– Babi im! M\u00eb tregove shum\u00eb p\u00ebr an\u00ebt e shk\u00eblqyeshme dhe specifikat e k\u00ebsaj periudhe, por jam kureshtar t\u2019i di problemet dhe v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsit\u00eb q\u00eb i ballafaqon i riu n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb periudh\u00eb.<\/p>\n
* Po! Pyetja jote \u00ebsht\u00eb me vend dhe me r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi. Ti e di q\u00eb shejtani kujdeset ta mashtroj\u00eb e ta devijoj\u00eb birin e Ademit. Madje, ai u betua para Allahut se do t\u00eb punoj\u00eb t\u00eb arrij\u00eb synimin e tij: \u201c<\/strong>Ai tha: \u201cP\u00ebr shkak se Ti m\u00eb flake tej, un\u00eb do t\u2019u z\u00eb prit\u00eb njer\u00ebzve n\u00eb rrug\u00ebn T\u00ebnde t\u00eb drejt\u00eb e do t\u2019u qasem atyre nga p\u00ebrpara dhe nga mbrapa, nga e djathta dhe nga e majta, e k\u00ebshtu Ti do t\u00eb v\u00ebresh se shumica prej tyre nuk t\u00eb jan\u00eb mir\u00ebnjoh\u00ebs!\u201d<\/strong> (El Earaf, 16-17)<\/p>\n Mu p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb, kur i riu e arrin mosh\u00ebn e pubertetit, shejtani e fillon betej\u00ebn e ashp\u00ebr me t\u00eb.<\/p>\n Urt\u00ebsia e Allahut \u00ebsht\u00eb q\u00eb rruga p\u00ebr n\u00eb Xhenet t\u00eb jet\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00eb dhe me v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsi, nd\u00ebrsa rruga p\u00ebr n\u00eb Zjarr t\u00eb jet\u00eb e mbushur p\u00ebrplot d\u00ebshira p\u00ebr epshe, ashtu si\u00e7 tregoi Pejgamberi, alejhi selam: \u201cZjarri \u00ebsht\u00eb rrethakuar me epshe, nd\u00ebrsa Xheneti \u00ebsht\u00eb rrethakuar me v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsi.\u201d<\/em>[1]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n Prandaj, sheh se si shfaqen dhe reflektojn\u00eb epshet gjat\u00eb k\u00ebsaj periudhe. N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb form\u00eb qart\u00ebsohet kush u bindet urdhrave t\u00eb Allahut dhe kush i shkel ato. Sikur t\u00eb ishte rruga e adhurimeve e leht\u00eb e pa telashe dhe e shtruar me tr\u00ebndafila, t\u00eb gjith\u00eb do t\u00eb ecnin k\u00ebsaj rruge dhe s\u2019do t\u00eb kishte arsye pse t\u00eb dalloheshin fetar\u00ebt nga ata q\u00eb nuk jan\u00eb fetar\u00eb.<\/p>\n – Babi im! M\u00eb informo pak rreth k\u00ebtyre epsheve: a jan\u00eb nj\u00eb apo shum\u00eb? A jan\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha t\u00eb nj\u00eb shkalle apo dallojn\u00eb mes vete?<\/p>\n * Po, biri im! Epshet ndahen n\u00eb shum\u00eb lloje, ashtu si tregoi Allahu n\u00eb Kuran: \u201c<\/strong>Burrave u \u00ebsht\u00eb hijeshuar dashuria p\u00ebr gj\u00ebrat e d\u00ebshiruara: p\u00ebr grat\u00eb, f\u00ebmij\u00ebt, arin dhe argjendin e grumbulluar, kuajt e bukur, bag\u00ebtit\u00eb dhe arat e l\u00ebruara. K\u00ebto jan\u00eb k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsit\u00eb e k\u00ebsaj jete, por shum\u00eb m\u00eb i mir\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb kthimi tek Allahu.\u201d<\/strong> (Ali Imran, 13)<\/p>\n Nd\u00ebrkaq, dallimi n\u00eb shkall\u00eb dhe natyr\u00eb varet nga vet\u00eb personi dhe mjedisi. Jo te \u00e7do person epshi \u00ebsht\u00eb i nj\u00ebjt\u00eb dhe jo \u00e7do ambient ndikon nj\u00ebjt\u00eb n\u00eb aspektin e epshit. Megjithat\u00eb, n\u00eb p\u00ebrgjith\u00ebsi, epshi i organit, ose si\u00e7 e quajn\u00eb n\u00eb terminologjin\u00eb bashk\u00ebkohore \u201cepshi seksual\u201d, duket t\u00eb jet\u00eb m\u00eb i rrezikshmi dhe m\u00eb i r\u00ebndi p\u00ebr t\u00eb riun, ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb koh\u00eb. Pejgamberi, alejhi selam, paralajm\u00ebroi nga ky rrezik dhe tha: \u201cS\u2019kam l\u00ebn\u00eb pas meje sprov\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb rrezikshme p\u00ebr burrat si sprova e grave.\u201d<\/em>[2]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n Dhe po ashtu tha: \u201cKush m\u00eb garanton q\u00eb e ruan at\u00eb q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb mes dy nofullave (gjuh\u00ebn) dhe mes dy k\u00ebmb\u00ebve (organin), ia garantoj atij Xhenetin.