– Prindi im i dashur! Dje u mor\u00ebm vesh q\u00eb sot t\u00eb bashk\u00ebbisedojm\u00eb rreth periudh\u00ebs kur fillon bartja e p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsis\u00eb fetare dhe adoleshenc\u00ebs. S\u00eb pari, mendoj se \u00ebsht\u00eb me r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi t\u00eb caktojm\u00eb qart\u00eb se kur fillon kjo periudh\u00eb dhe kur llogaritet njeriu i rritur e p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebs p\u00ebr p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsit\u00eb fetare?<\/p>\n
* Po, biri im! Hapi i par\u00eb n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb tematik\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u2019i p\u00ebrgjigjemi k\u00ebsaj pyetjeje. Por, para se t\u00eb fillojm\u00eb t\u00eb bisedojm\u00eb p\u00ebr \u00e7far\u00ebdo \u00e7\u00ebshtjeje q\u00eb ka t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb me p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsin\u00eb fetare dhe adoleshenc\u00ebn, patjet\u00ebr duhet t\u00eb p\u00ebrcaktojm\u00eb sakt\u00eb fillimin e k\u00ebsaj periudhe.<\/p>\n
Islami i kushton r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi t\u00eb ve\u00e7ant\u00eb k\u00ebsaj periudhe jet\u00ebsore, sepse prej k\u00ebtu fillon bartja e p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsis\u00eb fetare dhe k\u00ebtu gdhendet kufiri mes dy periudhave: t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebris\u00eb dhe asaj t\u00eb moshuar, prandaj caktoi shenja t\u00eb qarta treguese me kufij t\u00eb caktuar, q\u00eb t\u00eb mos p\u00ebrzihen shenjat e t\u00eb mos ngat\u00ebrrohen periudhat.<\/p>\n
Shenja e par\u00eb e adoleshenc\u00ebs<\/u> \u00ebsht\u00eb dalja e sperm\u00ebs prej organit (ejakulimi – t\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00ebt xhunub), qoft\u00eb n\u00eb gjum\u00eb, qoft\u00eb zgjuar.<\/p>\n
Shenja e dyt\u00eb e adoleshenc\u00ebs<\/u> \u00ebsht\u00eb dalja e qimeve p\u00ebrreth organit t\u00eb mashkullit dhe organit t\u00eb femr\u00ebs.<\/p>\n
Shenja e tret\u00eb e adoleshenc\u00ebs<\/u> \u00ebsht\u00eb arritja e mosh\u00ebs pes\u00ebmb\u00ebdhjet\u00ebvje\u00e7are sipas llogarive t\u00eb kalendarit h\u00ebnor. Gabojn\u00eb ata q\u00eb mosh\u00ebn e llogarisin sipas kalendarit gregorian dhe e marrin p\u00ebr baz\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb llogaritjes.<\/p>\n
Te femrat shtohen edhe dy shenja t\u00eb tjera ndryshe nga djemt\u00eb: menstruacionet dhe shtatz\u00ebnia.[1]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n N\u00ebse nj\u00ebra prej k\u00ebtyre shenjave paraqitet te djemt\u00eb ose te vajzat, ai ose ajo tashm\u00eb ka hyr\u00eb n\u00eb mosh\u00ebn e adoleshenc\u00ebs (pubertetit). Paraqitja e nj\u00ebr\u00ebs prej k\u00ebtyre shenjave tregon se puberteti ka filluar dhe nuk ka nevoj\u00eb t\u00eb pritet t\u00eb paraqiten shenjat e tjera. Mjafton paraqitja e nj\u00ebr\u00ebs prej tyre q\u00eb t\u00eb llogaritet se ka hyr\u00eb n\u00eb mosh\u00ebn madhore.<\/p>\n – Babi im! Sa bukur do t\u00eb ishte t\u00eb m\u00eb kujtoje disa prej rregullave q\u00eb nd\u00ebrlidhen me ejakulimin?