\u00c7\u00ebshtja e gruas dhe familja e burrit t\u00eb saj me kali-min e viteve ende vazhdon t\u00eb jet\u00eb nj\u00eb nd\u00ebr proble-matikat q\u00eb ballafaqohen me t\u00eb bashk\u00ebshort\u00ebt, e sido-mos ata t\u00eb porsamartuarit.<\/p>\n
Ka nga grat\u00eb t\u00eb cilat d\u00ebshirojn\u00eb q\u00eb burrin ta b\u00ebjn\u00eb t\u00eb lumtur dhe tentojn\u00eb q\u00eb t\u2019i afrohen atij duke ia respektuar familjen dhe duke e respektuar dhe e da\u00acshur at\u00eb. Ka nga grat\u00eb q\u00eb sillen mir\u00eb me familjen e burrit dhe n\u00ebp\u00ebrmjet tyre d\u00ebshirojn\u00eb ta fitojn\u00eb k\u00ebna\u00acq\u00ebsin\u00eb e Allahut dhe t\u00eb fitojn\u00eb shp\u00ebrblime dhe p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb mir\u00ebsjellje nuk d\u00ebshirojn\u00eb fal\u00ebnderime e as shp\u00ebrblime nga ana e njer\u00ebzve. Ka nga grat\u00eb q\u00eb para martes\u00ebs s\u00eb tyre n\u00eb vetvete bartin zem\u00ebrim dhe urrejtje ndaj familjes s\u00eb burrit dhe menj\u00ebher\u00eb pas martes\u00ebs fillon ta nxjerr apo ta zbraz\u00eb at\u00eb q\u00eb e ndjen n\u00eb zemr\u00ebn e saj dhe tenton t\u00eb mbisundon n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi. Ka nga grat\u00eb q\u00eb shohin n\u00eb burrat e tyre sjellje t\u00eb keqe ndaj familjar\u00ebve t\u00eb tyre dhe p\u00ebr k\u00ebt\u00eb arsye edhe ato u hakmerren burrave n\u00ebp\u00ebrmjet sjelljeve t\u00eb keqe ndaj familjeve t\u00eb tyre.
\nN\u00eb vazhdim do t\u2019i sjelli shkurtimisht disa k\u00ebshilla t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme, p\u00ebr p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsimin e k\u00ebsaj \u00e7\u00ebshtjeje me q\u00ebllim q\u00eb gruaja t\u00eb b\u00ebhet m\u00eb e dashur n\u00eb familjen e burrit t\u00eb saj:<\/p>\n
1. Burri pasi q\u00eb ta zgjedh gruan e ndershme, e cila e kupton fjal\u00ebn bamir\u00ebsi, duhet t\u2019ia qart\u00ebsoj\u00eb gruas nga fillimi i martes\u00ebs s\u00eb tyre, se k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsia e prind\u00ebrve t\u00eb tij do t\u00eb jet\u00eb \u00e7el\u00ebs i cili e hap\u00eb der\u00ebn e zemr\u00ebs s\u00eb tij, n\u00ebse ajo d\u00ebshiron t\u00eb hyj\u00eb n\u00eb at\u00eb zem\u00ebr. Kjo do ta b\u00ebj\u00eb gruan q\u00eb nga fillimi i martes\u00ebs ta vler\u00ebsoj\u00eb dhe ta nderoj\u00eb familjen e tij.<\/p>\n
2. Gruaja nuk duhet t\u00eb detyrohet t\u00eb veproj\u00eb gj\u00ebra t\u00eb cilat nuk mundet t\u2019i p\u00ebrballoj\u00eb vet\u00ebm e vet\u00ebm t\u00eb k\u00ebnaqet familja, po detyrohet q\u00eb sh\u00ebrbimin e saj ndaj tyre ta b\u00ebj\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb buroj\u00eb nga brend\u00ebsia e saj, pra t\u00eb jet\u00eb sh\u00ebrbim q\u00eb ajo d\u00ebshiron me vet d\u00ebshir\u00eb ta kryen.<\/p>\n
3. Burri duhet t\u00eb nxitoj\u00eb dhe t\u00eb ngutet p\u00ebr n\u00eb p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsimin e raporteve mes tyre, prind\u00ebrve dhe gruas, q\u00eb nga fillimi i martes\u00ebs, duke i lajm\u00ebruar prind\u00ebrit se ajo i do dhe i lavd\u00ebron sikurse i do dhe lavd\u00ebron prind\u00ebrit e saj. Dhe e kund\u00ebrta, t\u00eb shkoj\u00eb ta lajm\u00ebroj\u00eb gruan e tij se familja dhe prind\u00ebrit e tij, t\u00eb gjith\u00eb, e lavd\u00ebrojn\u00eb at\u00eb dhe e respektojn\u00eb dhe \u00e7do her\u00eb g\u00ebzohen me takimin e saj.<\/p>\n
4. Burri n\u00ebse i blen gruas s\u00eb vet di\u00e7ka q\u00eb ky e do ose ajo vet e d\u00ebshiron, mir\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb q\u00eb t\u2019ia qart\u00ebsoj\u00eb se kjo ide ka qen\u00eb e prind\u00ebrve t\u00eb tij, dhe e kund\u00ebrta, n\u00ebse d\u00ebshiron q\u00eb t\u2019i dhuroj\u00eb prind\u00ebrve ndonj\u00eb dhurat\u00eb t\u2019i lajm\u00ebron ata se kjo ka qen\u00eb ide e saj. Kjo lind dashuri dhe afrim mes tyre.<\/p>\n
5. Burri duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb i kujdessh\u00ebm nga bartja e fsheht\u00ebsive t\u00eb sht\u00ebpis\u00eb s\u00eb tyre dhe t\u00eb familjes s\u00eb tij. Shum\u00eb nga grat\u00eb d\u00ebshirojn\u00eb t\u2019i ruajn\u00eb fsheht\u00ebsit\u00eb e tyre, e ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht nga jeta e tyre private, dhe mos t\u2019ua tregojn\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve, k\u00ebshtu q\u00eb n\u00ebse burri i shpalos ato at\u00ebher\u00eb ka mund\u00ebsi q\u00eb ajo t\u00eb ndjen ndaj familjes s\u00eb tij nj\u00eb lloj urrejtje. Shpalosja e fsheht\u00ebsive shkakton armiq\u00ebsi e urrejtje, dhe d\u00ebmi \u00ebsht\u00eb aq i madh sa nuk mundet t\u00eb num\u00ebrohet.<\/p>\n