\u201d<\/em>[3]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n Ebu Hurejra tregon se e pyet\u00ebn Pejgamberin, alejhi selam, p\u00ebr vepr\u00ebn q\u00eb m\u00eb s\u00eb shumti i fut njer\u00ebzit n\u00eb Xhenet e Pejgamberi, alejhi selam, tha: \u201cDevotshm\u00ebria dhe morali i mir\u00eb.\u201d<\/em> M\u00eb pas u pyet p\u00ebr vepr\u00ebn q\u00eb m\u00eb s\u00eb shumti i fut njer\u00ebzit n\u00eb Zjarr, e n\u00eb at\u00eb rast tha: \u201cGoja dhe organi.\u201d<\/em>[4]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n – Tashm\u00eb preke n\u00eb plag\u00eb dhe e vendose dor\u00ebn te vendi i dhimbjes kur fole p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb soj t\u00eb epshit, k\u00ebshtu q\u00eb a m\u00eb jep leje t\u00eb parashtroj edhe disa pyetje t\u00eb tjera, pik\u00ebrisht rreth k\u00ebsaj \u00e7\u00ebshtjeje?<\/p>\n * Po, lirisht, pyet \u00e7far\u00eb t\u00eb duash, se do t\u00eb m\u00eb gjesh zem\u00ebrgjer\u00eb, me lejen e Allahut.<\/p>\n – Po d\u00ebgjoj disa t\u00eb rinj q\u00eb po thon\u00eb: \u201cNe e dim\u00eb q\u00eb Allahu \u00ebsht\u00eb i Urti dhe i Gjith\u00ebdijshmi, por a dihet ndonj\u00eb urt\u00ebsi te sprova e njer\u00ebzve me k\u00ebto epshe?<\/p>\n * Biri im! Dije se myslimani nuk i kund\u00ebrshton urdhrat dhe ligjet e Allahut. Ai obligohet t\u2019i n\u00ebnshtrohet dhe t\u2019i besoj\u00eb \u00e7do argumentit q\u00eb ka ardhur prej Allahut, pavar\u00ebsisht a dihet apo jo urt\u00ebsia e asaj dispozite. N\u00ebse ndodh q\u00eb m\u00eb pas t\u00eb shfaqet urt\u00ebsia, kjo ve\u00e7 ia shton edhe m\u00eb tep\u00ebr besimin dhe bindjen.<\/p>\n Prej urt\u00ebsive p\u00ebrmendim se epshi \u00ebsht\u00eb shkak p\u00ebr vazhdim\u00ebsin\u00eb e sojit njer\u00ebzor dhe t\u00eb mos humbet ai. Mu p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb njer\u00ebzve u \u00ebsht\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb e dashur d\u00ebshira p\u00ebr gra dhe f\u00ebmij\u00eb, q\u00eb t\u00eb synojn\u00eb p\u00ebr ta plot\u00ebsuar k\u00ebt\u00eb q\u00ebllim.<\/p>\n Prej urt\u00ebsive t\u00eb tjera p\u00ebrmendim se epshi \u00ebsht\u00eb sprov\u00eb. M\u00eb par\u00eb pohova se rruga e adhurimeve nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb aspak e leht\u00eb sepse duhet t\u00eb mposhtet nefsi. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb arsyeja pse n\u00ebp\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb rrug\u00eb ecin vet\u00ebm t\u00eb sinqert\u00ebt. Sikur t\u00eb ishte e leht\u00eb, t\u00eb gjith\u00eb do t\u00eb ecnin n\u00ebp\u00ebr t\u00eb.<\/p>\n – Besoj se i men\u00e7uri hapin e par\u00eb q\u00eb e merr n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb rast \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb njoftohet me shkaqet q\u00eb e \u00e7ojn\u00eb t\u00eb bjer\u00eb n\u00eb gjynahun e epshit t\u00eb ndaluar. N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb u largohet me leht\u00ebsi atyre dhe e zvog\u00eblon presionin e epshit n\u00eb veten e tij. A \u00ebsht\u00eb ashtu?<\/p>\n * Po, biri im, ashtu \u00ebsht\u00eb! P\u00ebr njeriun me r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi t\u00eb madhe \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb zbus\u00eb \u00e7do faktor q\u00eb e nxit dhe e shton vrullin e epshit tek ai.<\/p>\n – Te \u00e7\u00ebshtja e epshit \u00e7ka e sheh ti m\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00eb dhe me rrezik m\u00eb t\u00eb madh?<\/p>\n * M\u00eb e r\u00ebnda dhe m\u00eb e rrezikshmja \u00ebsht\u00eb shikimi n\u00eb haram. Shikimi \u00ebsht\u00eb i lidhur me zemr\u00ebn drejtp\u00ebrdrejt. Ai \u00ebsht\u00eb hapi i par\u00eb q\u00eb e merr njeriu p\u00ebr ta \u00e7uar n\u00eb haram. Mu p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb Allahu i paralajm\u00ebroi rob\u00ebrit e Vet kur thot\u00eb: \u201c<\/strong>Thuaju besimtar\u00ebve q\u00eb t\u00eb ulin shikimet e tyre (nga e ndaluara) dhe ta ruajn\u00eb nderin e tyre (nga marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet e jasht\u00ebligjshme)! Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb p\u00ebr ta! Me t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb, Allahu \u00ebsht\u00eb i Dijsh\u00ebm p\u00ebr at\u00eb q\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb ata.\u201d<\/strong> (En Nur, 30)<\/p>\n P\u00ebr rrezikun e shikimit dhe p\u00ebr pasojat e tij Pejgamberi m i paralajm\u00ebroi shok\u00ebt e tij duke u th\u00ebn\u00eb: \u201c<\/em>Kini kujdes! Ruajuni nga t\u00eb ulurit n\u00eb rrug\u00eb!\u201d <\/em>Njer\u00ebzit i than\u00eb: \u201cNuk kemi zgjidhje tjet\u00ebr, pasi ato jan\u00eb vendet ku mblidhemi dhe bisedojm\u00eb.\u201d Pejgamberi, alejhi selam, u tha: \u201cN\u00eb qoft\u00eb se duhet patjet\u00ebr t\u00eb uleni aty, at\u00ebher\u00eb p\u00ebrmbajuni hakut t\u00eb rrug\u00ebs.\u201d<\/em> E pyet\u00ebn p\u00ebrs\u00ebri: \u201cCilat jan\u00eb t\u00eb drejtat e rrug\u00ebs?\u201d Ai u tha: \u201cUlja e shikimit (q\u00eb t\u00eb mos v\u00ebshtrosh \u00e7far\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e ndaluar p\u00ebr t’u par\u00eb), p\u00ebrmbajtja p\u00ebr t\u00eb mos i l\u00ebnduar njer\u00ebzit, kthimi i p\u00ebrsh\u00ebndetjes, urdh\u00ebrimi i s\u00eb mir\u00ebs dhe ndalimi i s\u00eb keqes.\u201d<\/em>[5]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Poeti arab thoshte:<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Pothuajse \u00e7do problem nism\u00ebn e ka te shikimi,<\/em><\/p>\n \u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n sikurse s<\/em>humic\u00ebn e zjarrit e p\u00ebrb\u00ebjn\u00eb xixat e vogla.<\/em><\/p>\n \u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n Sa shikim<\/em>e <\/em>dep\u00ebrtuan n\u00eb zem\u00ebr derisa e prish\u00ebn at\u00eb,<\/em><\/p>\n \u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n sikurse shigjeta q\u00eb dep\u00ebrton, pa harkun dhe rrethoren.<\/em><\/p>\n <\/p>\n – Nga ky hadith n\u00ebnkuptohet se myslimani duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb i kujdessh\u00ebm dhe t\u00eb largohet nga vendet ku ka hap\u00ebsir\u00eb t\u00eb shikoj\u00eb n\u00eb haram. A e kam kuptuar drejt?<\/p>\n * Po, biri im! Pejgamberi, alejhi selam, n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb hadith, jo vet\u00ebm q\u00eb i ndaloi t\u00eb shikojn\u00eb n\u00eb haram, por, madje, i ndaloi t\u00eb ulen n\u00eb at\u00eb rrug\u00eb q\u00eb mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb sebep t\u00eb \u00e7oj\u00eb ndonj\u00ebrin prej tyre t\u00eb shikoj\u00eb n\u00eb haram, edhe pse rrug\u00ebt e Medin\u00ebs n\u00eb at\u00eb koh\u00eb nuk ishin si rrug\u00ebt e mysliman\u00ebve n\u00eb dit\u00ebt e sotme, ku zhveshja dhe paturp\u00ebsia shfaqen haptazi. At\u00ebbot\u00eb grat\u00eb ishin t\u00eb mbuluara dhe turpi ishte emblema e tyre. Madje, kur ecnin rrug\u00ebs, shkonin skajeve t\u00eb rrug\u00ebs, q\u00eb t\u00eb mos p\u00ebrziheshin me burrat n\u00eb mesin e rrug\u00ebs.<\/p>\n – P\u00ebrse niveli i rrezikut t\u00eb shikimit n\u00eb haram \u00ebsht\u00eb aq i lart\u00eb?<\/p>\n * Niveli i rrezikut \u00ebsht\u00eb i lart\u00eb sepse ajo q\u00eb vjen m\u00eb pas \u00ebsht\u00eb edhe m\u00eb e rrezikshme. Gjurma e shikimit mbetet n\u00eb zem\u00ebr dhe shejtani e zbukuron at\u00eb edhe m\u00eb tep\u00ebr. N\u00eb \u00e7do moment tenton t\u2019ia kujtoj\u00eb pamjen. Kur shtrihet n\u00eb shtrat p\u00ebr t\u00eb fjetur, shejtani e shfryt\u00ebzon rastin dhe e ngacmon mendjen e tij. Mendimi i tep\u00ebrt\u00a0 dikur shnd\u00ebrrohet n\u00eb obsesion. Ndoshta gjen t\u00eb rinj q\u00eb edhe gjat\u00eb faljes s\u00eb namazit mendt\u00eb i kan\u00eb te k\u00ebto epshe! Pas gjith\u00eb k\u00ebsaj, \u00e7far\u00eb mbetet n\u00eb zemr\u00ebn e njeriut p\u00ebr Allahun e Madh\u00ebrish\u00ebm?