{"id":878,"date":"2015-06-25T20:37:14","date_gmt":"2015-06-25T20:37:14","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/SHKIWP\/index.php\/2015\/06\/25\/do-t-u-thoni-fjale-te-mira-njerezve\/"},"modified":"2015-06-25T20:37:14","modified_gmt":"2015-06-25T20:37:14","slug":"do-t-u-thoni-fjale-te-mira-njerezve","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/?p=878","title":{"rendered":"\u201cDo t\u2019u thoni njer\u00ebzve fjal\u00eb t\u00eb mira\u201d"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Fal&euml;nderimi i takon Zotit t&euml; bot&euml;ve. Paqja dhe bekimet e Allahut qofshin mbi m&euml; t&euml; nderuarin e t&euml; D&euml;rguarve, Muhamedin, mbi familjen e tij dhe mbi shok&euml;t e tij.<\/p>\n<p>Gjuha &euml;sht&euml; dhunti nga Allahu i Lart&euml;suar. Ai ia m&euml;soi njeriut t&euml; folurit e qart&euml;. V&euml;rtet dhunti shum&euml; e madhe. Nj&euml; organ shum&euml; i vog&euml;l, por veprat e saj jan&euml; t&euml; m&euml;dha. Ajo &euml;sht&euml; pasaport&euml; e brend&euml;sis&euml; s&euml; njeriut, mjet me t&euml; cil&euml;n d&euml;shmon, deklaron, miraton, pranon, mohon, rrefuzon, etj..<\/p>\n<p>  <!--more-->  <\/p>\n<p>Ajo ka mund&euml;sin&euml; t&euml; komunikoj&euml; t&euml; mir&euml;n, por mund ta b&euml;j&euml; edhe t&euml; kund&euml;rt&euml;n. Ajo &euml;sht&euml; peshore q&euml; i peshon burrat dhe vler&euml;son pesh&euml;n e tyre. Njer&euml;zit gjat&euml; koh&euml;rave i shikonin fol&euml;sit dhe e lidhnin bised&euml;n me veprimet e tyre dhe besnik&euml;rin&euml;. Me zgjuarsi dhe men&ccedil;uri, duke u mb&euml;shtetur n&euml; p&euml;rvoj&euml;, e dallonin g&euml;njeshtarin nga i drejti, t&euml; mirin nga i keqi, etj..<br \/>Muslimani ka dy alternativa: t&euml; flas&euml; t&euml; mir&euml;n ose t&euml; hesht&euml;. I D&euml;rguari i Allahut thot&euml;: &ldquo;Kush beson Allahun dhe Dit&euml;n e Gjykimit, le t&euml; flas&euml; mir&euml; ose le t&euml; hesht&euml;.&rdquo;<br \/>Allahu i Lart&euml;suar thot&euml;: &ldquo;Fjala e mir&euml; dhe falja e gabimit jan&euml; m&euml; t&euml; vlefshme se l&euml;mosha q&euml; p&euml;rcillet me fyerje.&rdquo; (Bekare, 263)<br \/>Njeriu duhet q&euml; n&euml; komunikim me njer&euml;zit t&euml; jet&euml; i but&euml;, fytyra e tij t&euml; jet&euml; e qet&euml; me t&euml; mirin dhe t&euml; keqin. Allahu i Lart&euml;suar i tha Musait dhe Harunit &ldquo;Flitini atij fjal&euml; t&euml; buta.&rdquo; (Taha, 44)<br \/>Kjo k&euml;rkohet n&euml; raport me jobesimtarin e mos t&euml; flasim p&euml;r besimtarin. Atij duhet t&rsquo;i thuhet ajo q&euml; &euml;sht&euml; m&euml; e mira, se k&euml;shtu na m&euml;son Islami. Allahu i Lart&euml;suar na udh&euml;zon q&euml; t&euml; themi fjal&euml;n e mir&euml; dhe t&euml; flasim me dashuri me njer&euml;zit, ndryshe do t&rsquo;i humbim ata.<br \/>&ldquo;Do t&rsquo;u thoni fjal&euml; t&euml; mira njer&euml;zve.&rdquo; (Bekare, 263)<\/p>\n<p>T&euml; nderuar besimtar&euml;!