<\/p>\n * Biri im, ke shtruar nj\u00eb \u00e7\u00ebshtje me r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi. Shum\u00eb t\u00eb rinj befasohen nga ndryshimet q\u00eb p\u00ebsojn\u00eb kur hyjn\u00eb n\u00eb mosh\u00ebn e pubertetit. Shpeshher\u00eb i gjen t\u00eb pap\u00ebrgatitur me dije fetare. Zakonisht nuk i njohin rregullat (n\u00eb ve\u00e7anti rregullat e daljes s\u00eb sperm\u00ebs) ose i njohin p\u00ebrciptas. Problemi b\u00ebhet m\u00eb i thell\u00eb kur prej turpit nuk pyesin ask\u00ebnd, gj\u00eb q\u00eb i \u00e7on n\u00eb gabime, p\u00ebr t\u00eb cilat nuk arsyetohen, p\u00ebrderisa ka njer\u00ebz kompetent\u00eb t\u00eb dijes q\u00eb me shum\u00eb leht\u00ebsi u p\u00ebrgjigjen pyetjeve t\u00eb tyre, si: hoxhallar\u00ebt, prind\u00ebrit ose m\u00ebsuesit e tyre.<\/p>\n Andaj, biri im, dije se epshi \u00ebsht\u00eb shkak q\u00eb t\u00eb dal\u00eb l\u00ebng prej organit gjenital, q\u00eb ndahet n\u00eb dy lloje:<\/p>\n – Babi im! Ka t\u00eb rinj q\u00eb, kur vjen koha e namazit t\u00eb drek\u00ebs, i z\u00eb t\u00eb papast\u00ebr. Jan\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb xhunub\u00eb n\u00eb gjum\u00eb dhe, kur jan\u00eb zgjuar, nuk jan\u00eb pastruar n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi[2]<\/sup><\/a>. P\u00ebr t\u00eb mos u vonuar, jan\u00eb nisur menj\u00ebher\u00eb p\u00ebr n\u00eb shkoll\u00eb. E keqja \u00ebsht\u00eb se namazin e drek\u00ebs e falin pa u pastruar prej xhunubll\u00ebkut!<\/p>\n * Biri im! Kjo gj\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e rrezikshme. Myslimanit nuk i lejohet t\u00eb fal\u00eb namazin duke qen\u00eb xhunub derisa t\u00eb pastrohet. N\u00ebse ndodh t\u00eb b\u00ebhet xhunub (n\u00eb gjum\u00eb ose duke qen\u00eb zgjuar), turpi assesi nuk duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb penges\u00eb q\u00eb ai t\u00eb marr\u00eb leje t\u00eb shkoj\u00eb n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi (ose diku tjet\u00ebr) q\u00eb t\u00eb pastrohet. E, n\u00ebse k\u00ebrkon leje dhe nuk i jepet, nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb koha kur del prej shkoll\u00ebs i mjafton atij t\u00eb shkoj\u00eb n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi q\u00eb t\u00eb pastrohet dhe ta fal\u00eb namazin me koh\u00eb, at\u00ebher\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb problem n\u00ebse e vonon namazin (brenda koh\u00ebs s\u00eb vet) derisa t\u00eb shkoj\u00eb n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi, pastrohet dhe e fal namazin e drek\u00ebs n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi.<\/p>\n – Babi im! Po thua se hyrja n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb mosh\u00eb n\u00ebnkupton se fillojn\u00eb edhe p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsit\u00eb fetare. \u00c7ka do t\u00eb thot\u00eb p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsi fetare, a ma sqaron?<\/p>\n * Biri im! M\u00eb her\u00ebt lapsi ka qen\u00eb i ngritur prej teje (pra, s\u2019jan\u00eb shkruar veprat e k\u00ebqija dhe s\u2019ke qen\u00eb i obliguar t\u2019i kryesh detyrimet fetare), nd\u00ebrsa tash, me hyrjen n\u00eb periudh\u00ebn e pubertetit, fillojn\u00eb edhe p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsit\u00eb fetare. Kjo do t\u00eb thot\u00eb se obligohesh me obligimet e t\u00eb rriturve, obligohesh t\u00eb marr\u00ebsh abdes p\u00ebr t\u00eb falur namazin, obligohesh t\u00eb marr\u00ebsh gus\u00ebl (t\u00eb lash krejt trupin kur b\u00ebhesh xhunub), obligohesh t\u00eb fal\u00ebsh namazin, obligohesh me agj\u00ebrimin e Ramazanit, obligohesh me kryerjen e haxhill\u00ebkut, obligohesh t\u00eb th\u00ebrras\u00ebsh n\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00ebn dhe t\u00eb ndalosh t\u00eb keqen etj.