<\/p>\n Kur mendimi zgjatet dhe e mposht mendjen, \u00e7\u00ebshtja rritet deri aty saq\u00eb e \u00e7on t\u00eb mendoj\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb vepruar realisht. Prej ides\u00eb kalon n\u00eb q\u00ebllim, m\u00eb pas kalon n\u00eb planifikim, vendosm\u00ebri dhe k\u00ebmb\u00ebngulje. N\u00eb fund e \u00e7on n\u00eb vep\u00ebr (n\u00eb imoralitet dhe krim). N\u00ebse arrin ta p\u00ebrmbaj\u00eb veten nga r\u00ebnia n\u00eb imoralitet, m\u00eb e vogla q\u00eb mund t\u00eb supozohet n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb rast \u00ebsht\u00eb r\u00ebnia e tij n\u00eb masturbim.<\/p>\n – Babi im! Kam nj\u00eb pyetje me r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi rreth masturbimit, por po e l\u00eb p\u00ebr pak m\u00eb von\u00eb, sepse para saj kam nj\u00eb pyetje rreth shikimit. Disa t\u00eb rinj e l\u00ebshojn\u00eb pand\u00ebrprer\u00eb shikimin n\u00eb haram: shikojn\u00eb n\u00eb revista, filma, n\u00eb rrug\u00eb, me pretekstin se \u00e7\u00ebshtja mbetet n\u00eb suaza t\u00eb kufijve e nuk zgjerohet, aq sa t\u00eb \u00e7ojn\u00eb n\u00eb amoralitet ose n\u00eb hapat drejt\u00eb zinas\u00eb.<\/p>\n * At\u00eb q\u00eb e thua \u00ebsht\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb, por duhet t\u00eb kuptohet nj\u00eb realitet: l\u00ebshimi i shikimit n\u00eb haram \u00ebsht\u00eb e keqe dhe e ndalur. P\u00ebrderisa e l\u00ebshon shikimin n\u00eb di\u00e7ka q\u00eb ndalohet, ti tashm\u00eb ke r\u00ebn\u00eb n\u00eb gjynah, pavar\u00ebsisht pasojave q\u00eb vijn\u00eb m\u00eb von\u00eb si rezultat i shikimit.<\/p>\n Edhe n\u00ebse supozojm\u00eb se nuk bie n\u00eb imoralitet, vet\u00ebm angazhimi i zemr\u00ebs me epshe e d\u00ebmton r\u00ebnd\u00eb at\u00eb. Ndikon t\u00eb largohet prej gj\u00ebrave q\u00eb jan\u00eb t\u00eb dobishme p\u00ebr fen\u00eb e dynjan\u00eb e tij, e privon nga \u00ebmb\u00eblsia e meditimit t\u00eb Kuranit, nga \u00ebmb\u00eblsia e lidhjes me Allahun dhe lutjes.<\/p>\n Ndoshta her\u00ebn e par\u00eb nuk bie n\u00eb imoralitet, por shejtani aq shum\u00eb ia hijeshon rrug\u00ebn t\u00eb vazhdoj\u00eb, e nxit her\u00eb pas her\u00eb, derisa ta shpjer\u00eb n\u00eb imoralitet, qoft\u00eb dhe pasi t\u00eb kaloj\u00eb nj\u00eb koh\u00eb e gjat\u00eb. Kur epshi e mposht mendjen dhe e dominon trupin, m\u00eb s\u2019ka gj\u00eb q\u00eb e kthen prapa.<\/p>\n – Me sa e kuptova prej teje, po i bie se faktori i par\u00eb qenka shikimi n\u00eb haram, e m\u00eb pas shikimi e ngjallka mendimin. Po mir\u00eb, mendimi me epsh a llogaritet i ndaluar?<\/p>\n * Prej m\u00ebshir\u00ebs s\u00eb Allahut \u00ebsht\u00eb q\u00eb njer\u00ebzit t\u00eb d\u00ebnohen vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr veprat q\u00eb i punojn\u00eb. Pejgamberi, alejhi selam, tha: \u201cAllahu ia fali umetit tim bisedat q\u00eb zhvillohen n\u00eb brend\u00ebsin\u00eb e shpirtit, p\u00ebrderisa nuk e punojn\u00eb ose nuk e flasin at\u00eb.\u201d<\/em>[6]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n Por, nganj\u00ebher\u00eb mendimi te dikush q\u00ebndron m\u00eb gjat\u00eb, derisa ta mposht\u00eb dhe ta angazhoj\u00eb zemr\u00ebn me t\u00eb. Si rrjedhoj\u00eb, situata mund t\u00eb dal\u00eb jasht\u00eb kontrollit e mendimi t\u00eb b\u00ebhet shkak q\u00eb ta \u00e7oj\u00eb n\u00eb m\u00ebkatim. Prandaj, k\u00ebshilla ime p\u00ebr dhe ty dhe \u00e7do t\u00eb ri \u00ebsht\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb mos preokuponi veten me mendime t\u00eb tilla. Kujdesuni q\u00eb mendimet tuaja t\u00eb jen\u00eb t\u00eb sojit q\u00eb ju b\u00ebjn\u00eb dobi n\u00eb dynja dhe n\u00eb ahiret. P\u00ebr ju \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb e mir\u00eb dhe m\u00eb meritore t\u00eb merreni me to.<\/p>\n K\u00ebshtu, n\u00eb momentin q\u00eb ju vijn\u00eb mendime t\u00eb tilla, kujdesuni t\u2019i ktheni mbrapa, shk\u00ebputni \u00e7do lidhje me to dhe z\u00ebvend\u00ebsoni me t\u00eb tjera m\u00eb t\u00eb mira.<\/p>\n – Cili faktor tjet\u00ebr \u00e7on n\u00eb zgjimin e epshit? A mund t\u00eb themi se jan\u00eb shok\u00ebt e k\u00ebqij?<\/p>\n * Po, biri im! Shoq\u00ebria e keqe ndikon p\u00ebr keq dhe jan\u00eb rrezik i madh p\u00ebr t\u00eb riun.