<br \/>Edhe n&euml;se ekziston ndonj&euml; mosmarrveshje, mosp&euml;rputhje, armiq&euml;si, grindje, konflikt apo p&euml;rplasje, muslimani duhet t&euml; thot&euml; fjal&euml;n e mire dhe t&euml; b&euml;j&euml; m&euml; t&euml; mir&euml;n p&euml;r menjanimin e tyre.<br \/>Muslimani duhet t&euml; tregoj&euml; kujdes p&euml;r sjelljet e tij, m&euml;nyr&euml;n e t&euml; folurit dhe &ccedil;do gj&euml; q&euml; b&euml;n. N&euml;se nuk e b&euml;n k&euml;t&euml;, nuk mund t&#8217;u k&euml;rkohet t&euml; tjer&euml;ve t&euml; b&euml;jn&euml; at&euml; q&euml; ju nuk e b&euml;ni. Tek Allahu &euml;sht&euml; shum&euml; e urryer t&euml; thuhet ajo q&euml; nuk punohet.<br \/>I D&euml;rguari i Allahut me nj&euml; rast tha: &ldquo;Mos fol ndonj&euml; fjal&euml; q&euml; m&euml; pas duhesh t&euml; k&euml;rkosh falje.&rdquo; (Transmeton Ibni Maxhe)<br \/>Porosia p&euml;r ta ruajtur gjuh&euml;n nuk do t&euml; thot&euml; q&euml; njeriu nuk duhet t&euml; k&euml;rkoj&euml; falje. N&euml;se gabon, patjet&euml;r duhet k&euml;rkuar falje; n&euml;se nuk e b&euml;n k&euml;t&euml;, nuk ka gabuar dy her&euml;. Por q&euml;llimi &euml;sht&euml; q&euml; duhet pasur kujdes n&euml; ruajtjen e gjuh&euml;s prej fjal&euml;ve. Fjal&euml;t q&euml; thuhen a jan&euml; t&euml; dobishme apo heshtja &euml;sht&euml; m&euml; e mir&euml;? T&euml; gjitha k&euml;to duhet t&euml; analizohen dhe t&euml; mendohen.<\/p>\n<p>Ib&euml;n Mesudi ka th&euml;n&euml;: &ldquo;Pasha Allahun, q&euml; nuk ka Zot tjet&euml;r ve&ccedil; Tij mbi k&euml;t&euml; tok&euml;, asgj&euml; si gjuha nuk e meriton burgimin e gjat&euml;.&rdquo;<br \/>Fudajli ka th&euml;n&euml;: &ldquo;Nuk ka haxh, as xhihad, e as p&euml;rgatitje p&euml;r xhihad m&euml; t&euml; fort&euml; e t&euml; v&euml;shtir&euml; se ruajtja e gjuh&euml;s&hellip;&rdquo;<br \/>Omer ib&euml;n Abdul Azizi mbajti nj&euml; hytbe e cila i preku zemrat e njer&euml;zve dhe ata filluan t&euml; qajn&euml;. Omeri e nd&euml;rpreu hytben dhe njer&euml;zit than&euml;: &ldquo;Pse nuk e vazhdove fjalimin p&euml;r t&euml; cilin shpresojm&euml; se do t&euml; na kishte b&euml;r&euml; dobi?&rdquo; Omeri tha: &ldquo;Fjala &euml;sht&euml; sprov&euml;. Vepra &euml;sht&euml; m&euml; e mir&euml; p&euml;r besimtarin se fjala.&rdquo;<br \/>Ubejdullah ib&euml;n Ebi Xhaferi ka th&euml;n&euml;: &ldquo;N&euml;se njeriu n&euml; nj&euml; tubim flet dhe i p&euml;lqen fjala q&euml; thot&euml;, le t&euml; hesht&euml;. At&euml;her&euml; kur heshtja i p&euml;lqen, le t&euml; flas&euml;.&rdquo;<br \/>Imam Shafiu, Allahu e m&euml;shiroft&euml;, tha: &#8220;Kur dikush d&euml;shiron t&euml; flas&euml;, at&euml;her&euml; &euml;sht&euml; detyr&euml; e tij t&euml; mendoj&euml; para se t&euml; flas&euml;. N&euml;se ka di&ccedil;ka me vler&euml; n&euml; at&euml; q&euml; ka p&euml;r t&euml; th&euml;n&euml;, at&euml;her&euml; mund t&euml; flas&euml;; n&euml;se ka dyshim rreth asaj, at&euml;her&euml; nuk duhet t&euml; flas&euml; derisa ta sqaroj&euml; dyshimin e tij.