<\/p>\n Q\u00eb kur t\u00eb hysh n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb mosh\u00eb nis regjistrimi i gjynaheve dhe gabimeve t\u00eb tua: p\u00ebrgojimi, bartja e fjal\u00ebve, mosrespektimi i prind\u00ebrve, shikimi n\u00eb haram, e shum\u00eb vepra t\u00eb tjera q\u00eb i ka ndaluar Allahu. N\u00ebse i vepron ato, t\u00eb shkruhen dhe e merr nd\u00ebshkimin q\u00eb e meriton n\u00eb Dit\u00ebn e Kiametit, kurse m\u00eb her\u00ebt, para k\u00ebsaj moshe, nuk t\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb shkruar asnj\u00eb e keqe q\u00eb ke punuar. \u00c7do urdh\u00ebr q\u00eb ke kryer dhe prej \u00e7do ndalese q\u00eb je larguar m\u00eb her\u00ebt ka qen\u00eb n\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00ebn t\u00ebnde. N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb je edukuar, je kalitur dhe je parap\u00ebrgatitur p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb periudh\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme t\u00eb jet\u00ebs.<\/p>\n – Mir\u00eb e kuptova k\u00ebt\u00eb gj\u00eb, por, n\u00ebse nj\u00eb i ri sprovohet me prind jofetar, i cili e edukon f\u00ebmij\u00ebn n\u00eb rrug\u00ebn q\u00eb nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb i k\u00ebnaqur Allahu, a arsyetohet f\u00ebmija n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb rast?<\/p>\n * Jo, biri im, k\u00ebto rrethana nuk e shfaj\u00ebsojn\u00eb. Kupto q\u00eb ai tanim\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebs p\u00ebr veten e tij. As prindi e as ndokush tjet\u00ebr nuk merr di\u00e7ka prej gjynaheve t\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebs. N\u00ebse prindi t\u00eb urdh\u00ebron n\u00eb m\u00ebkatim dhe t\u00eb pengon n\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00ebn, nuk lejohet t\u2019i bindesh atij. E, n\u00ebse i bindesh t\u00eb veprosh ndonj\u00eb t\u00eb keqe ose prindi b\u00ebn nj\u00eb t\u00eb keqe e ti shkon rrug\u00ebs s\u00eb tij dhe e b\u00ebn t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn gj\u00eb, ti e merr gjynahun t\u00eb plot\u00eb dhe prindit nuk i pak\u00ebsohet gj\u00eb prej gjynahut t\u00ebnd. Po pra, edhe ai mund t\u00eb marr\u00eb gjynah, sepse t\u00eb ka thirrur t\u00eb shkosh rrug\u00ebs s\u00eb tij e t\u00eb punosh si ai, por kjo ndodh ashtu si e p\u00ebrshkroi Pejgamberi, alejhi selam: \u201cKush th\u00ebrret p\u00ebr n\u00eb devijim, e merr gjynahun e atyre q\u00eb e ndjekin dhe i p\u00ebrgjigjen thirrjes s\u00eb tij, pa pak\u00ebsuar gj\u00eb nga gjynahu i tyre.\u201d<\/em>[3]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n – Me sa po kuptoj nga kjo q\u00eb p\u00ebrmende, po i bie se, n\u00ebse babai ose n\u00ebna nuk e zgjojn\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebn p\u00ebr namazin e sabahut, f\u00ebmija nuk ka arsyetim?<\/p>\n * Pik\u00ebrisht, biri im! E ke kuptuar drejt. Ai e ka p\u00ebr detyr\u00eb t\u00eb kujdeset p\u00ebr veten e tij, prandaj duhet t\u00eb k\u00ebrkoj\u00eb prej babait ose prej n\u00ebn\u00ebs a prej t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve q\u00eb ta zgjojn\u00eb p\u00ebr namazin e sabahut. N\u00ebse nuk e ka k\u00ebt\u00eb mund\u00ebsi, at\u00ebher\u00eb le t\u2019i marr\u00eb masat e duhura, ve\u00e7mas n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb koh\u00eb kur gj\u00ebrat jan\u00eb leht\u00ebsuar: le ta kurdis\u00eb or\u00ebn ose alarmin n\u00eb celular, le t\u00eb k\u00ebrkoj\u00eb prej ndonj\u00eb shoku ta th\u00ebrras\u00eb n\u00eb telefon etj.