<\/p>\n – Tani e kuptova shum\u00eb mir\u00eb q\u00eb k\u00ebto qenkan disa prej faktor\u00ebve q\u00eb e zgjojn\u00eb epshin. Obligimi im \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb largohem dhe t\u00eb q\u00ebndroj sa m\u00eb larg prej tyre. Megjithat\u00eb, mua po m\u00eb duket se ka edhe faktor\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00eb q\u00eb tek i riu e zgjojn\u00eb epshin e tij. Mu p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb, ai duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb i v\u00ebmendsh\u00ebm dhe me shum\u00eb kujdes t\u00eb largohet nga \u00e7do gj\u00eb q\u00eb e \u00e7on n\u00eb m\u00ebkatim.<\/p>\n – Babi im! Pasi u sqarua se zgjidhja e problemit qenka n\u00eb largimin nga \u00e7do faktor q\u00eb e nxit epshin dhe q\u00eb \u00e7on n\u00eb gjynah, tani m\u00eb intereson se a ka opsione t\u00eb tjera p\u00ebr t\u00eb zgjidhur k\u00ebt\u00eb problem?<\/p>\n * Po, biri im! Mund\u00ebsia tjet\u00ebr e zgjidhjes \u00ebsht\u00eb zbatimi i urdhrave. N\u00ebp\u00ebrmjet tyre forcohet zemra q\u00eb t\u00eb mos bjer\u00eb n\u00eb epshe. Fuqia e besimit n\u00eb Allahun \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishmja prej tyre. Besimi \u00ebsht\u00eb arma e besimtarit n\u00eb ballafaqimin e furtunave t\u00eb epsheve dhe dyshimeve q\u00eb mundohen ta l\u00ebkundin at\u00eb, prandaj ai duhet ta forcoj\u00eb imanin dhe t\u00eb kujdeset p\u00ebr t\u00eb. Pejgamberi, alejhi selam, thoshte: \u201cImani vjetrohet n\u00eb brend\u00ebsin\u00eb e zemrave t\u00eb ndonj\u00ebrit prej jush ashtu si vjetrohet rroba. Prandaj, k\u00ebrkoni prej Allahut t\u00eb rip\u00ebrt\u00ebrij\u00eb imanin tuaj.\u201d<\/em>[7]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n Muadh ibn Xhebeli th\u00ebrriste nj\u00ebrin prej shok\u00ebve t\u00eb tij dhe i thoshte: \u201cEja ulu me ne, q\u00eb t\u00eb besojm\u00eb nj\u00eb \u00e7ast.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n – Cilat vepra e shtojn\u00eb imanin?<\/p>\n * Biri im, imani shtohet me adhurime dhe pak\u00ebsohet me gjynahe. Imanin e shtojn\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha llojet e adhurimit, si: leximi i Kuranit dhe p\u00ebrsiatja e dometh\u00ebnieve t\u00eb tij, p\u00ebrmendja e vazhdueshme e Allahut, meditimi n\u00eb krijimtarin\u00eb dhe krijesat e Allahut n\u00eb tok\u00eb e qiej q\u00eb aludojn\u00eb n\u00eb madh\u00ebshtin\u00eb e Tij etj.<\/p>\n – Babi im! Cili faktor tjet\u00ebr pas besimit n\u00eb Allahun ndikon n\u00eb zgjidhjen e problemit?<\/p>\n * Faktori tjet\u00ebr, biri im, \u00ebsht\u00eb frika ndaj Allahut dhe vet\u00ebdija e mbik\u00ebqyrjes hyjnore n\u00eb publik e vetmi.<\/p>\n Kur besimtari e di q\u00eb Allahu \u00ebsht\u00eb i Gjith\u00ebdijshmi dhe i Plotfuqishmi, s\u2019ka mund\u00ebsi t\u2019i ik\u00eb di\u00e7ka dijes s\u00eb Tij e as t\u2019i fshihet Atij, qoft\u00eb dhe sa nj\u00eb th\u00ebrrmij\u00eb atomi, ashtu si\u00e7 thot\u00eb Allahu: \u201c<\/strong>Ai i ka \u00e7el\u00ebsat e s\u00eb padukshmes dhe vet\u00ebm Ai i njeh ato. Ai e di \u00e7\u2019ka n\u00eb tok\u00eb dhe n\u00eb det; asnj\u00eb gjeth nuk bie, pa e ditur Ai dhe nuk ekziston asnj\u00eb kok\u00ebrr n\u00eb err\u00ebsir\u00ebn e tok\u00ebs, as e njom\u00eb, as e that\u00eb, q\u00eb t\u00eb mos jet\u00eb sh\u00ebnuar n\u00eb Librin e qart\u00eb (Leuhi Mahfudh).\u201d<\/strong> (El Enam, 59)<\/p>\n Po ashtu Allahu thot\u00eb: \u201cAllahu e di se \u00e7\u2019mbart \u00e7do fem\u00ebr dhe e di sa shkurtohet e sa zgjatet (koha e lindjes). \u00c7do gj\u00eb tek Ai \u00ebsht\u00eb me mas\u00eb. Ai i di gj\u00ebrat e dukshme dhe t\u00eb padukshme. Ai \u00ebsht\u00eb i Madhi, i Larti. (P\u00ebr At\u00eb) nj\u00eblloj \u00ebsht\u00eb: si ai prej jush q\u00eb flet me vete edhe ai q\u00eb flet me z\u00eb t\u00eb lart\u00eb, si ai q\u00eb fshihet nat\u00ebn edhe ai q\u00eb ec\u00ebn dit\u00ebn.