6. Nuk duhet q\u00eb t\u00eb dyja pal\u00ebt t\u00eb nd\u00ebrhyn n\u00eb pun\u00ebt e tjetr\u00ebs. Burri duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb i kujdessh\u00ebm q\u00eb t\u00eb mos nd\u00ebrhyj\u00eb familja n\u00eb problemet e tij me gruan e vet, me q\u00ebllim q\u00eb t\u00eb mos bie gruaja e tij n\u00eb nj\u00eb pozit\u00eb t\u00eb keqe dhe jo t\u00eb lakmuar para familjareve. Po ashtu duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb i kujdessh\u00ebm mos ta kritikoj\u00eb para prind\u00ebrve apo familjar\u00ebve, p\u00ebr arsye se kjo e b\u00ebn t\u00eb turp\u00ebrohet.<\/p>\n
7. Burri duhet q\u00eb ta respektoj\u00eb dhe nderoj\u00eb familjen e gruas s\u00eb tij, n\u00eb ve\u00e7anti prind\u00ebrit e saj, gj\u00eb q\u00eb e nxit gruan t\u00eb sillet me prind\u00ebrit dhe familjen e tij n\u00eb m\u00eb-nyr\u00eb reciproke.<\/p>\n
8. Burri detyrohet t\u2019i plot\u00ebsoj\u00eb nevojat e sht\u00ebpis\u00eb, f\u00ebmij\u00ebve, gruas dhe familjes s\u00eb tij. Ndodh nganj\u00ebher\u00eb e kund\u00ebrta e saj, ku burri nuk i plot\u00ebson ato dhe shejtani e shfryt\u00ebzon k\u00ebt\u00eb der\u00eb dhe dep\u00ebrton shum\u00eb leht\u00eb deri tek gruaja dhe i shkakton ngushtim n\u00eb gjoks ndaj familjes s\u00eb tij dhe i largon nga ata.<\/p>\n
9. Burri gjithmon\u00eb kur v\u00ebren ngushtim n\u00eb gjoksin e saj ndaj familjes s\u00eb tij, duhet q\u00eb t\u2019ia rikujtoj\u00eb Allahun dhe t\u2019ia rikujtoj\u00eb se, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb respektues i lidhjeve farefisnore ai q\u00eb i shk\u00ebput ato. Te \u00e7do grua n\u00eb bren-d\u00ebsin\u00eb e saj ka hajr dhe mir\u00ebsi dhe ndoshta k\u00ebshilla asaj i b\u00ebn dobi dhe ua fal t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve padrejt\u00ebsit\u00eb dhe b\u00ebhet e m\u00ebshirshme.<\/p>\n
10. Burri duhet ta fal\u00ebnderoj\u00eb gruan e tij me fjal\u00eb fal\u00ebnderimi, si Allahu t\u00eb shp\u00ebrbleft\u00eb, kur e sheh se ajo sillet mir\u00eb ndaj familjar\u00ebve t\u00eb tij. Kjo pa dyshim se ia ngrit moralin dhe ia shton ambiciet dhe e stimulon q\u00eb sa m\u00eb shum\u00eb ta shtoj\u00eb mir\u00ebsin\u00eb ndaj tyre. Po ashtu duhet t\u2019ia b\u00ebj\u00eb me dije se ajo me mir\u00ebsjellje n dhe respektin q\u00eb ia b\u00ebn familjes dhe prind\u00ebrve t\u00eb tij, vet\u00ebm se ia ka pushtuar zemr\u00ebn atij.<\/p>\n
Nga arabishtja: Irfan JAHIU<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
\u00c7\u00ebshtja e gruas dhe familja e burrit t\u00eb saj me kali-min e viteve ende vazhdon t\u00eb jet\u00eb nj\u00eb nd\u00ebr proble-matikat q\u00eb ballafaqohen me t\u00eb bashk\u00ebshort\u00ebt, e sido-mos ata t\u00eb porsamartuarit. Ka nga grat\u00eb t\u00eb cilat d\u00ebshirojn\u00eb q\u00eb burrin ta b\u00ebjn\u00eb t\u00eb lumtur dhe tentojn\u00eb q\u00eb t\u2019i afrohen atij duke ia respektuar familjen dhe duke e […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":4,"featured_media":7812,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5,22,25,67],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-7811","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-c95-ahlak","8":"category-c82-artikuj","9":"category-c94-gruaja-dhe-familja","10":"category-te-zgjedhura"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7811","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/4"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=7811"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7811\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":7813,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7811\/revisions\/7813"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/7812"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=7811"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=7811"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=7811"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}