<\/p>\n – Babi im, disa t\u00eb rinj po arsyetohen me pretekstin se Allahu e ka ngritur lapsin prej atij q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb gjum\u00eb derisa t\u00eb zgjohet! Sa \u00ebsht\u00eb i q\u00ebndruesh\u00ebm ky argumentim?<\/p>\n * Biri im, argumentimi \u00ebsht\u00eb i drejt\u00eb p\u00ebr at\u00eb q\u00eb i merr t\u00eb gjitha masat e mundshme p\u00ebr t\u2019u zgjuar p\u00ebr namaz. N\u00ebse ai bie t\u00eb flej\u00eb her\u00ebt, e rregullon alarmin dhe i merr shkaqet e mundshme q\u00eb i posedon t\u00eb zgjohet p\u00ebr namaz, at\u00ebher\u00eb ky arsyetohet. Por, zakonisht k\u00ebtij personi nuk i ik\u00ebn namazi, sepse gati \u00e7doher\u00eb zgjohet me koh\u00eb. Mir\u00ebpo, n\u00ebse kjo fillon t\u2019i b\u00ebhet zakon, pra, nuk zgjohet asnj\u00eb dit\u00eb ose m\u00eb shum\u00eb nuk zgjohet sesa q\u00eb zgjohet, at\u00ebher\u00eb kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb argument p\u00ebr shkujdesjen dhe neglizhenc\u00ebn e tij n\u00eb raport me namazin e sabahut.<\/p>\n – Babi im, mir\u00eb e kuptova k\u00ebt\u00eb q\u00eb ma shpjegove! Kam v\u00ebrejtur disa t\u00eb rinj q\u00eb ankohen se jan\u00eb t\u00eb paaft\u00eb t\u00eb kryejn\u00eb disa prej obligimeve fetare, sepse ende e shohin veten t\u00eb vegj\u00ebl?<\/p>\n * Ti e ke bindjen e plot\u00eb q\u00eb Allahu t\u00eb krijoi dhe q\u00eb Allahu \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb i dituri p\u00ebr ty, p\u00ebr aft\u00ebsit\u00eb, p\u00ebr lakmit\u00eb dhe p\u00ebr \u00ebndjet e tua: \u201c<\/strong>E si t\u00eb mos dij\u00eb Ai q\u00eb ka krijuar gjith\u00e7ka, kur Ai njeh \u00e7do gj\u00eb me imt\u00ebsi dhe \u00ebsht\u00eb i Gjithinformuari?!\u201d<\/strong> (El Mulk, 14)<\/p>\n Allahu i Lartmadh\u00ebruar e zgjodhi pik\u00ebrisht k\u00ebt\u00eb periudh\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb jet\u00eb fillimi i bartjes s\u00eb p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsis\u00eb fetare, q\u00eb do t\u00eb thot\u00eb se ti je i aft\u00eb t\u00eb bart\u00ebsh p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsit\u00eb fetare, t\u00eb zbatosh urdhrat dhe t\u00eb largohesh prej ndalesave.<\/p>\n Dr. Muhamed ed Duvejshi<\/p>\n Nga arabishtja: Irfan JAHIU<\/p>\n (Pjes\u00eb nga libri: “BIRI IM, TASHM\u00cb JE B\u00cbR\u00cb BURR\u00cb” – i p\u00ebrkthyer n\u00eb gjuh\u00ebn shqipe)<\/p>\n [1]<\/a> Ose dalja e qimeve n\u00eb pjes\u00eb t\u00eb tjera t\u00eb trupit, si: n\u00ebnsqetullat te djemt\u00eb e te vajzat ose paraqitja e mustaqeve dhe qimeve t\u00eb mjekr\u00ebs te djemt\u00eb etj. (sh. p.)<\/p>\n [2]<\/a> N\u00ebse jan\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb xhunub\u00eb nat\u00ebn, para namazit t\u00eb sabahut, ata \u00ebsht\u00eb dashur t\u00eb pastroheshin dhe t\u00eb falnin namazin e sabahut, sepse nuk lejohet t\u00eb falen pa u pastruar ose t\u00eb mos falen fare. Nd\u00ebrkaq, te ky dialog q\u00ebllimi \u00ebsht\u00eb se ata jan\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb xhunub\u00eb pas namazit t\u00eb sabahut dhe, kur jan\u00eb zgjuar, jan\u00eb nisur p\u00ebr n\u00eb shkoll\u00eb, pa u pastruar. (sh. p.)<\/a><\/p>\n\n