\u201d<\/strong> (Er Rad, 8-10)<\/p>\n T\u00eb gjith\u00eb jan\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00eb n\u00eb dijen e Allahut: ai q\u00eb kryen imoralitet ose b\u00ebn haram haptazi e n\u00eb publik para njer\u00ebzve n\u00eb mes t\u00eb dit\u00ebs, si dhe tjetri i cili e mbyll der\u00ebn e tij n\u00eb err\u00ebsir\u00ebn e nat\u00ebs. Allahu e di gjendjen e t\u00eb dyve. E, kur mbisundon te besimtari kjo vet\u00ebdije, ai i frikohet Allahut dhe e p\u00ebrmban veten nga r\u00ebnia n\u00eb gjynah.<\/p>\n Pejgamberi, alejhi selam, i p\u00ebrmendi shtat\u00eb persona q\u00eb do t\u00eb jen\u00eb n\u00eb hijen e Arshit t\u00eb Allahut, ku nuk ka hije tjet\u00ebr p\u00ebrve\u00e7 hijes s\u00eb Arshit n\u00eb Dit\u00ebn e Kiametit, e n\u00eb mesin e tyre tha se do jet\u00eb: \u201c… nj\u00eb burr\u00eb t\u00eb cilin e fton nj\u00eb grua e bukur dhe me pozit\u00eb t\u00eb kryej\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie intime me t\u00eb, e ai e refuzon me fjal\u00ebt: \u201cUn\u00eb ia kam frik\u00ebn Allahut.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n – Babi im! Cili \u00ebsht\u00eb faktori i tret\u00eb?<\/p>\n * I riu ta kujtoj\u00eb dit\u00ebn kur do t\u00eb q\u00ebndroj\u00eb para Allahut, dit\u00ebn kur do ta takoj\u00eb Allahun e t\u00eb gjurmohen t\u00eb fshehtat dhe dit\u00ebn kur \u00e7do gj\u00eb do t\u00eb shfaqet para njer\u00ebzve. Le ta kujtoj\u00eb se si Allahu do t\u2019i nd\u00ebshkoj\u00eb gjynahqar\u00ebt kur ta takojn\u00eb, goj\u00ebt do t\u2019u mbyllen dhe do t\u00eb flasin gjymtyr\u00ebt p\u00ebr at\u00eb q\u00eb e punuan: \u201c<\/strong>Kur t\u00eb vijn\u00eb af\u00ebr Zjarrit, kund\u00ebr tyre do t\u00eb d\u00ebshmojn\u00eb vesh\u00ebt, syt\u00eb dhe l\u00ebkur\u00ebt e tyre p\u00ebr at\u00eb q\u00eb kan\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb.\u201d<\/strong> (Fusilet, 20)<\/p>\n A ka mund\u00ebsi dikush t\u00eb kryej\u00eb gjynah pa e ditur gjymtyr\u00ebt e tij? Allahu thot\u00eb: \u201cJu nuk u fsheh\u00ebt, q\u00eb kund\u00ebr jush t\u00eb mos d\u00ebshmonin vesh\u00ebt, syt\u00eb e l\u00ebkura juaj, por ngaq\u00eb besonit se Allahu nuk i dinte shum\u00eb nga ato q\u00eb b\u00ebnit.\u201d<\/strong> (Fusilet, 22)<\/p>\n K\u00ebt\u00eb situat\u00eb n\u00eb Dit\u00ebn e Kiametit e p\u00ebrshkruan qart\u00eb Pejgamberi, alejhi selam. Enes ibn Maliku tregon se ishte me disa sahab\u00eb te Pejgamberi, alejhi selam, dhe, teksa po rrinin, Pejgamberi, alejhi selam qeshi dhe na pyeti: \u201cA e dini \u00e7far\u00eb m\u00eb b\u00ebri t\u00eb qesh?\u201d<\/em> I tham\u00eb: \u201cAllahu dhe i D\u00ebrguari i Tij e din\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb gj\u00eb.\u201d Na tha: \u201cQesha me bised\u00ebn e robit me Zotin e Tij n\u00eb Dit\u00ebn e Kiametit, kur robi thot\u00eb: \u201cO Zot! M\u00eb ke siguruar se nuk do t\u00eb m\u00eb b\u00ebsh padrejt\u00ebsi?!\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n Allahu thot\u00eb: \u201cPo, o robi Im.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n Robi thot\u00eb: \u201cVet\u00ebm veten e pranoj si d\u00ebshmitar timin.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n Allahu thot\u00eb: \u201cMjafton vetja jote dhe melek\u00ebt e ndersh\u00ebm (q\u00eb i shkruajn\u00eb veprat e njeriut).\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n At\u00ebher\u00eb i mbyllet goja dhe u thuhet gjymtyr\u00ebve t\u00eb tij: \u201cFlitni!\u201d K\u00ebshtu, gjymtyr\u00ebt e tij flasin p\u00ebr veprat q\u00eb i ka b\u00ebr\u00eb ai.<\/em><\/p>\n M\u00eb pas i lirohet goja t\u00eb flas\u00eb, me \u00e7\u2019rast ai thot\u00eb: \u201cLarg qofshi, por un\u00eb p\u00ebr ju po debatoja!\u201d<\/em>[8]<\/sup><\/a><\/p>\n Biri im, n\u00ebse i riu i kujton k\u00ebto situata, do t\u2019i shtohet frika ndaj Allahut dhe nuk e merr leht\u00eb guximin t\u00eb veproj\u00eb gjynahun.<\/p>\n – Babi im, a ka faktor tjet\u00ebr?<\/p>\n * Po biri im! Faktoi i kat\u00ebrt \u00ebsht\u00eb q\u00eb besimtari t\u00eb mendoj\u00eb rreth alternativ\u00ebs q\u00eb Allahu ia p\u00ebrgatiti n\u00eb Dit\u00ebn e Kiametet atij q\u00eb u bindet urdhrave dhe e ruan veten prej gjynaheve. A e di se cila \u00ebsht\u00eb ajo?<\/p>\n – Mendoj q\u00eb p\u00ebr q\u00ebllim jan\u00eb hyrit\u00eb e Xhenetit?