eb mos e harroj\u00eb mir\u00ebsin\u00eb e saj, t\u00eb mos i shpalos\u00eb fsheht\u00ebsit\u00eb e saj, t\u00eb duroj\u00eb dhe t\u2019i mbyll\u00eb syt\u00eb p\u00ebrball\u00eb disa gabimeve t\u00eb saj.<\/li>\n
                                        3. T\u00eb krijosh familje t\u00eb lumtur duhet q\u00eb ajo t\u00eb nd\u00ebrtohet mbi dashuri dhe m\u00ebshir\u00eb, kurse me dije ajo zhvillohet sh\u00ebndosh\u00eb. Faktor tjet\u00ebr q\u00eb e zhvillon familjen \u00ebsht\u00eb studimi i jet\u00ebs s\u00eb Pejgamberit, lavd\u00ebrimi dhe paqja e Allahut qofshin p\u00ebr t\u00eb, me an\u00ebtar\u00ebt e familjes s\u00eb tij dhe zbatimi i atyre m\u00ebsimeve n\u00eb realitet n\u00eb jet\u00ebn bashk\u00ebshortore.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

                                          Pejgamberi yn\u00eb, Muhamedi, lavd\u00ebrimi dhe paqja e Allahut qofshin p\u00ebr t\u00eb, ishte ai q\u00eb tha: \u201cM\u00eb i miri nd\u00ebr ju \u00ebsht\u00eb ai q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb i mir\u00eb me familjen e tij, nd\u00ebrsa un\u00eb jam m\u00eb i miri n\u00eb mesin tuaj me familjen time.\u201d[37]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n

                                          \u201cO Zoti yn\u00eb, dhurona nga grat\u00eb tona dhe trash\u00ebgimtar\u00ebt tan\u00eb, \u00e7\u2019\u00ebsht\u00eb prehje p\u00ebr syt\u00eb tan\u00eb dhe b\u00ebna shembull p\u00ebr t\u00eb mir\u00ebt!\u201d (El-Furkan: 74)<\/p>\n

                                           <\/p>\n

                                          E lusim Allahun t\u00eb na jap\u00eb lumturi, neve dhe t\u00eb gjith\u00eb mysliman\u00ebve n\u00eb dynja dhe ahiret dhe t\u00eb na jap\u00eb mbar\u00ebsi ta veprojm\u00eb at\u00eb q\u00eb Ai e do dhe At\u00eb e k\u00ebnaq.<\/p>\n

                                          Fal\u00ebnderimi i takon Allahut, Zotit t\u00eb bot\u00ebve.<\/p>\n

                                          [1]<\/a>\u00a0Buhariu (5063), Muslimi (1401).<\/p>\n

                                          [2]<\/a>\u00a0Buhariu (1905), Muslimi (1400).<\/p>\n

                                          [3]<\/a>\u00a0Buhariu (5127).<\/p>\n

                                          [4]<\/a>\u00a0Buhariu (5090), Muslimi (1466).<\/p>\n

                                          [5]<\/a>\u00a0Muslimi (1467).<\/p>\n

                                          [6]<\/a>\u00a0Ebu Davudi (2050), shejh Albani hadithin e sakt\u00ebsoi.<\/p>\n

                                          [7]<\/a>\u00a0Buhariu (5247), Muslimi (715).<\/p>\n

                                          [8]<\/a>\u00a0Nesaiu (3231), imam Ahmedi (7421), shejh Albani hadithin e sakt\u00ebsoi.<\/p>\n

                                          [9]<\/a>\u00a0Tirmidhiu (1085), shejh Albani hadithin e vler\u00ebsoi t\u00eb mir\u00eb.<\/p>\n

                                          [10]<\/a>\u00a0Shih: Sahih El-Buharij (4005).<\/p>\n

                                          [11]<\/a>\u00a0Buhariu (5136), Muslimi (1419).<\/p>\n

                                          [12]<\/a>\u00a0Mexhmual Fetava (32\/30).<\/p>\n

                                          [13]<\/a>\u00a0Ebu Davudi (2082), shejh Albani e vler\u00ebsoi si t\u00eb mir\u00eb.<\/p>\n

                                          [14]<\/a>\u00a0Tirmidhiu (1087), Nesaiu (3235), Ib\u00ebn Maxhe (1866), shejh Albani e sakt\u00ebsoi.<\/p>\n

                                          [15]<\/a>\u00a0D.m.th. ai q\u00eb do t\u00eb fejohet shkon tek i fejuari i par\u00eb dhe i thot\u00eb: M\u00eb ka ardhur lajmi q\u00eb e ke fejuar filanen, shpresoj prej teje q\u00eb ta l\u00ebsh k\u00ebt\u00eb fejes\u00eb dhe ta martoj un\u00eb. (Shejh Uthejmini, Allahu e m\u00ebshiroft\u00eb.)\u00a0https:\/\/islamqa.info\/ar\/101117<\/a>\u00a0(sh.p)<\/p>\n

                                          [16]<\/a>\u00a0Buhariu (5142), Muslimi (1408).<\/p>\n

                                          [17]<\/a>\u00a0Ib\u00ebn Hibani (4075), hadithi gjendet n\u00eb Sahih El-Xhami\u2019 (7557), baza e hadithit gjendet n\u00eb Sunen\u00ebt.<\/p>\n