&#8221;<br \/>Ebu Ali Fudejl ibn Ijjadi tha: &#8220;Kush i p&euml;rkufizon fjal&euml;t e tij t&euml; jen&euml; n&euml; p&euml;rputhje me veprat e tij, do ta zvog&euml;loj&euml; t&euml; folur&euml;n e tij n&euml; at&euml; q&euml; nuk i intereson.&#8221;<br \/>Imam Shafiu i tha nx&euml;nsit t&euml; tij, Rebiut: &#8220;O Rebi&#8217;i! Mos fol p&euml;r gj&euml;rat q&euml; nuk t&euml; interesojn&euml;, sepse me t&euml; v&euml;rtet&euml; &ccedil;do her&euml; q&euml; flet nj&euml; fjal&euml;, ajo (fjala) t&euml; kontrollon ty e ti nuk ke kontroll mbi t&euml;.&#8221;<br \/>T&euml; tjer&euml; (dijetar&euml;) kan&euml; th&euml;n&euml;: &#8220;Shembulli i gjuh&euml;s &euml;sht&euml; si i nj&euml; kafsh&euml; e eg&euml;r. N&euml;se nuk e fut n&euml; kafaz, do t&euml; shkoj&euml; kundra teje.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>T&euml; men&ccedil;urit po ashtu na dhuruan edhe k&euml;to porosi:<br \/>&#8211; Zgjidhi fjal&euml;t para se t&rsquo;i thuash, sepse fjala duhet t&euml; piqet si pema.<br \/>&#8211; Fjala e mir&euml; &euml;sht&euml; pasaport&euml; p&euml;r arritje te &ccedil;do zem&euml;r.<br \/>&#8211; M&euml; mir&euml; &euml;sht&euml; t&euml; rr&euml;shqas&euml; k&euml;mba sesa gjuha.<br \/>&#8211; Qeni l&euml;viz bishtin, nd&euml;rsa dyfytyr&euml;shi gjuh&euml;n.<br \/>&#8211; Mos polemizo me oratorin as me budallan&euml;, pasi oratori do t&euml; t&euml; mund&euml; me fjal&euml;, budallai t&euml; ofendon.<br \/>&#8211; N&euml;se flet me ngut, do t&euml; thuash ndonj&euml; fjal&euml; q&euml; do t&euml; pendohesh sa t&euml; jesh gjall&euml;.<br \/>&#8211; Thuaje fjal&euml;n e mir&euml;, se zemr&euml;n nuk ta shesh askush.<\/p>\n<p>Allahu im, m&euml; jep sinqeritet n&euml; fjal&euml; dhe vepra!<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Ulvi Fejzullahu<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Fal&euml;nderimi i takon Zotit t&euml; bot&euml;ve. Paqja dhe bekimet e Allahut qofshin mbi m&euml; t&euml; nderuarin e t&euml; D&euml;rguarve, Muhamedin, mbi familjen e tij dhe mbi shok&euml;t e tij. Gjuha &euml;sht&euml; dhunti nga Allahu i Lart&euml;suar. Ai ia m&euml;soi njeriut t&euml; folurit e qart&euml;. V&euml;rtet dhunti shum&euml; e madhe. Nj&euml; organ shum&euml; i vog&euml;l, por [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[58],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-878","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","6":"category-c115-hutbet"},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/878","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=878"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/878\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=878"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=878"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/shkollaislame.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=878"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}