<\/p>\n * Po, biri im. Ato jan\u00eb hyrit\u00eb e Xhenetit, t\u00eb cilat Allahu i p\u00ebrshkroi n\u00eb Kuran: \u201c<\/strong>T\u00eb cilat Ne i kemi krijuar n\u00eb nj\u00eb form\u00eb t\u00eb ve\u00e7ant\u00eb (jo t\u00eb lindura), dhe i kemi b\u00ebr\u00eb ato virgj\u00ebresha, t\u00eb dashura p\u00ebr bashk\u00ebshort\u00ebt e tyre dhe moshatare me ta, p\u00ebr njer\u00ebzit e s\u00eb djatht\u00ebs.\u201d<\/strong> (El Vakia, 35-38)<\/p>\n Pejgamberi, alejhi selam, i p\u00ebrshkroi me fjal\u00ebt: \u201c\u00c7do banori t\u00eb Xhenetit i takojn\u00eb dy gra (prej hyrive t\u00eb Xhenetit). Ato jan\u00eb aq t\u00eb bukura, saq\u00eb u shihet palca e k\u00ebrcellit t\u00eb k\u00ebmb\u00ebs prej pas mishit (p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb trupit t\u00eb tejduksh\u00ebm dhe l\u00ebkur\u00ebs s\u00eb holl\u00eb e t\u00eb but\u00eb).<\/em>\u201d[9]<\/a><\/sup><\/p>\n – Pastaj cili faktor vjen me radh\u00eb?<\/p>\n * Biri im! Pastaj vjen duaja dhe kthimi nga Allahu. N\u00eb Kuran u p\u00ebrmend tregimi p\u00ebr Jusufin n. Grat\u00eb tentuan ta joshin me bukurit\u00eb e tyre p\u00ebr n\u00eb\u00a0 imoralitet, por ai tha: \u201c<\/strong>O Zoti im, m\u00eb shum\u00eb e dua burgun se at\u00eb ku m\u00eb shtyjn\u00eb ato. N\u00ebse Ti nuk e largon prej meje dredhin\u00eb e tyre, un\u00eb do t\u00eb prirem drejt atyre dhe do t\u00eb b\u00ebhem nga ata q\u00eb nuk (i) din\u00eb (ligjet e Tua).\u201d<\/strong> (Jusuf, 33)<\/p>\n Prandaj, biri im, ktheju Allahut dhe i p\u00ebrulur ngriji duart e tua. Dije se Allahu nuk e l\u00eb t\u00eb zhg\u00ebnjyer at\u00eb q\u00eb ka mendim t\u00eb mir\u00eb p\u00ebr Allahun dhe nuk e kthen lutjen e atij q\u00eb i ngre duart e tij, sepse Ai \u00ebsht\u00eb af\u00ebr rob\u00ebrve t\u00eb Vet dhe i pranon lutjet e tyre.<\/p>\n Biri im! Vlen t\u00eb theksohet edhe nj\u00eb faktor tjet\u00ebr, i gjashti n\u00eb radh\u00eb. Ai \u00ebsht\u00eb forcimi i vullnetit dhe i vendosm\u00ebris\u00eb, q\u00eb i bie se njeriu duhet ta edukoj\u00eb veten p\u00ebr vet\u00ebp\u00ebrmbajtje dhe jo t\u00eb dor\u00ebzohet q\u00eb t\u2019i plot\u00ebsoj\u00eb \u00e7do d\u00ebshir\u00eb dhe pasion, p\u00ebrve\u00e7 n\u00ebse e di q\u00eb ajo gj\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00ebn e fes\u00eb dhe dynjas\u00eb s\u00eb tij. Vet\u00ebp\u00ebrmbajta k\u00ebrkon sakrific\u00eb dhe kalitje. Njeriu duhet t\u00eb kuptoj\u00eb realitetin se \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb betej\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb me nefsin e tij q\u00eb shejtani e ngacmon fort t\u00eb shkoj\u00eb pas s\u00eb keqes. Prandaj, pa vendosm\u00ebri nuk ka mund\u00ebsi ta mposht\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb armik t\u00eb p\u00ebrbetuar.<\/p>\n – Babi im! Cili \u00ebsht\u00eb faktori i radh\u00ebs?<\/p>\n * Ka mbetur t\u00eb p\u00ebrmendet nj\u00eb faktor i r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebm, q\u00eb me q\u00ebllim nuk e p\u00ebrmendi deri tani. Besoj se ti e di cili \u00ebsht\u00eb ai, ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht pasi dihet q\u00eb Pejgamberi, alejhi selam, sinjalizoi rreth tij n\u00eb hadithe.<\/p>\n – Po, babi im! Ato jan\u00eb martesa dhe agj\u00ebrimi. A \u00ebsht\u00eb ashtu?!<\/p>\n * Po, biri im, Allahu t\u00eb dh\u00ebnt\u00eb sukses! Martesa \u00ebsht\u00eb shkak q\u00eb njeriu ta k\u00ebnaq\u00eb veten e tij n\u00eb hallall dhe ta largoj\u00eb nga harami. N\u00ebse nj\u00eb i ri i mosh\u00ebs sate nuk ka mund\u00ebsi t\u00eb martohet, at\u00ebher\u00eb le t\u00eb kapet p\u00ebr agj\u00ebrimin. Duhet t\u00eb mundohet q\u00eb agj\u00ebrimi vullnetar t\u00eb jet\u00eb pjes\u00eb e p\u00ebrditshm\u00ebris\u00eb s\u00eb tij, si: agj\u00ebrimi i dit\u00ebs s\u00eb h\u00ebn\u00eb e t\u00eb enjte, ose vet\u00ebm agj\u00ebrimi i dit\u00ebs s\u00eb h\u00ebn\u00eb ose tri dit\u00ebt e \u00e7do muaji etj. Le t\u00eb zgjedh\u00eb p\u00ebr veten e tij llojin e agj\u00ebrimit vullnetar t\u00eb cilit mund t\u2019i p\u00ebrmbahet p\u00ebr koh\u00eb t\u00eb gjat\u00eb. Agj\u00ebrimi \u00ebsht\u00eb shkak p\u00ebr ta shtuar imanin dhe p\u00ebr ta arritur devotshm\u00ebrin\u00eb, ashtu si\u00e7 thot\u00eb Allahu: \u201c<\/strong>O besimtar\u00eb! Ju \u00ebsht\u00eb urdh\u00ebruar agj\u00ebrimi, ashtu si u ishte urdh\u00ebruar atyre para jush, q\u00eb t\u00eb mund t\u00eb ruheni nga t\u00eb k\u00ebqijat.