                                          [18]<\/a>\u00a0Ebu Davudi (2083), Tirmidhiu (1102), shejh Albani hadithi e sakt\u00ebsoi.<\/p>\n

                                          [19]<\/a>\u00a0Imam Ahmedi (16130), shejh Albani e vler\u00ebsoi si t\u00eb mir\u00eb n\u00eb Sahih El-Xhami\u2019 (1072).<\/p>\n

                                          [20]<\/a>\u00a0Tirmidhiu (1088), Nesaiu (3369), Ib\u00ebn Maxhe (1896), shejh Albani e vler\u00ebsoi si t\u00eb mir\u00eb.<\/p>\n

                                          [21]<\/a>\u00a0\u2018Sadak\u2019 do t\u00eb thot\u00eb prik\u00eb, pages\u00eb (e dh\u00ebndrit p\u00ebr nusen), sinqeritet, fort\u00ebsi etj. (sh.p)<\/p>\n

                                          [22]<\/a>\u00a0Shih: Mugnij El-Muhtaxh, Hatib Esh-Sherbinij (4\/366).<\/p>\n

                                          [23]<\/a>\u00a0Zadul Mead, Ib\u00ebn El-Kajim (5\/162).<\/p>\n

                                          [24]<\/a>\u00a0Ebu Davudi (2117), El-Hakimi (2742), shejh Albani e sakt\u00ebsoi.<\/p>\n

                                          [25]<\/a>\u00a0Imam Ahmedi (24478), Ib\u00ebn Hibani (4095), shejh Albani e vler\u00ebsoi si t\u00eb mir\u00eb n\u00eb Sahih El-Xhami\u2019 (2235).<\/p>\n

                                          [26]<\/a>\u00a0Buhariu (6386), Muslimi (1427).<\/p>\n

                                          [27]<\/a>\u00a0Shih: \u201cMburoja e Muslimanit\u201d \u2013 te kaptina \u2018Duaja p\u00ebr t\u00eb porsamartuarit\u2019 \u2013 e p\u00ebrkthyer n\u00eb shqip (sh.p.)<\/p>\n

                                          [28]<\/a>\u00a0Shih: \u201cMburoja e Muslimanit\u201d \u2013 te kaptina \u2018Duaja gjat\u00eb martes\u00ebs dhe blerjes s\u00eb kafsh\u00ebs\u2019 \u2013 e p\u00ebrkthyer n\u00eb shqip (sh.p.)<\/p>\n

                                          [29]<\/a>\u00a0Shih: \u201cMburoja e Muslimanit\u201d \u2013 te kaptina \u2018Duaja para se t\u2019i afrohesh bashk\u00ebshortes\u2019 \u2013 e p\u00ebrkthyer n\u00eb shqip (sh.p.)<\/p>\n

                                          [30]<\/a>\u00a0Muslimi (1437).<\/p>\n

                                          [31]<\/a>\u00a0Buhariu (5186), Muslimi (1468).<\/p>\n

                                          [32]<\/a>\u00a0Tirmidhiu (3895), shejh Albani e sakt\u00ebsoi hadithin.<\/p>\n

                                          [33]<\/a>\u00a0Shih: Tefsir Et-Taberij (4\/122, 123).<\/p>\n

                                          [34]<\/a>\u00a0Shih: El-Muharer El-Vexhiz, Ib\u00ebn Atije (1\/306).<\/p>\n

                                          [35]<\/a>\u00a0Shih: Tefsir Et-Taberij (4\/123).<\/p>\n

                                          [36]<\/a>\u00a0Shih: Tefsir Es-Sadij (fq.869).<\/p>\n

                                          [37]<\/a>\u00a0Tirmidhiu (3795), shejh Albani hadithin e sakt\u00ebsoi.<\/p>\n

                                           <\/p>\n

                                          Dr. Muhamed Salih el-Munexhid<\/p>\n

                                          Nga arabishtja: Irfan Jahiu<\/p>\n

                                          Pjes\u00eb e librit \u201cUDH\u00cbZIME DHE DISPOZITA P\u00cbR NDODHIT\u00cb E NDRYSHME GJAT\u00cb VITIT\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

                                          Nikahu (martesa) \u00ebsht\u00eb natyrshm\u00ebri njer\u00ebzore dhe domosdoshm\u00ebri jet\u00ebsore. \u00cbsht\u00eb shkak p\u00ebr banimin e Tok\u00ebs, p\u00ebr ruajtjen e nderit me hallall dhe mbrojtjen e tij nga harami, \u00ebsht\u00eb parambroj\u00eb nga sprovat dhe n\u00ebp\u00ebrmjet tij arrihet deri te f\u00ebmija. \u00cbsht\u00eb tradit\u00eb nga traditat e pejgamber\u00ebve dhe udh\u00ebzim i tyre dhe p\u00ebr n\u00eb t\u00eb nxiti sheriati. Allahu thot\u00eb: […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":6065,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5,11,6,8,25,67],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-6064","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-c95-ahlak","8":"category-c98-ceshtje-bashkekohore","9":"category-c96-davet","10":"category-c85-fikh","11":"category-c94-gruaja-dhe-familja","12":"category-te-zgjedhura"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6064","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/4"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=6064"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6064\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":6066,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6064\/revisions\/6066"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/6065"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=6064"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=6064"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=6064"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}