\u201d<\/strong> (El Bekare, 183)<\/p>\n Po ashtu agj\u00ebrimi e forcon vullnetin e vendosm\u00ebrin\u00eb dhe e kalit njeriun q\u00eb ta mposht\u00eb nefsin e tij.<\/p>\n – Babi im! \u00c7far\u00eb m\u00eb k\u00ebshillon p\u00ebr masturbimin, sepse shum\u00eb t\u00eb rinj interesohen p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb \u00e7\u00ebshtje?<\/p>\n * Biri im! Masturbimi \u00ebsht\u00eb veprim i keq dhe i ndaluar. Ndalesa e tij erdhi n\u00eb Kuran dhe n\u00eb Sunet. Allahu thot\u00eb: \u201c<\/strong>T\u00eb cil\u00ebt e ruajn\u00eb nderin e tyre (nga marr\u00ebdh\u00ebniet e jasht\u00ebligjshme), p\u00ebrve\u00e7se me grat\u00eb e tyre…\u201d<\/strong> (El Muminun, 5-6)<\/p>\n N\u00eb k\u00ebto ajete Allahu tregon se besimtar\u00ebt e ruajn\u00eb nderin n\u00ebp\u00ebrmjet martes\u00ebs dhe kontaktit intim q\u00eb e kan\u00eb me grat\u00eb e tyre, q\u00eb tregon se nuk lejohet di\u00e7ka tjet\u00ebr jasht\u00eb saj. M\u00eb pas, n\u00eb ajetin e radh\u00ebs i p\u00ebrmendi ata q\u00eb k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsin\u00eb p\u00ebrtej k\u00ebsaj dhe thot\u00eb: \u201c… nd\u00ebrsa ata q\u00eb k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb p\u00ebrtej k\u00ebsaj, pik\u00ebrisht ata jan\u00eb shkel\u00ebs (t\u00eb kufijve).\u201d <\/strong>(El Muminun, 7)<\/p>\n N\u00eb aspektin sh\u00ebndet\u00ebsor masturbimi \u00ebsht\u00eb i d\u00ebmsh\u00ebm: e dob\u00ebson organin gjenital dhe m\u00eb von\u00eb ekziston mund\u00ebsia q\u00eb organi i tij t\u00eb mos funksionoj\u00eb si duhet e t\u00eb ket\u00eb probleme n\u00eb jet\u00ebn bashk\u00ebshortore. Po ashtu shkakton \u00e7rregullime n\u00eb sistemin tret\u00ebs, e dob\u00ebson sperm\u00ebn, e cila m\u00eb von\u00eb mund t\u00eb \u00e7oj\u00eb n\u00eb sterilitet dhe e shkakton dob\u00ebsimin e gj\u00ebndr\u00ebs n\u00eb hipofiz\u00eb.<\/p>\n Po ashtu shkakton \u00e7rregullime psikike, si: pik\u00ebllimi dhe m\u00ebrzi. Personi q\u00eb masturbon e ndien fajin e gjynahun dhe e faj\u00ebson veten. Kjo gjendje shkakton tek ai breng\u00eb t\u00eb madhe q\u00eb e r\u00ebndon dhe e pengon nga shum\u00eb vepra t\u00eb mira, ose fare nuk e ndien gjynahun, e ky \u00ebsht\u00eb rreziku m\u00eb i madh q\u00eb e \u00e7on n\u00eb humbjen e turpit dhe dinjitetit.<\/p>\n Nganj\u00ebher\u00eb i riu mund t\u00eb masturboj\u00eb n\u00eb ndonj\u00eb vend, ku nuk mund t\u00eb lahet, e kjo e shtyn ta vonoj\u00eb namazin ose t\u00eb falet n\u00eb at\u00eb gjendje. N\u00eb t\u00eb dyja rastet secili veprim i tij \u00ebsht\u00eb i hidhur dhe i ndaluar.<\/p>\n – A ka m\u00ebnyr\u00eb si t\u00eb largohet nga ky gjynah?<\/p>\n * Biri im! Ila\u00e7i i k\u00ebtij problemi \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb at\u00eb q\u00eb e p\u00ebrmenda m\u00eb her\u00ebt. Ja, po t\u2019i p\u00ebrmend shpejt: forcimi i imanit dhe frika ndaj Allahut, forcimi i vullnetit, ulja e shikimit, largimi i mendimit me epsh, largimi nga t\u00eb vetmuarit me gra t\u00eb huaja dhe nga vendet q\u00eb nxisin epshin, marrja me dije e lexim, harxhimi i koh\u00ebs n\u00eb gj\u00ebra t\u00eb dobishme, sepse k\u00ebshtu e angazhon trurin e t\u00eb riut me gj\u00ebra serioze.<\/p>\n Dr. Muhamed ed Duvejshi<\/p>\n Nga arabishtja: Irfan JAHIU<\/p>\n (Pjes\u00eb nga libri: \u201cBIRI IM, TASHM\u00cb JE B\u00cbR\u00cb BURR\u00cb\u201d \u2013 i p\u00ebrkthyer n\u00eb gjuh\u00ebn shqipe)<\/p>\n [1]<\/a> Buhariu (6487).<\/p>\n [2]<\/a> Buhariu (5096, Muslimi (2740).<\/p>\n [3]<\/a> Buhariu (6474).<\/p>\n [4]<\/a> Tirmidhiu (2004).<\/p>\n [5]<\/a> Muslimi (1211).<\/p>\n [6]<\/a> Buhariu (5269), Muslimi (127).<\/p>\n [7]<\/a> Taberaniu dhe Hakimi.<\/p>\n